HI' brians daughter cassy wanted to come and spend a couple of nights with us and her mom thought it was a good idea, it was ok at first but then the questions came why this' and why that' the what if's and how come's she wanted me to answer her all i could tell her is how much he loved her and hold her while she cried she realy let it out so i called her mom and she said she glad she finely let it out she had not let out here feelings at home by crying like that' they told her to cry and let it out but she wouldnt all she kept saying was she hated him for leaving her, but she also has been haveing trouble sleeping so her mom has her on sleeping pills i can see maybe the first night or two but just because her mom cant deal with her staying up at night and instead of giving her answers to her question keep giving her a sleeping pill every night i know they are from there doc for cassey but i dont think he intended for her to give her one every night she sent them with her here i dont know if i did the right thing here but i did not give them to her and when it was bed time cassey asked about them i just told her we would talk and i would read to her well she was in bed and i would give them to her later i did not' and all it took was 15 min and she fell a sleep with out thouse pills the last thing this child needs is to become deppending on sleeping pills I HOPE IAM DOING THE RIGHT THING i will tell her mom in the morning about it in my opinion she does not need them at least not every night i know her mom thinks she is helping her but i dont want this child on the path of thinking a pill bottle is the answer to her problums in life i may have over steped but if she could fall asleep with out them then why on earth give them to her PLEASE TELL ME IT WAS THE RIGHT THING TO DO i will see how it goes tomorrow night . HUGS LITTLE H.
Hi Little H
I dont know how old Casey is - but at any age becoming dependent on sleeping pills is only trouble and tough to get off of. Maybe her poor mom is going through such grief right now that she doesnt realize what shes doing to her daughter by giving her sleeping pills. I'm glad you took the time out to sit with her, talk to her and read to her. I'm sure she needed this with all she is going through. I know you are grieving too. This is just like you to forget about yourself and take care of someone else. You did the right thing kiddo.........................Thats why we all love you.
Have a great day and best wishes to you and to Casey.
Love,
Marie
I dont know how old Casey is - but at any age becoming dependent on sleeping pills is only trouble and tough to get off of. Maybe her poor mom is going through such grief right now that she doesnt realize what shes doing to her daughter by giving her sleeping pills. I'm glad you took the time out to sit with her, talk to her and read to her. I'm sure she needed this with all she is going through. I know you are grieving too. This is just like you to forget about yourself and take care of someone else. You did the right thing kiddo.........................Thats why we all love you.
Have a great day and best wishes to you and to Casey.
Love,
Marie
H i think you have done the right thing here hun at least through your grief you are strong minded and although its tough for you i think cassys mum may of done what she thought best she is not herself at the moment and to face a child and tell the truth is very hard. things will inprove as time goes by and im sure with your help brians wife will get through this, its hard on you too hun please dont forget to grieve and take care of you hun they both need you right now. The things you told cassy about her dad are the right things to say how much he loved her etc my thoughts are so very much with you hun and if i prayed i would surly pray for you and your family right now hang on in thre hun and keep posting and emailing its a relief sometimes to chat about nothing take care xxxxx (((((((hugs)))))) for cassy and (((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))) for you i love and respect you very much helen jackie xxxxxxxxx
THANK U, For your reply to my post i realy needed to hear that, this morning i was awaken by jumping on my bed my boys used to wake me up that way when they were younger but i woke up to find cassey jumping on my bed when i opened my eyes to look at her i saw the sweetest little smile and she asked me when breakfest was ready and if she could go and play with my nabours daughter after she left the room first i was in shock then i was in tears i dont know what made this child change over night but WOW what a change i dont know if i should be worried or thankfull, i called her mom and told her and she was very happy and told me not to worrie because that sounded like cassey was slowly coming around and i also told her about the sleeping pills and thank goodness she told me to throw them in the garbage she had not realised that a child that age could get deppended on things like that she said she just could not stand seeing her girl pace the floor all night long, i know cassey is still hurting about her dad but it will get easier in time but at least she wants to go out side and play again, i have a QUESTION i dont know if it is a stupid one but here goes i was told that if addiction runs in ones family like my grandfather and my dad with alcohol all though my dad has been sober for years now but he was addicted back then and haroin with brian and my self with pain meds, is that true that it is heridety that addiction is something u can inharit, because so far my 21 year old son and 14 year old son dont do drugs thank god in heaven or smoke or drink i think they have seen so much at school and now with brian they told me i never have to worrie about that with them, anyway me and my long post iam sorry but by venting it helps me through the rough days and i thank u all for taking the time to read my long winded post , but can anyone answer my question is it heridity. HUGS LITTLE H.
Hi H as far as im aware its a brain desease my lack of knowledge about addiction being heridary or how ever you dam spell it lol i think it has to be possible in some cases. i think the way forward for any parent these days is to be aware of different signs a drug addict might show maybe read up on different types of common drugs an ddo as your doing talk to your children and a little spying dont hurt lol as long as you dont get caught lol jackiexxx
THANKS JACKY i will check that out, and oh i had did that once but iam such a clumsey person i triped over my chair an hit there bedroom door and fell right in his room and his friends were there at the time all he said was is there somthing u wanted mom LOL.... my mom says she thinks iam so clumsey is because i was born brich and she was only 7 months when she had me so i only waighed 3 pounds thats the ecuse she useed when i was younger because i was so accidentprone LOL.... anyway thanks for your take on my question. LOVE AND HUGS LITTLE H
So good to share laughter with you hun in a time of need lol would loved to have seen that lol jackie xx
Hi Little H,
Been running around alot today and just logged on.
I read too that addiction was hereditary, don't know for a fact, just something I read. About Casey and the sleeping pills. She is hurting so badly right now that the LAST thing we want is for her to relate comfort to a pill. And thats what she'd do if she was able to sleep because when she's sleeping, she's not hurting about her dad and at such a young age, its not a good idea to connect not hurting with pills, that a pill can make her sleep and make her pain go away, so you absoloutely did the right thing.
I'm glad she's got you to hold her and be there for her. How are you holding up? So glad to see your on here and posting. Your sounding better. Casey is a lucky little girl to have you....We're all lucky to have you.
Love,
Briar
Been running around alot today and just logged on.
I read too that addiction was hereditary, don't know for a fact, just something I read. About Casey and the sleeping pills. She is hurting so badly right now that the LAST thing we want is for her to relate comfort to a pill. And thats what she'd do if she was able to sleep because when she's sleeping, she's not hurting about her dad and at such a young age, its not a good idea to connect not hurting with pills, that a pill can make her sleep and make her pain go away, so you absoloutely did the right thing.
I'm glad she's got you to hold her and be there for her. How are you holding up? So glad to see your on here and posting. Your sounding better. Casey is a lucky little girl to have you....We're all lucky to have you.
Love,
Briar
Hi Little H.
Just a note to let you know that I'm thinking of you, little Cassey and your family. You are such a strong and brave person Helen. Your niece is so blessed to have such a loving aunt. And I feel blessed to have met you here. Lots of hugs (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))) sent your way. Sleep peacefully.
Love,
Marie
Just a note to let you know that I'm thinking of you, little Cassey and your family. You are such a strong and brave person Helen. Your niece is so blessed to have such a loving aunt. And I feel blessed to have met you here. Lots of hugs (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))) sent your way. Sleep peacefully.
Love,
Marie
wjacky-briar- marie thank u all for answering my post and my question on addiction in familys u all are so sweet and kind for standing by me when i need it most god bless u all, and just to clear it up cassey is my secound cousin brian was my cousin iam not her aunt but as i said he was like a brother to me so she calls me aunty because she spends alot of time with us at my house, and marie u are a wounderful person its great to have someone like u on this board and it always brings a smile on my face when u answer my post u are one terrific lady and a great support to me. LOVE + HUGS LITTLE H.
