Hi, I'm writing this post to ask for help in an area I know nothing about, but I'm willing listen to any comments, good, bad, or indiffirent.
Here goes, I'm infatuated with someone who use to be on heroin and now four years later they have started taking pills and the addiction is just as strong.
I don't know what kind of pills they are but they must bring on a high close to the heroin type, because she started to nod at the na meeting.
What kind of pills do that?
I've been staying away from her lately, not seeing her and not calling her.
(she was never home anyway)
I've seen her copping pills when she thought I wasn't around, and when I asked her about what she's doing, I got the "I'm sorry look" with a lame addict justification story behind it. Maybe that's why she went to the na meeting with me that day...you know, guilt.
It's strange ya'know.. An addict trying to understand why another addict still wants to get high...and stay stuck in the maddness. I've brought roses for her, and she's broken dates countless times, I'm still crazy about her, and she knows it. I hope I don't run into her, not right now, cuz when I see her I melt.
I keep saying to myself, GET OVER IT!! but It's so hard, very hard.
MACK
Hi Mack,
I would imagine it's some kind of opiate based pain pill. I'd try and detatch from the situation as much as you can, but be supportive if she asks for help.
I don't really know what to tell you, only that I feel for ya' and wish you all the best. I'll pray for the both of you.
Take care.............................God bless..............................................Bob
I would imagine it's some kind of opiate based pain pill. I'd try and detatch from the situation as much as you can, but be supportive if she asks for help.
I don't really know what to tell you, only that I feel for ya' and wish you all the best. I'll pray for the both of you.
Take care.............................God bless..............................................Bob
Hi Mack:
The pills that create the "nod" effect are a combination of Vicodin and Soma. They mimic the Heroin effect. Hope that helps.
Rachel
The pills that create the "nod" effect are a combination of Vicodin and Soma. They mimic the Heroin effect. Hope that helps.
Rachel
Hi Mack, I don't know what the pills are -- most likely hydros, percs, or oxys -- but regardless, if she's actively using again, there's no relationship to be had there my friend. The drugs will win every time, at least until she's ready to stop again. Just as with you....and me. And if you two have had a romantic relationship before, you likely will be one of the least effective in helping her get back to the rooms clean and sober.
But the real danger with your continued infatuation is that it could lead you back to using.... to "bridge the gap" or get closer to this woman you obviously care about. You've probably heard the saying, "Under every skirt there's a slip"? You're on very dangerous ground, even though well-intentioned. What's your sponsor advising? M.
But the real danger with your continued infatuation is that it could lead you back to using.... to "bridge the gap" or get closer to this woman you obviously care about. You've probably heard the saying, "Under every skirt there's a slip"? You're on very dangerous ground, even though well-intentioned. What's your sponsor advising? M.
Hi Mack,
I agree, thats one of the first things we learn. People, Places, and Things. She'll get you drunk or high before you get her clean.
I'm very lucky because my wife and I got clean and sober together. Although we each did it for ourselves, we had and have eachothers support. So, as hard as I'm sure it is, you gotta put your sobriety first. Anything we put before our sobriety will be the first thing we lose if we pick up.
Take care....................................God bless.........................................Bob
I agree, thats one of the first things we learn. People, Places, and Things. She'll get you drunk or high before you get her clean.
I'm very lucky because my wife and I got clean and sober together. Although we each did it for ourselves, we had and have eachothers support. So, as hard as I'm sure it is, you gotta put your sobriety first. Anything we put before our sobriety will be the first thing we lose if we pick up.
Take care....................................God bless.........................................Bob
To: Rachel,Bob,None4Me
Thank you for the information and now I understand a little more.
I understand my recovery comes first no matter what.
I do not want the cycle of addiction to become part of my life again because It will become my whole life. In contacting my sponsor he said leave her alone.
I can only pray for her and continue to do the right things for the right reason for myself. I can't save her,I can only save myself. Thanks again people, maybe all I wanted was another excuse to hang on. I didn't want believe she would do it to herself again, not after four years...but she did.
She's an addict living in active addiction and I have to accept that being a fact.
MACK
Thank you for the information and now I understand a little more.
I understand my recovery comes first no matter what.
I do not want the cycle of addiction to become part of my life again because It will become my whole life. In contacting my sponsor he said leave her alone.
I can only pray for her and continue to do the right things for the right reason for myself. I can't save her,I can only save myself. Thanks again people, maybe all I wanted was another excuse to hang on. I didn't want believe she would do it to herself again, not after four years...but she did.
She's an addict living in active addiction and I have to accept that being a fact.
MACK
Hi Mack,
When you were at the meeting with her did you confront her and ask if she was using again? Maybe you need to talk to her. Maybe she isn't really using again? Just how would you really know without talking to her?
Liz
When you were at the meeting with her did you confront her and ask if she was using again? Maybe you need to talk to her. Maybe she isn't really using again? Just how would you really know without talking to her?
Liz
ok, forget it, I just re read what you wrote up there. Well that's too bad. Sorry for you.
Liz
Liz
Mack,
I'm happy for ya' and I feel bad about the situation at the same time. I'm glad you realized you have to do whats right for you, although I know it's hard to see someone you love caught up in the grip of addiction. I know how sometimes we want so bad for someone to say what we wanna hear, but we know the right thing to do already but we still need to have someone else say it.
You take care Mack, I'll pray for both of you. And a prayer that she finds her way back to recovery.
Take care....................................God bless........................................Bob
I'm happy for ya' and I feel bad about the situation at the same time. I'm glad you realized you have to do whats right for you, although I know it's hard to see someone you love caught up in the grip of addiction. I know how sometimes we want so bad for someone to say what we wanna hear, but we know the right thing to do already but we still need to have someone else say it.
You take care Mack, I'll pray for both of you. And a prayer that she finds her way back to recovery.
Take care....................................God bless........................................Bob
Mack you sound a sensible guy hun and im sure that in the end you will choose the right course of action, being a fellow addict must make you relise how hard it is to come clean etc my thoughts are with you please let us know what you decided hun jackie xxxx
Bob,Liz,wackyjacky,
I wish to thank you all again for the support.
This board is a life-saver sometime
I went to a meeting today and heard this guy talk about how he existed on the streets for twenty three years, homeless.
He talked about how he never had to take off his shoes because he had to sleep anywhere he could, a doorway,in abandon buildings, alleys, or on the sidewalk. I came to realize that my problems were real tiny in this arena of addiction. I used to be homeless too and I can't forget that so, I had to make a decision to move on or stay stuck, because I know if I don't move on that person who was homeless can reappear again and I might not make it back.
I pray for me, you, and us. Recovery saved my life
MACK
I wish to thank you all again for the support.
This board is a life-saver sometime
I went to a meeting today and heard this guy talk about how he existed on the streets for twenty three years, homeless.
He talked about how he never had to take off his shoes because he had to sleep anywhere he could, a doorway,in abandon buildings, alleys, or on the sidewalk. I came to realize that my problems were real tiny in this arena of addiction. I used to be homeless too and I can't forget that so, I had to make a decision to move on or stay stuck, because I know if I don't move on that person who was homeless can reappear again and I might not make it back.
I pray for me, you, and us. Recovery saved my life
MACK
