Hi my friends
So how was everyones Holiday. I hope everyone spent time with some loved ones. I had a great day, went to a family party and just got home. I was very happy. The only bad part of today was a relative, who i dont see very pften, ran into my exgirfriend at a show. She said hows --------- Oh we broke up. So that kind of hit me hard. Im trying to get over her, im almost there. It would be nice if God sent a pretty blonde into my life lol
But i cant complain ive come far in the past 10 days
Bless
Way to go! It is always good to hear people finding success in recovery.
I am afraid that as far as I am concerned you are on your own about wanting to find someone. I just do not have it in be to be with someone right now. I don't even know who I am yet and I am just learning to love and accept myself so i can't see that I am ready to show love to another, but than again that is just my outlook.
Perhpaps I will meet someone one day (although I guess I better finalize my divorce first) if it is God's will.
God bless.
I am afraid that as far as I am concerned you are on your own about wanting to find someone. I just do not have it in be to be with someone right now. I don't even know who I am yet and I am just learning to love and accept myself so i can't see that I am ready to show love to another, but than again that is just my outlook.
Perhpaps I will meet someone one day (although I guess I better finalize my divorce first) if it is God's will.
God bless.
Sorry Wolf, thats hard, divorce. I dated my ex 4 years! I was about to buy a ring. Well better to know now then later I suppose. Yes we will leave it in Gods hands/ Its the first holiday w/o her. But im surviving!
Bless
Bless
Hi there,
You maybe ABLE to attract a tall beautiful blonde right now, but it is wise to wait till you have healed and love yourself more. It is then that you will attract the RIGHT beautiful blonde....
.sort of like the old saying " I wouldnt join any club that would have ME as a member...
When this expereince is further behind you and you have learned why you have wanted to numb your feelings with pills etc...you will be in a better postion to love and be loved in a realtionship with a heart and mind that are sincere and clear, not clouded or distorted from the affects of your DOC.
This experience doesnt have to cripple you or brand you for life, it can make you an even better person, an even greater friend, and all the more attractive to the right person, who will love you for who you are and all you have conquered and endured in your life thus far.
Hugs,
Ali
You maybe ABLE to attract a tall beautiful blonde right now, but it is wise to wait till you have healed and love yourself more. It is then that you will attract the RIGHT beautiful blonde....
.sort of like the old saying " I wouldnt join any club that would have ME as a member...
When this expereince is further behind you and you have learned why you have wanted to numb your feelings with pills etc...you will be in a better postion to love and be loved in a realtionship with a heart and mind that are sincere and clear, not clouded or distorted from the affects of your DOC.
This experience doesnt have to cripple you or brand you for life, it can make you an even better person, an even greater friend, and all the more attractive to the right person, who will love you for who you are and all you have conquered and endured in your life thus far.
Hugs,
Ali
That was nice Alicap Thank you. I know i have to work on myself. Its a given, but i can not help but be a little lonely. Grad school keeps me busy, I just joined the gym, maybe I will just do these positive things for a while then who knows, maybe I will get lucky again. Its just weird, you think you are going to marry someone then they tell you they dont love you anymore
Yuck
Yuck
Dear Reddog,
Women can be pretty cruel sometimes huh? Try not to think too much about her saying that...was it said in the midst of an argument???If this was true love and she was on the way to the alter with you, chances are she didnt just suddenly think..I dont love him anymore....could it have been your addiction that shes not in love with? Does she believe that you have changed with your DOC??? These things can take time...Women fall in love and claw and scratch their way out...very seldom do they just "FALL OUT of love"
If she is the right woman, give her time, earn back her trust and live a life YOU can be proud of. If she is the right woman, she will see the new and improved you and come back into your life. Is it possible that "God" has another plan for you??? Maybe theres someone else you are supposed to meet?(that didnt mean me...im happily married LOLOL) Dont give up on a future with her or turn your back to the possibility of meeting someone else when you're ready.
True love will always prevail.
Hugs,
Ali
Women can be pretty cruel sometimes huh? Try not to think too much about her saying that...was it said in the midst of an argument???If this was true love and she was on the way to the alter with you, chances are she didnt just suddenly think..I dont love him anymore....could it have been your addiction that shes not in love with? Does she believe that you have changed with your DOC??? These things can take time...Women fall in love and claw and scratch their way out...very seldom do they just "FALL OUT of love"
If she is the right woman, give her time, earn back her trust and live a life YOU can be proud of. If she is the right woman, she will see the new and improved you and come back into your life. Is it possible that "God" has another plan for you??? Maybe theres someone else you are supposed to meet?(that didnt mean me...im happily married LOLOL) Dont give up on a future with her or turn your back to the possibility of meeting someone else when you're ready.
True love will always prevail.
Hugs,
Ali
Ali
I wasnt using while we were dating. I relapsed when she BROKE my heart. Her parents were very very wealthy and put a lot of stress on me, how much do you make, are u going to grad school , etc etc. So im sure that had an influence. She said we were not compatible, after 4 years, and basically ended it this summer. Im trying to get over it, good days and bad.
I wasnt using while we were dating. I relapsed when she BROKE my heart. Her parents were very very wealthy and put a lot of stress on me, how much do you make, are u going to grad school , etc etc. So im sure that had an influence. She said we were not compatible, after 4 years, and basically ended it this summer. Im trying to get over it, good days and bad.
Awww Reddog,
Im so sorry. You are worthy of love. Worthy of having someone wonderful in your life that loves you REGARDLESS of what kind of money you make, will make or what kind of car you drive.etc... All that material stuff is so unimportant, too bad her parents AND her dont get that.
I know SO many wealthy men whom are married and have nothing to offer their wives, except for material goods, their wives are miserable and lonely and they spend their days shopping, trying to fill the void in their lives, in their hearts.
You will find the right woman who loves all of you, your past; your present and your future, and whom will want to share her life with you regardless of all those stupid material trappings. They just dont matter. Being with someone with a good heart and dignity does.
Hugs,
Ali
Im so sorry. You are worthy of love. Worthy of having someone wonderful in your life that loves you REGARDLESS of what kind of money you make, will make or what kind of car you drive.etc... All that material stuff is so unimportant, too bad her parents AND her dont get that.
I know SO many wealthy men whom are married and have nothing to offer their wives, except for material goods, their wives are miserable and lonely and they spend their days shopping, trying to fill the void in their lives, in their hearts.
You will find the right woman who loves all of you, your past; your present and your future, and whom will want to share her life with you regardless of all those stupid material trappings. They just dont matter. Being with someone with a good heart and dignity does.
Hugs,
Ali
Thank you ALi. You are very kind to me and understanding. Its nice. Yes the parents were aweful. Im actually glad I dont have to see them anymore!
But. that girl broke my heart soooo bad. Im getting over it day by day. Im going to talk to my counselor about this issue i suppose. Im just happy to be off the Vics
Very happy
But. that girl broke my heart soooo bad. Im getting over it day by day. Im going to talk to my counselor about this issue i suppose. Im just happy to be off the Vics
Very happy
DearReddog,
Im happy for you too.....the best "Revenge" for a broken heart is a life well lived...live your life so well that she'll be sorry she passed on you ( LOL)
Go play the song " Look at me now" dance around the living room like a big goof. Be happy. Your off the vics, and you will live to love again!!!
Big Bear Hug,
Ali
Im happy for you too.....the best "Revenge" for a broken heart is a life well lived...live your life so well that she'll be sorry she passed on you ( LOL)
Go play the song " Look at me now" dance around the living room like a big goof. Be happy. Your off the vics, and you will live to love again!!!
Big Bear Hug,
Ali
I can relate to the pressures your significant others and their parents can put on you. Recently I moved back to Calgary, away from my son, because my wifes parents found out we were trying to reconcile and since they hate me so much they told her to kick me out or they would cut her off financially. So at 11 PM one night she handed me my coat while her parents stood there mocking me, telling me how worthless I was, that I had ruined their daughters life and how they wished I would just die.
Kind of hard not to have a resentment against them and their daughter however I have chosen to show them their mistake by being strong, working hard at recovery and when I come back to be in my sons life it will be on my terms, not theirs.
Stay strong brother. I believe that the road to recovery has many miracles to offer.
God bless.
Kind of hard not to have a resentment against them and their daughter however I have chosen to show them their mistake by being strong, working hard at recovery and when I come back to be in my sons life it will be on my terms, not theirs.
Stay strong brother. I believe that the road to recovery has many miracles to offer.
God bless.
Reddog, it is good to see you up and about. Happy Thanksgiving to you , my friend. Sorry it is a little late in the evening. We had a great Thanksgiving in my home today. Everyone stuffed themselves until they were about to pop and then we all fell asleep. What a great nap.
I must say, I agree with Ali when it comes to the blonde chickie. You need to give yourself some time to heal and then when the timing is right, the perfect woman will waltz into your life. Concentrate on yourself and your school work and your job and all of the other pieces of the puzzle will fall into place.
Take Care My Friend.
I must say, I agree with Ali when it comes to the blonde chickie. You need to give yourself some time to heal and then when the timing is right, the perfect woman will waltz into your life. Concentrate on yourself and your school work and your job and all of the other pieces of the puzzle will fall into place.
Take Care My Friend.
