we dated for three years and during that time I found a meth pipe in his bathroom he claimed it was a friends whom he was helping to get off meth and he confiscated the pipe and was going to get rid of it and just forgot. I believed him he's very convincing. I found out I was pregnant. We got a place together and 6 months ago right after I had our daughter I found another meth pipe. He claimed it was a friend (different friend) he was helping to get off meth and promised to dispose of it for him because his friend wasn't strong enough to do it. Of course this being the second time I didn't believe him we separated and boyfriend got 'saved' started reading bible talked about God constantly and convinced me he had changed. Still didn't admit to either of the pipes being his. Anyway I love him we have a child together so I went back and we recently got married. Two months into the marriage after a substantial amount of money came up missing I find a significant crystal and a pipe. I confronted him and since there was no friend to blame he did admit it was his. Said he was doing it to continue to work every day and make more money for our family. Said his friend from work gave him the meth and the pipe. I don't believe anyone would give that amout of drugs to anyone. After research I would say he spent at least 4-500 on it. Said he only did it for me and the kids. He took the pipe and stash and said he threw it out the window. The next day I was searching the house and found two pipes wrapped in the same cloth as the pipe he allegedly threw out the window. Now I'm finding out while we dated he lied about having cancer. I'm guessing he has been a maintenance user for some years now which explains his erratic behavior. He said he will never do it again and it was an isolated event. Now everything within me tells me he has a problem even tho he is denying it and lying to cover it up. He's been clean for 3 weeks from what I can tell. His family doesn't believe he has a problem and is futher enabling his behavior. My question is first of all can someone just put it down and quit after years of using. I feel like if he was ready to quit for good he would be honest and admit he has a problem. He wouldn't keep lying to cover his addiction. I am finding it very difficult to stay with him and live a marriage based on lies. I feel like a fool and like I've been manipulated
And lied to time and time again. I have other children in the house. I feel like if I stay and he does it again I am at risk of losing them. I hate meth. And what it does to people and families. I'm sad I'm angry. I'm
Confused. He is very manipulative and tries to convince me everyday of his lies.
my advice to you is get out! especially if the kids are young and can adapt to new surroundings without him. I'm hoping you have family near and a job to support yourself. I wasted twenty four years of my life tryimg everything to get my husband away from it. lieing to his friends that he wasnt home, finding the stuff and throwing it away. seperating checking accounts. taking him off accounts. Hiding credit cards! , bitching at him, pleading with him, threatening to take kids(he said he would kill me if i took the kids away) really they are the only thing that keeps him halfway normal. we have tried keeping him engaged with family events, school(he happens to always be sick or have to work when school events are). The lies won't stop, and the aggressive behavior will get worse. whats sad is ; its almost better when they are on it because when he can't get it ,he is so mean. and tries to sleep it away for days, waking up only to pee or eat everything in the kitchen .He will pour sugar on everything. Rice and sugar. He will put sugar on cereal that is already filled with sugar like fruity pebbles. he. screams at the kids to be quiet,and everyone has to tip toe around not to "wake the monster" then his phone will ring and after blowing us off for days he is magically up and out the door.! Do not try and build a family around him thinking a new baby to support will make him realize being a dad is better. they don't see that. You will just fight about money and the lack of it . they have no concious or morals. They become very sexual and will pressure you or start looking at porn or start cheating with someone who is more "fun" and not so stiff and serious. Unfortunately I have never met a person on meth with a great life.It has ruined mine and i ve never touched the crap. RUN
