This may sound stupid but what makes me feel good is seeing things no matter what they are with a clear mind. Sometimes I go outside and just breathe in the crisp air or look up at the moon and realize all that I have to be thankful for. There are so many things I took for granted while I was using and so much time wasted I now just enjoy the simple things in my life and that makes me feel good. Shantel
You just feel better. Your body is able to produce it's own happy chemicals...you don't need synthetic ones.
The rush you get sober beats the way you feel now.
Did you look into sub?
Treatment?
Meetings?
This is beyond you; you know that. How about some help?
The rush you get sober beats the way you feel now.
Did you look into sub?
Treatment?
Meetings?
This is beyond you; you know that. How about some help?
Jodi...Stacey said it for me too. I now have this peace and serenity (those good feelings) that I never had before. Even before I got addicted. Yes, you will feel better. Just not over night.
Please, honey, like Jane said, just hold out your hand.
You know where the meetings are. Just go. Don't think, just go.
(((big squeeze)))
Lisa
Please, honey, like Jane said, just hold out your hand.
You know where the meetings are. Just go. Don't think, just go.
(((big squeeze)))
Lisa
Jodi,
In order to be successful, you must really be ready. Hang around here til that time comes. You'll be inspired at some point or another and learn a lot more in the process. ((((Hugs, honey!!))))
In order to be successful, you must really be ready. Hang around here til that time comes. You'll be inspired at some point or another and learn a lot more in the process. ((((Hugs, honey!!))))
Dearest Jodi,
I understand what you meant about control...you feel you have lost ALL control and are now just a spectator in your life..is that right????
Unfortunately sweetie..you have several issues and even one of them alone is enough to make someone feel out of control.
You have the dependency on substances, even though they no longer make you feel "good" you cant SEEM to stop taking - using.....and 2..
You are living with a Misogynist which in and by itself will strip any woman of any confidence and self worth...even the strongest, and most incredibly confident women do get mixed up with men like that..in fact I think sometimes that its the really strong ones that stay stuck so long...they are just so sure, that they can "fix" him, "fix" the marriage, if only they did this or that or the other thing just right....Its not true...cus its not about them..If your hubby lived with Michelle Phifer, he would act , be and do the same.....its NOT about you..remember that...
The one thing i want to assure you, is that your life WILL get better, you have to have faith. and that is what faith is right? Its believing in something even though everything or everyone around you tells you not to...
Once you get the substance abuse part dealt with...any which way you can..you will start to feel like you are gaining back SOME control over your life...
That tiny seed of confidence can then grow, and believe me, once you have that back, you will be able to make other decisions that right now you feel unable to make....
I hate to quote the twelve step thing here.lol..but you really need to do the one step, one day at a time...those days will add up to weeks and those weeks to months,and before you know it you will be a totally new person...
Its like your wearing the wrong RX glasses right now, so of course you cant see clearly, but once you get the right fit, the right RX glasses, the whole world will become clear again...and you will be able to make the right decisions for you and your family...
You are not alone honey...many have walked before you...and lived to tell the story...and through doing so will help other women....you can be one of those women my love..you just have to want it more than anything else in the world..
Do you have any help in your area at all? Is there a womens support line, a support group? An addiction Dr? You have to start SOMEWHERE honey...there is no shame in asking for help..and once that help comes, be totally honest about where you are and whats happening..
Remember...There is NO SHAME in asking for help Jodi, if you cant do it for yourself, then do it for your children, but reach out and start the process....Just take that very first baby step....just that one baby step is heading in the right direction, and thats better then standing still right??
we are all here for you sweetie
keep posting,
Hugs
Ali
I understand what you meant about control...you feel you have lost ALL control and are now just a spectator in your life..is that right????
Unfortunately sweetie..you have several issues and even one of them alone is enough to make someone feel out of control.
You have the dependency on substances, even though they no longer make you feel "good" you cant SEEM to stop taking - using.....and 2..
You are living with a Misogynist which in and by itself will strip any woman of any confidence and self worth...even the strongest, and most incredibly confident women do get mixed up with men like that..in fact I think sometimes that its the really strong ones that stay stuck so long...they are just so sure, that they can "fix" him, "fix" the marriage, if only they did this or that or the other thing just right....Its not true...cus its not about them..If your hubby lived with Michelle Phifer, he would act , be and do the same.....its NOT about you..remember that...
The one thing i want to assure you, is that your life WILL get better, you have to have faith. and that is what faith is right? Its believing in something even though everything or everyone around you tells you not to...
Once you get the substance abuse part dealt with...any which way you can..you will start to feel like you are gaining back SOME control over your life...
That tiny seed of confidence can then grow, and believe me, once you have that back, you will be able to make other decisions that right now you feel unable to make....
I hate to quote the twelve step thing here.lol..but you really need to do the one step, one day at a time...those days will add up to weeks and those weeks to months,and before you know it you will be a totally new person...
Its like your wearing the wrong RX glasses right now, so of course you cant see clearly, but once you get the right fit, the right RX glasses, the whole world will become clear again...and you will be able to make the right decisions for you and your family...
You are not alone honey...many have walked before you...and lived to tell the story...and through doing so will help other women....you can be one of those women my love..you just have to want it more than anything else in the world..
Do you have any help in your area at all? Is there a womens support line, a support group? An addiction Dr? You have to start SOMEWHERE honey...there is no shame in asking for help..and once that help comes, be totally honest about where you are and whats happening..
Remember...There is NO SHAME in asking for help Jodi, if you cant do it for yourself, then do it for your children, but reach out and start the process....Just take that very first baby step....just that one baby step is heading in the right direction, and thats better then standing still right??
we are all here for you sweetie
keep posting,
Hugs
Ali
Jodi,
Just wanted to make sure i addressed your question about feeling good once your off the substances/pills etc...
this is the way i would look at it..
You feel like crap now right? Your miserable... unhappy...anxious.. I can absolutely positively guarantee you that once you stop using, you will feel better. But lets say you dont feel great...You cant possibly feel as bad as you do now...Thats impossible.,..
Dont expect to feel whoopee, "i feel awesome" right away....but again you wont feel as bad as you do now..cus you'll feel more confidence..you'll feel more in control..and as that grows, so will your self worth, and with that self worth..joy will re-enter your life...happiness will creep back in...I promise...
When that happens, it wont happen just for you, but for your children as well..when your children see their Mommy grow stronger, become more confident , make good decisions, and start to enjoy life again...they will feel the same..
its the biggest gift you can give yourself, AND your children...
Hope that helps a bit..
hugs
Ali
Just wanted to make sure i addressed your question about feeling good once your off the substances/pills etc...
this is the way i would look at it..
You feel like crap now right? Your miserable... unhappy...anxious.. I can absolutely positively guarantee you that once you stop using, you will feel better. But lets say you dont feel great...You cant possibly feel as bad as you do now...Thats impossible.,..
Dont expect to feel whoopee, "i feel awesome" right away....but again you wont feel as bad as you do now..cus you'll feel more confidence..you'll feel more in control..and as that grows, so will your self worth, and with that self worth..joy will re-enter your life...happiness will creep back in...I promise...
When that happens, it wont happen just for you, but for your children as well..when your children see their Mommy grow stronger, become more confident , make good decisions, and start to enjoy life again...they will feel the same..
its the biggest gift you can give yourself, AND your children...
Hope that helps a bit..
hugs
Ali
