Danny,
I am so sorry to hear all your trouble. What you should do is think about what is best for your babies and yourself.They should not be witnessing this, if that means calling the cops, so be it. She sounds kinda nuts. Can you at least find a safe place for the kids to be for awhile, this kind of crap is stuff they will remember and carry with them. Please hang in there and keep us posted cause we are all worried for you and your children.
Redd
I have to wait until the kids come back...my face looks like it went 15 rounds..my lip is so swollen...I have two cuts on the face...it hurts like a b****...everyone (off the board) is telling me to call the cops..I guess I have to..but I can't until the kids come back...I can't lose my kids...I take care of them. I guess men do acutally get abused. Man, my mouth hurts big time..she packs a good punch..haha
You know good point Redd..........They carry it with them..........Danny you need to end the cycle of abuse. I know you don't want you chilren to marry and think it is ok to take a punch, for the sake of family.............
one last note because this subect is very very much too close to home.Danny I am a friend but you are once again making an excuse.What happens if she does something to those kids BEFORE she gets back.If she is that pi--ed what do you think shes saying?Sweet songs nursery rymes?She could be saying something those babie will NEVER FORGET I understand you not wanting them to go through the trama of the cops pulling mommy over but the stress of that has GOT to be less than what they are living through.I have got to sign off.I just cannot do this.....mj
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KIWI...............WTF is wrong with you? Get the H*** off the board! Now is NOT the time for you and your MEAN smart a** mouth! GO AWAY if you can only be a JERK!!!!
KIWI i dont usually get involed in arguements but i must say its opinions like yours why so many men DO NOT GO FOR HELP with domestic violience the stigma attatched to a husband being beaten by his wife is enough to shatter anyone not to mention the emotional side of things.
Danny hun you know what you have to do stop making excuses for her if this were a female on here stating the same thing what advice would you be giving eh my guess is you would eb saying get the hell out of there, i worked with a lot of battered women so what kind of crap your going through but once again its down to you to do something about it for your sake and your childrens take care my friend jackie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Danny hun you know what you have to do stop making excuses for her if this were a female on here stating the same thing what advice would you be giving eh my guess is you would eb saying get the hell out of there, i worked with a lot of battered women so what kind of crap your going through but once again its down to you to do something about it for your sake and your childrens take care my friend jackie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I think if you can't defend yourself, and are in fear in your own home, shes gotta go.. especially if shes a homophobe.. i myself aint a big gay supporter but still it isnt right to embrass somebody, and physicallly punish them for being a little bit different..Want me to send my sister over there to take care of business... lol well you should strongly consider pressing domestic battery charges against her.. If not She will make you her formal punching bag.. G2go, please do the righ tthing.. mwazzz.
AHHH if you are a dude take away the mwazzz, i thought you were a chick.. but still you should press chargers buddy.. hope your day goes bettter..
Danny;
Please, call the police now!
Jim
Kiwi - What is your motive? How can you be so cruel?
Please, call the police now!
Jim
Kiwi - What is your motive? How can you be so cruel?
WOW,so much drama,instead of asking everybody what you should do and playing the night in shinning amor,be a man wether your gay or not?call the cops and get your wife or boyfriend?out of the house then you take care of the kids,bottom line kids don't need to see or be around that s***!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey guys, this may not be a popular opinion, but Danny just might be wise in his hesitation. When he calls the police and reports his injuries, what do you think his wife will say? You think she'll just lay down and say she was at fault? Nope, don't think so. She'll say he attacked her, tried to rape her...who knows what? And often now in domestic violence cases, BOTH parties get arrested. Where would the kids be then? I think Danny needs to get an attorney, get temporary custody of the kids, and at least get the advice of an attorney as to what to do as far as the physical abuse. Please don't take offense Danny, but another thought too, you have health problems,can she use those against you in court where the kids are concerned? You really need legal advice badly.......and fast. We can all sit back and tell you what to do, but we won't be there to pick up the pieces for you and those girls if you lose. I want to see you win. You need legal advice imediatly. The courts don't favor men over women in abuse cases very often. Do you have witnesses other than the girls? They are small and she can manipulate them into saying anything. She could be doing it as we speak. "Sorry mommy just had to stop daddy from hurting her" Get it? Everybody needs to look at every angle. We could all encourage Danny to run and get help and then what if he lost? This woman is obviously very manipulitive, so she won't hesitate to make Danny look like the bad guy. Guess I'm just trying to say I understand why you are waiting Danny, you might have good reason. Love, Kat
Kat may be right. I have no idea what the right answer is. But at the very least, Danny, have photos taken of your face. Preferably with a camera that has a date stamped on pics.
Kiwi..do me a favor darlin, stay off of this thread. Start a post of your own and let me know what's up with you these days. I'm not sure where your going with all of this but I think those of us that aren't sure what's going on and don't know Danny's situation should stay out of it. You have a right to your opinions but sometimes it's best to keep them to yourself. I am.
Love ya
Cowgirl
Love ya
Cowgirl
Good idea Mom, the pictures. One other thought, is she drunk? Because if she is,there's your loophole. She's driving drunk with your kids. If that's the case I would not hesitate ONE second in calling the police and reporting your wife is violent and under the influence of alcohol. They might come a whole lot quicker in believing you over her in those circumstances. Love, Kat
kat,maybe your right,leave it to a woman to sort things out in a intellegent way,try to understand that us real men usallay think with are little head instead of our big head,at least that what my wife has told me over the years,i just seems odd that a man would stand there with his kids watching and let his wife beat him up?i'm not trying to be a smartass but for someone to let that go on with kids there seems kinda gay,you know now i think about it i might be gay,i've awlays wanted to be a lesbian[lmao]............vinny.
People will get away with what we allow them too...
Hi,
I'm only gonna say this, because I've already caught hell for saying the same things everyone else has said here today. Remember there are two sides to every story. danny has already said things like, he wishes all those kids movies would go out the window, he hates that all thats ever on is the kids movies. Last night he was watchin' a movie with the kids , that only lasted a half hour, he couldn't take it anymore. I have to wonder just how much he really cherishes
spending quality time with those kids. I know for me, I don't like all the movies, some I enjoy, but now being clean and sober I hold dearly every moment I get to hang out with my kids, even if it's watching something I don't like because I know they are loving the fact I'm watching it with them. Thats just one example.
Another is, this isn't the first time! If I thought for one second, and I know my wife feels the same way, my kids were in jepardy I'd be gone. And them seeing what has been going on is just as bad as if were happening to them. Just remember folks this is an open forum, everything you read isn't gonna be fact.
There are two sides to every story. I'll catch hell for this for sure but, danny has posted this stuff going on quite a few times, he up to this point keeps making excuses why he won't do anything about it. I'm gonna agree with Kiwi here,
if in fact it's all true and a fact, he deserves it! And if she is the one that left with the kids, I gotta wonder about that too. Maybe thats a good thing?
Take care..................................God bless......................................Bob
I'm only gonna say this, because I've already caught hell for saying the same things everyone else has said here today. Remember there are two sides to every story. danny has already said things like, he wishes all those kids movies would go out the window, he hates that all thats ever on is the kids movies. Last night he was watchin' a movie with the kids , that only lasted a half hour, he couldn't take it anymore. I have to wonder just how much he really cherishes
spending quality time with those kids. I know for me, I don't like all the movies, some I enjoy, but now being clean and sober I hold dearly every moment I get to hang out with my kids, even if it's watching something I don't like because I know they are loving the fact I'm watching it with them. Thats just one example.
Another is, this isn't the first time! If I thought for one second, and I know my wife feels the same way, my kids were in jepardy I'd be gone. And them seeing what has been going on is just as bad as if were happening to them. Just remember folks this is an open forum, everything you read isn't gonna be fact.
There are two sides to every story. I'll catch hell for this for sure but, danny has posted this stuff going on quite a few times, he up to this point keeps making excuses why he won't do anything about it. I'm gonna agree with Kiwi here,
if in fact it's all true and a fact, he deserves it! And if she is the one that left with the kids, I gotta wonder about that too. Maybe thats a good thing?
Take care..................................God bless......................................Bob
Danny - I'm really sorry to hear about your situatioin. I know alot of people can be "judgemental" and think its so easy to just "pick up and leave" or whatever. I was in an abusive relationship (not physically, tho) but mentally, yes.
But this is getting out of hand, Danny - it's NOT good for the kids at all, obviously. If you think you ARE protecting them - I know in your mind you think you are, but you arent. They need out of there just as bad as you do. It will traumatize them for the rest of your life. Even the little ones pick up on all this stuff, we dont even think they know whats going on. But if she's literally beating you up in front of the kids, well, yes, I would have her a** put in jail immediately. The kids dont need a mom like that - I wouldnt even call her a MOM - she doesnt deserve that title!!!!
One day she might hit you and kill you - if you get hit in the wrong place or fall on your head and hit it you can drop dead instantly. Then what? She goes to jail and the kids go where? Foster care? Other family?? Think about it, Danny. I, for one, and definately not trying to judge, but this whole thing is REALLY getting out of hand - dont you???
You say you dont want her in jail for the kids sake - for crying out loud, thats the reason she SHOULD be put there. Please think about this. We are all worried about you. Its not fair to you or the kids - the b**** is psycho!!! Sorry.
Love,
Marie
But this is getting out of hand, Danny - it's NOT good for the kids at all, obviously. If you think you ARE protecting them - I know in your mind you think you are, but you arent. They need out of there just as bad as you do. It will traumatize them for the rest of your life. Even the little ones pick up on all this stuff, we dont even think they know whats going on. But if she's literally beating you up in front of the kids, well, yes, I would have her a** put in jail immediately. The kids dont need a mom like that - I wouldnt even call her a MOM - she doesnt deserve that title!!!!
One day she might hit you and kill you - if you get hit in the wrong place or fall on your head and hit it you can drop dead instantly. Then what? She goes to jail and the kids go where? Foster care? Other family?? Think about it, Danny. I, for one, and definately not trying to judge, but this whole thing is REALLY getting out of hand - dont you???
You say you dont want her in jail for the kids sake - for crying out loud, thats the reason she SHOULD be put there. Please think about this. We are all worried about you. Its not fair to you or the kids - the b**** is psycho!!! Sorry.
Love,
Marie
Ding, Ding....round 1....
