today...i am tired...
of my sister lying
of my sister sneaking away at night to a bar
of covering for my sister
of her thinking it is ok to attend AA meetings and not stay on the straight and narrow.
of crying
of dying...i have cancer and yet my sister does not care and continues to put the family in jeopardy
of taking care of my parents by myself
...i am just tired....
can anyone tell me how to get through the day....
Sandy
Gidday Sandy
Stop covering for your sister as it sounds like she will do what she does anyway and hopefully she will start to listen at the AA meetings and depending on how ill you are with cancer and what stage it is at you could go to an Alanon meeting to learn how not to enable your sisters drinking by covering for her, also you must be able to get some home hospice help for either yourself or your parents.
Start priortising as you come first then your parents and the rest can sort them selves out. Are there things in place for your parents for the future as you say you are dying? It is so hard to give ideas or answer what is unknown, so i hope that for the rest of time you concentrate on easing your pain and you cannot afford to give all your energy away to anyone that does not warrant it.
Light and love zac
Stop covering for your sister as it sounds like she will do what she does anyway and hopefully she will start to listen at the AA meetings and depending on how ill you are with cancer and what stage it is at you could go to an Alanon meeting to learn how not to enable your sisters drinking by covering for her, also you must be able to get some home hospice help for either yourself or your parents.
Start priortising as you come first then your parents and the rest can sort them selves out. Are there things in place for your parents for the future as you say you are dying? It is so hard to give ideas or answer what is unknown, so i hope that for the rest of time you concentrate on easing your pain and you cannot afford to give all your energy away to anyone that does not warrant it.
Light and love zac
zac-
i hope i am doing this right...
you know..i have been putting into place all the "proper things" for me and my passing...and until i read your post..i didn't realize that i had forgotten my parents, as they have nothing in place for themselves....thaks for the advice on that and on the 'meetings'
sandra
i hope i am doing this right...
you know..i have been putting into place all the "proper things" for me and my passing...and until i read your post..i didn't realize that i had forgotten my parents, as they have nothing in place for themselves....thaks for the advice on that and on the 'meetings'
sandra
Welcome Cat...not until everyone was done with me and my drinking and using was I done with my drinking and using. I've posted before it was just me and my Higher Power when I finally had that "moment of clarity". I'm always reminded I need to take care of myself and my recovery first and foremost and then the rest will fall into place.
