I am growing tired and so must retire for the evening. However there is one thing I needed to get off my chest and I ask for as much advise, especially from those that are dealing with or have dealt with the same situation.
Ill avoid a long story but the long and short of it is as Christmas fast approaches, a time that is usually very special to me, I am becoming more cognizant of the fact that I will, once again, be without my son.
In his three years of life I have never been with him on Christmas even though I spent the last year with him until my Wifes parents found out I was back and kicked me out of my Wifes home which given the sudden separation makes this all the more difficult.
I have been trying to fool myself that it doesnt bother me or that I have accepted its inevitability, however day by day the pain of being away from him grows(as I have mentioned before) and the unavoidable fact that I will miss yet another Christmas is tearing me apart.
I want to cry but am afraid I wont be able to stop, additionally I feel that since I have a part to play in this situation I am not allowed to weep for I might fall into self pitty.
My heart aches, I am scared and I miss my son terribly. I need help.
Wolf,
Hi, I don't really know your situation, but if you do spend any time with your son, be grateful for the time you do. If you get your son on whatever day, make your own Christmas day, it doesn't have to be the 25th, have your own special Christmas Day. Just a suggestion, or just be grateful if you can't do that, that he is happy that day, be the best dad you can be, your luckier than alot of folks.
Your son doesn't have to have memories of his dad drunk or high if you do what you need to do for you. My kids are 10 and 14, they'll remember when dad wasn't doing the right thing. I don't wish that kind of hurt on anyone. But I also use that as a tool, if I pick up again, thats like saying to them I don't care, taking my will back would be spitting in there face and God's, just an opinion I happen to agree with.
Take care..........Bob
Hi, I don't really know your situation, but if you do spend any time with your son, be grateful for the time you do. If you get your son on whatever day, make your own Christmas day, it doesn't have to be the 25th, have your own special Christmas Day. Just a suggestion, or just be grateful if you can't do that, that he is happy that day, be the best dad you can be, your luckier than alot of folks.
Your son doesn't have to have memories of his dad drunk or high if you do what you need to do for you. My kids are 10 and 14, they'll remember when dad wasn't doing the right thing. I don't wish that kind of hurt on anyone. But I also use that as a tool, if I pick up again, thats like saying to them I don't care, taking my will back would be spitting in there face and God's, just an opinion I happen to agree with.
Take care..........Bob
Hey Wolf,
My heart really goes out to you. I know how you feel. I was going through a real bad custody battle around 7 years ago. For awhile I wasn't allowed to see my kids. It's the worst feeling. I wish there was something we can do to help you out. Just keep talking, we are listening....
Love,
Liz
My heart really goes out to you. I know how you feel. I was going through a real bad custody battle around 7 years ago. For awhile I wasn't allowed to see my kids. It's the worst feeling. I wish there was something we can do to help you out. Just keep talking, we are listening....
Love,
Liz
Hey Bob great idea have christmas everyday with your son minus the turkey i guess. Wolf hun life is so hard when we miss loved ones and your so right about christmas being a lonley time. I too spent a few lonley years estranged from my children but if its any consolation im fine now and see them a lot ( son 23 daughter 21) so i guess my answer is time is a great healer, try to mix as much as possible over the festivitys. jaxxxxx
Thank you all for listening and offering advise. I will try and remember to be grateful I am now presented with an opportunity to make things right. Thank you for making me cognizant of that.
God bless.
God bless.
