Hello all,
I'm writing this to try and understand my wife. She has been using primarily hydrocodone for 3 years. She started with using her dad's oxytocin (spelling) after he passed from cancer. I was thinking she uses way too much, but after reading I'm not sure my problem is as big as I thought. She takes 1 10/325 in the morning, another midday and 2 more evening. These are my pills btw.
says she just wants to take the edge off and stop her pain. She will not go to a dr to find the root cause. She also drinks a bottle of wine/night which is another topic in the same realm. How do I get her to stop and try and save our marriage? Are the combination causing these fellings and once sober may see things in a different light?
Hi Monarch
Welcome!!
I have only been on here for a little while and it has helped a lot. I was addicted to heroin and has been clean for 3 years now.
Was your wife and her father close? It might not be that she is in psychical pain but emotional and mental pain.
Some of the others that are families to addicts would probably have better advise but from an addict's point here is mine and hope it at least help a little bit.
You can't force an addict to come off anything, if you do they turn to something else or worse. Show her that you are there for her, remind her who she was before all the pain, show her there is more to life than to drown the pain with any kind of drug and alcohol. Be open to listen to her, don't judge. Be there for her in all aspects.
I am definitely sure your are doing the best you can. Try and spend doing things that she liked to do, don't force it on her but bring it in small doses. When she opens up more ask her what you can do to make the pain lighter.
No one knew when I relapsed and I had too stuck through everything plus cleaning up on my own. Just remember that you will be the person she turns to when she hits rock bottom.
I truly hope she doesn't go so far as most addicts done. One thing I have picked up from friends that had to deal with addicts, do not loose yourself. You got to be true to yourself to do not let this change or make you suffer. You can only be there for so long then you start loosing yourself.
Try and introduce her to this site
All of the best
Welcome!!
I have only been on here for a little while and it has helped a lot. I was addicted to heroin and has been clean for 3 years now.
Was your wife and her father close? It might not be that she is in psychical pain but emotional and mental pain.
Some of the others that are families to addicts would probably have better advise but from an addict's point here is mine and hope it at least help a little bit.
You can't force an addict to come off anything, if you do they turn to something else or worse. Show her that you are there for her, remind her who she was before all the pain, show her there is more to life than to drown the pain with any kind of drug and alcohol. Be open to listen to her, don't judge. Be there for her in all aspects.
I am definitely sure your are doing the best you can. Try and spend doing things that she liked to do, don't force it on her but bring it in small doses. When she opens up more ask her what you can do to make the pain lighter.
No one knew when I relapsed and I had too stuck through everything plus cleaning up on my own. Just remember that you will be the person she turns to when she hits rock bottom.
I truly hope she doesn't go so far as most addicts done. One thing I have picked up from friends that had to deal with addicts, do not loose yourself. You got to be true to yourself to do not let this change or make you suffer. You can only be there for so long then you start loosing yourself.
Try and introduce her to this site
All of the best
