neil wrote me a letter saying he was scared for when he gets out he doesnt want to be a drug addict anymore but he always ends up with a habit again the longest he has gone without heroin is 8 months and that was this time he was out off jail , i would really like him to come on this board to make friends and get regular advice when he needs it but i have wrote a lot about him on here and i dont want him to think i have gone behind his back . Anyway neil has been in and out of prison for the last 7 years through his heroin addiction he is that used to being inside that he doesnt know how to cope with life outside the only thing he knows is heroin when he is outside although he doesnt touch it straight away he always ends up going back to what he knows best , and as soon as he has 1 hit he is so so sorry he has done it ,he says as soon as he has let his guard down he is f***ed he suffers with deppresion and when he starts to feel low is when he starts to use . Has anyone got any advice on to how to get through the cravings of H ??
thanks emma xx
their is more to say but i aint got time right now
Oh EMZ, you worry yourself so..........I know that well cause ya sound like me.
It is really frightening, EMZ..........I can't say because thank heavens I have never been locked up so maybe some of the boys can tell ya........heck or the ladies.........but fear is there for sure.
EMZ, it's a mind screw...........and it's brain chemistry and it's habit and ritual.
It's life and death and what we know best..........and just my thoughts but we set ourselves up and we self sabatoge..........and pretty sure we all got depressed and still do.............there's tons he can do, EMZ.
Certain some people will tell ya how it is when you're waiting to get out though...baby, don't get yourself an ulcer before he gets home.
It is really frightening, EMZ..........I can't say because thank heavens I have never been locked up so maybe some of the boys can tell ya........heck or the ladies.........but fear is there for sure.
EMZ, it's a mind screw...........and it's brain chemistry and it's habit and ritual.
It's life and death and what we know best..........and just my thoughts but we set ourselves up and we self sabatoge..........and pretty sure we all got depressed and still do.............there's tons he can do, EMZ.
Certain some people will tell ya how it is when you're waiting to get out though...baby, don't get yourself an ulcer before he gets home.
..Emz..
..Being in nick dose'nt really become a deterent but more of a occupational hazard after a while..and when its time to go home theres the same old life out there unless there is something to come out to..i was'nt in nick when i was using but was in my teenage years n early 20's and even thou you miss people and certain things while your inside..there ain't really much else to look forward to when your getting out..and you just seem to slip back into old habits (whatever they are) and old mates who are doing the same old s***..he seems to be in a vicious circle, using to cope with the depression but gets depressed when he can't use or score and the cravings feel like ya heads gonna explode unless ya get sum drugs inside ya system..i dunno wot to say for him to try stop the cravings..cos its hard to get motivated when ya body only wants one thing to motivate it ?..i do hope things work out for ya'll the way you want them to in time..Robbie..
..Being in nick dose'nt really become a deterent but more of a occupational hazard after a while..and when its time to go home theres the same old life out there unless there is something to come out to..i was'nt in nick when i was using but was in my teenage years n early 20's and even thou you miss people and certain things while your inside..there ain't really much else to look forward to when your getting out..and you just seem to slip back into old habits (whatever they are) and old mates who are doing the same old s***..he seems to be in a vicious circle, using to cope with the depression but gets depressed when he can't use or score and the cravings feel like ya heads gonna explode unless ya get sum drugs inside ya system..i dunno wot to say for him to try stop the cravings..cos its hard to get motivated when ya body only wants one thing to motivate it ?..i do hope things work out for ya'll the way you want them to in time..Robbie..
Emz that was a good post of Robbie....he hit on the head saying jail is just an occupetional hazard.....comes with the terriortry....inside Neil will become Neill again....once he cant suppoert a habit inside....although i know some who have.Emz i think Neil really has to look at the bigger picture....is it the nick then smack...what a game of emotional ping pong......or you and the kids.How long inside this time....???
I had a yr. jolt curtosy of HMP.Pentonville for for posseion with intent.....the first 3months is a steep learning curve but by month 6 if ya any kinda savvy you will be well on yer way to the end of the sentence .....Neil just needs to realise its make or break now....i know 7 yrs in and out is a b**** .....prisoners who go in and out regulaly.....in prisons slang have a season ticket....and in aint in a corporate box.
Sorry bout the ramble but i think Neil is a bit instituitonalidse....he only knows jail and smack.....but Emz as i said hes gotta be a man for his family thats the bottom line youve carried the can for too long.Take care Ms............Davey
I had a yr. jolt curtosy of HMP.Pentonville for for posseion with intent.....the first 3months is a steep learning curve but by month 6 if ya any kinda savvy you will be well on yer way to the end of the sentence .....Neil just needs to realise its make or break now....i know 7 yrs in and out is a b**** .....prisoners who go in and out regulaly.....in prisons slang have a season ticket....and in aint in a corporate box.
Sorry bout the ramble but i think Neil is a bit instituitonalidse....he only knows jail and smack.....but Emz as i said hes gotta be a man for his family thats the bottom line youve carried the can for too long.Take care Ms............Davey
hi donns daughter here,hot baths,listening to music,being around family and close friends helps with cravings.he needs to stay away from any drug users because its so easy to fall stright back in. all the best gemma x
Just know that any advice to you for him is wasted. What I mean by that is if he is not actively searching for these answers on his own, there is a good chance he will do what he has always done. His answers to his problems lie within himself. You can't change that. It just doesn't work that way.
You can really drive yourself nuts trying to change that fact. That is why there are progams for family, loved ones and friends of addicts. We feel we can change them. We feel if we only try harder. We worry so much about how to change them we forget about our own lives. We hide from family and friends. Our work suffers, our health suffers our whole lives become unmanageable.
Don't forget yourself in all this. He will or won't change his life. That is his cross to bear. You can only support his efforts.
You can really drive yourself nuts trying to change that fact. That is why there are progams for family, loved ones and friends of addicts. We feel we can change them. We feel if we only try harder. We worry so much about how to change them we forget about our own lives. We hide from family and friends. Our work suffers, our health suffers our whole lives become unmanageable.
Don't forget yourself in all this. He will or won't change his life. That is his cross to bear. You can only support his efforts.
The best way i know is Acupuncture i get it done every friday and i love it i feel it help's me a lot i also do a bit of yoga and feel good after that too. if all else fails he shold maybe try and get himself on a methadone programme you can lead a fairly normal life on methadone its not totally drug free but its better than prison and scoring everyday .
Robby
Robby
