My husband has been in and out of rehab but that has not worked with him. He was clean for almost a year but, here recently he has messed up again. He steals from us, his parents, my parents, and here recently we think he stole from my work. We have two kids and I just don't know what to do.
"He steals from us, his parents, my parents, and here recently we think he stole from my work. We have two kids and I just don't know what to do."
Leave him Amanda, i know it won't be easy but if you stay with him he will just think he can keep doing what he is doing and it is alright, once he hits bottom (losing his family and possibly his job) he might realize his mistakes and seek professional help for good and recourt you from a distance, but from what you are saying he is in a path of self destruction, and who knows you maybe the source(in his mind anyways) it's tough love Amanda and probably easier said than done. Goodluck
Leave him Amanda, i know it won't be easy but if you stay with him he will just think he can keep doing what he is doing and it is alright, once he hits bottom (losing his family and possibly his job) he might realize his mistakes and seek professional help for good and recourt you from a distance, but from what you are saying he is in a path of self destruction, and who knows you maybe the source(in his mind anyways) it's tough love Amanda and probably easier said than done. Goodluck
as much as it pains me to say, I agree to some extent to the guest post. I am a recovering addict and although my husband leaving me was not why I got clean, the hope of reconsile (at the time) was an incentive because of my daughter to force me to get serious and honest. (i have been clean for 4 years and my ex and I are best friends.)
Let me say a word about the kids... I am a child of an alcoholic and I wonder how much of my tendencies are linked to living in that environment? Make a decision based on what you and your children need and let him have his issues and recovery on his door step... You cant do it for him and if you have tried to walk this recovery road with him before then you have tried. Maybe a separation to close the stealing door at least... tough love really is the kindest thing you can do... Once he makes the effort again to stay clean then you can take a supportive not enabling role ... there is a fine line. I have been to some degree where your husband is so... I can see both sides...
Good luck ....teresa
Let me say a word about the kids... I am a child of an alcoholic and I wonder how much of my tendencies are linked to living in that environment? Make a decision based on what you and your children need and let him have his issues and recovery on his door step... You cant do it for him and if you have tried to walk this recovery road with him before then you have tried. Maybe a separation to close the stealing door at least... tough love really is the kindest thing you can do... Once he makes the effort again to stay clean then you can take a supportive not enabling role ... there is a fine line. I have been to some degree where your husband is so... I can see both sides...
Good luck ....teresa