I feel guilty for being so stressed out for the past month. I feel guilty for saying time and time again that I'll be so happy when Christmas is over. I feel guilty because I have so much to be thankful for but have instead let myself feel sorry for myself. There are so many addicts out there that have lost there family, home, job, etc. to there disease. I didn't. For some reason God had mercy on me. I don't deserve it but that's the amazing thing about God He blesses us even when we don't deserve it. My life is not perfect, nobodys is. But I have a home, a family, food, and many other things I don't deserve. Tonight I will pray for all of you. Even though I don't know everybodys individual situation, God does and He will know who I am praying for. I especially will pray for those who are alone or homeless or hungry or whatever there situation may be that they are having a particularly rough time on Christmas. Peace and love to all.
Shelly
yes...............how true.............
i will join on this prayer for the people that are struggling.............
amen
but i am glad that you come here and share your struggles and feelings cause we can pray for you..........and its nice to have each other to lean on........
i share here myself and it helps........
there are so many wonderful posters here..........
we are truely blessed to have one another............
thumper
i will join on this prayer for the people that are struggling.............
amen
but i am glad that you come here and share your struggles and feelings cause we can pray for you..........and its nice to have each other to lean on........
i share here myself and it helps........
there are so many wonderful posters here..........
we are truely blessed to have one another............
thumper
Shelly, heroin addict here......I post over there......your guilt doesn't go unrecognized......your a compassionate person it seems.
God doesn't want you filled with guilt......I think not anyway......I learned we have to drop that guilt like a sack of cement......it will weigh you down, and make you more stressed.
I got all your people in my prayers now too.....enjoy your Holiday.......Blessed you are......because you deserve to be.
God doesn't want you filled with guilt......I think not anyway......I learned we have to drop that guilt like a sack of cement......it will weigh you down, and make you more stressed.
I got all your people in my prayers now too.....enjoy your Holiday.......Blessed you are......because you deserve to be.
Hey Shelly.Merry Christmas Eve.
Guilt and Shame.
*The guilty person says,"I feel guilty for something I have done."
*The shame-filled person says,"I feel shame for what I am."
Why is the distinction so important?Because people can apologize,make restitution,make ammends,and ask forgiveness for what they have done.
They can do pathetically little about what they are
Guilt can lead to corrective action.Shame leads to resignation and despair.
Maybe a good solution for you today is to take some small action to stop the tapes from playing.Give an extra dollar to the waitress,smile at the lady at the cleaners and let her know how much you have appreciated the help over the year,let someone out in front of you that's been waiting in traffic,give the poor vet standing underneath the overpass some cookies,etc.
My point is that it doesn't have to be some grandiose gesture simply to ameliorate the ego.
It's the little things that no one sees.
I'm solo this Christmas and it's easy to get into a negative place.I'm keeping myself occupied and that seems to be working.I feel pretty good.
I may be solo but I'm never alone.I can call friends etc.Being alone is usually a choice,but not always.
Hope you have a great Christmas.
Guilt and Shame.
*The guilty person says,"I feel guilty for something I have done."
*The shame-filled person says,"I feel shame for what I am."
Why is the distinction so important?Because people can apologize,make restitution,make ammends,and ask forgiveness for what they have done.
They can do pathetically little about what they are
Guilt can lead to corrective action.Shame leads to resignation and despair.
Maybe a good solution for you today is to take some small action to stop the tapes from playing.Give an extra dollar to the waitress,smile at the lady at the cleaners and let her know how much you have appreciated the help over the year,let someone out in front of you that's been waiting in traffic,give the poor vet standing underneath the overpass some cookies,etc.
My point is that it doesn't have to be some grandiose gesture simply to ameliorate the ego.
It's the little things that no one sees.
I'm solo this Christmas and it's easy to get into a negative place.I'm keeping myself occupied and that seems to be working.I feel pretty good.
I may be solo but I'm never alone.I can call friends etc.Being alone is usually a choice,but not always.
Hope you have a great Christmas.
Shelly
Im one of those who Christmas has always been a struggle.Too many bad memories I guess.BUT Im learning to let go & I will join you in a prayer for all of those who need so much....
Try & have a nice Christmas....
molly
Im one of those who Christmas has always been a struggle.Too many bad memories I guess.BUT Im learning to let go & I will join you in a prayer for all of those who need so much....
Try & have a nice Christmas....
molly
Joining you as well. I spent the better part of December feeling sorry for myself. Instead of focusing on what I do have I focused on what I do not. God bless those who still suffer from this desiese. This morning as I woke up I realized I am grateful that I am not spending this day in search of my DOC. I am not spending the last of my money on drugs, not on presents for my kids or paying the heat bill. I am grateful that I have a soft bed and warm blanket. I am grateful that I have a HP to turn to. I am grateful that I have my friends on here and in real life. I may be alone on Christmas but my kids will come back and I will be here fully with presents hugs and love. Wich is something I didn't have not to long ago. Bless everyone especially those who are still suffering.
Love,
Jane
Love,
Jane
It's human nature to feel guilt and pity for ourselves. Addicts just seem to do it more than others. Focus on the good Shelly. You are right where you're suppose to be.
Merry Christmas....
Merry Christmas....
Shelly you wrote
"But I have a home, a family, food, and many other things I don't deserve."
Why do you feel you do not deserve this?
Happy Holiday
Jeff
"But I have a home, a family, food, and many other things I don't deserve."
Why do you feel you do not deserve this?
Happy Holiday
Jeff
I guess I didn't make my point very clear. I feel very blessed to have my family, my home, warm clothes and food, and above all I have the love and mercy of God. What I meant about having many other things I don't deserve I meant all the materialistic stuff like a big screen TV, a nice car, several computers, etc. I mean, there are people out there who are homeless and hungry and I got aggravated the other day because my daughter was trying to plug her nintendo in the TV and screwed up the TV. And my thought was, how fast can we get the TV fixed? I know it's easy to feel idealistic and guilty about materialistic things at this time of year. I need to try to have the same attitude year round and get my priorities in order. Merry Christmas!
Shelly
Shelly
