I'm in a herion he'll I feel so alone my husband is addicted to herion and I don't know what to do I have nothing left I own my own business and I was doing well his habit cost any where $3000 to $6000 a month I've tried everything he went to rehab last only 6 hours we moved to an other state he left me in 6 days when we have money he takes every dollar from me and our three children he done methadone and lied for 8 months he was on methadone no he was on 20 30 bags he sniffs and mixes with zanax I left him over n over again he stole all my jewelry all our money and when there is.no money he gets credit from drug dealers that I have to pay he doesn't work I'm so lost Every one tells me stay loyal and help.he doesn't want to.be like.this only when he is.high he tells.me.that he loves me and would do anything for.me.and he's gonna.get clean. but never does I'm in love him.and it hurts so much to love some one to forgive some.one who is only in love with his.high he is 24 he has been getting high since 15 and I've been with him since I was 15 and all I hear is you have to be strong and you can't give up but this battle.is taking a toll on me every other weak he when I can't take it anymore and say something he loses it and takes any money he can find and tells me he gonna.go kill him self and h doesn't just gets really high and goes to his mom to stay until he runs out of money then comes back to me my question is how.do you stop loving and forgive a.herion addict he makes me a monster and tells me I'm the reason he's on drugs I'm so ashamed and embarrassed we have no more friends I can't help but to feel.death is the only way out unless my heart stops loving him nothing he does surprise me.Any more hope.I.had for him any type of way that you can get clean he has failed so I'm here cause I don't want to be the reason he dies even thow I'm feeding his addiction. and killing him I'm a shame.to admit to my self that this man who lives with me that steals. and lies I will forgive him love him and be with him and cry over him every single.day cause I lost the love he use to give me maybe I'm selfish that's what he tells me I don't know.if. you do please tell me
hi Nadia, you have to start protecting yourself- this guy is dragging you under- the drugs come before everyone and everything in an addicts life- i am a recovering alcoholic and drug addict- its not about whether he loves you or not- its not even a consideration when we are chasing our drug of choice- you cannot help him- not until he wants to be helped- only he can decide he wants to quit - if he continues to use, he will suck the life out of you physically, financially, spiritually and mentally -
you gotta get out of the relationship- whether he sinks or swims is not down to you- it may be the wake up call he needs or he may go on using drugs- this is not your responsibility - he is responsible for his own actions - addiction is not an excuse for this behaviour- you do not have a choice Nadia, if you want your life back- otherwise his addiction will KILL you both- there is an organisation called Narcotics Anonymous for drug addicts they also have a group called Narcotics Anon for the familly and loved ones of drug addicts, you should make contact with them- there you will find people who are going through similar experiences- you will get alot of help and advice there Nadia-
You have to put yourself first, the fact is while he is using drugs you will come second to the drugs- sorry but that is how we addicts think- it will not change until HE decides to change, do you want to put your life on hold and exist in this addiction fuelled hell while he decides when he is ready/if ever to quit? Ithink you know the answer to that already- i wish you all the best in getting this sorted Nadia-
you gotta get out of the relationship- whether he sinks or swims is not down to you- it may be the wake up call he needs or he may go on using drugs- this is not your responsibility - he is responsible for his own actions - addiction is not an excuse for this behaviour- you do not have a choice Nadia, if you want your life back- otherwise his addiction will KILL you both- there is an organisation called Narcotics Anonymous for drug addicts they also have a group called Narcotics Anon for the familly and loved ones of drug addicts, you should make contact with them- there you will find people who are going through similar experiences- you will get alot of help and advice there Nadia-
You have to put yourself first, the fact is while he is using drugs you will come second to the drugs- sorry but that is how we addicts think- it will not change until HE decides to change, do you want to put your life on hold and exist in this addiction fuelled hell while he decides when he is ready/if ever to quit? Ithink you know the answer to that already- i wish you all the best in getting this sorted Nadia-
I am really sorry to hear your story.
I feel for you and understand your pain.
I am not sure why you are putting up with this situation.
I too have suffered for many years because of a sibbling who is an addict and lives with us.
I have learned not ot care for him anymore. Because of all the pain that ha has caused us.
He is very selfish and nothing matters to him but drugs.
I too have lost a few friends because for the past almost 4 years I have nothing to share but horror stories about the drugs.
Why are you ashamed? You are not responsible for his addiction.
I think that staying with an addict for a long time messes us up mentally.
You should not isolate yourself and go to support groups for family of addicts and meet other people who are in the same position as you are.
You are not alone. As you can see on this board many people are in this situation.
You might also want to look into coodependency and research that.
Most of us who deal with addicts are coodependent.
You are wasting your life and you have to think about this.
This battle is not worth it.
No one can make you stop loving an addict. You can stop love him from a distance but you can't save him.
Please think of yourself and your children.
There is nothing you can do for that person. You have done enough.
If you can maybe find a therapist who can help you go through this.
It is hard to do this by yourself with no support.
It is not enough to seek advice on this message board.
I wish you all the best.
I feel for you and understand your pain.
I am not sure why you are putting up with this situation.
I too have suffered for many years because of a sibbling who is an addict and lives with us.
I have learned not ot care for him anymore. Because of all the pain that ha has caused us.
He is very selfish and nothing matters to him but drugs.
I too have lost a few friends because for the past almost 4 years I have nothing to share but horror stories about the drugs.
Why are you ashamed? You are not responsible for his addiction.
I think that staying with an addict for a long time messes us up mentally.
You should not isolate yourself and go to support groups for family of addicts and meet other people who are in the same position as you are.
You are not alone. As you can see on this board many people are in this situation.
You might also want to look into coodependency and research that.
Most of us who deal with addicts are coodependent.
You are wasting your life and you have to think about this.
This battle is not worth it.
No one can make you stop loving an addict. You can stop love him from a distance but you can't save him.
Please think of yourself and your children.
There is nothing you can do for that person. You have done enough.
If you can maybe find a therapist who can help you go through this.
It is hard to do this by yourself with no support.
It is not enough to seek advice on this message board.
I wish you all the best.
