To start I have this friend a friend of some 11ish years we'll call her Amy. We never did h together but, we did a lot of coke pills and such. Amy has a 3 year old she gave to her mom. This friend has a baby that is 9 months old. Childrens services never let Amy out of the hospital with the 9 month old. Amy's baby had a + drug test at birth. I helped her with the pregnany took her to Dr. visits bought her baby things. I was in the waiting room when the baby was born. I supported her when social workers told her she could not leave with her baby. I let her cry on my shoulder I have had my own issues with my kids so I do feel for her. The baby's Dad is a loser he has the baby at his mom's he nor Amy work. Amy came to my house today she is 6 months pregnant begging for a place to stay. She showed up dirty with a tank top on belly hanging out clearly not showered but, said she was clean. She has no car, no job, no place to stay, working on baby #3. THANK GOD my fiance was at work. What is the proper thing to do. What I have built in my clean time i've FOUGHT FOR. This girl is a mess I told her she could hang out for a while but, the house is not mine to let her stay in. I told her my man would have a fit she knows this to be true. He has no soft spot for my friends. Her staying here is never gonna happen. I feel like crap about her and the situation. I am just mad about it but, what should one do?. Not sure why but, this gets to me. I can't figure out what to do with this friend. I'm so perplexed at why she is this way.
what a spot your in. but please remember this is not your doing or your fault. you did not put her where she is at. you are clean, and working on fixing your life. you don't need to be responsible for her. i'm sorry i know she is your friend, but some times a real friend needs to turn the other way, she didn't find her way with you holding her hand, so maybe turning your back will help her. i know she will be mad, but she needs to do this on her own. she can go to a wonems shelter, or some program for women in her situation. you need to think what best for you now.
hang in there
raerae
hang in there
raerae
I could not agree more raerae. Her staying here would not happen anyway she is tied up with childrens services I can't have her living with my kids. The situation gets me so mad at her. I don't need friends like this. I would like to help her but, I kind of know it's useless i've tried to help her before. Just tragic she keep getting pregnant i honestly don't get it!. I have 3 children my kids are 13 11 and 2. Hers will be newborn 1 and 3. She talks all this crap about breastfeeding and giving her baby only organic food "hahaha". I think she keeps getting pregnant to get something right. She has this drive to have kids she said she WANTS MORE. Yet she can't hold a job or a place to live. I think she may become my friend at a distance.
Hi zg i had to jump in and say "breastfeeding and organic food" then "hahahaha" sounds so bad man i know for sure laughing at someone when theyre at there lowest aint gonna help them or you im sorry it kinda just goes against everything i feel were all about ....take care ...paul
I think she may become my friend at a distance.
good idea * *
jack
good idea * *
jack
st pauli .... It seems my message came off in bad taste to you. Be sure I don't think laughing at someone when they are at their lowest is good. I just find a lot of irony that she would be consumed with the ideal of organic foods and breastfeeding yet smokes and uses while pregnant. In fact I find her struggles very troubling. Yes, I'll still think it's funny that those are her two proriorties when she is homeless and jobless. I've never been one to care for the political correctness of things. It may be main stream to eat organic but, that is behaviour meant to enforce ideologic conformity to what the T.V is telling her is right and good. In fact I told her i'ld be worried about bigger things. She is free to do what she wishes I'll still think many things are more important then making sure your kid never eats processed food. To each their own I guess. I think you took my haha as something other then my refrence to her food proriorty. Her situation is anything other then a haha..
ZGl,
You know yourself that on the families site their are mothers who have daughters on their 3rd or 4th pregnancy and still the same pattern continues. They raise their children as their own or the babies are adopted and it breaks everyones heart. Somehow these pregnancies symbolise hope for themselves although it such a selfish thing to do. You know you can't help her, that she can't stay and that if you give her money then she'll use and how many babies arrive doing a rattle or worse damaged, Let her shower, feed her and direct her to a hostel for pregnant addicts if she doesn't go that's her choice don't put your own kids or relationship at risk. If she's a decent friend she won't ask you to.
k
You know yourself that on the families site their are mothers who have daughters on their 3rd or 4th pregnancy and still the same pattern continues. They raise their children as their own or the babies are adopted and it breaks everyones heart. Somehow these pregnancies symbolise hope for themselves although it such a selfish thing to do. You know you can't help her, that she can't stay and that if you give her money then she'll use and how many babies arrive doing a rattle or worse damaged, Let her shower, feed her and direct her to a hostel for pregnant addicts if she doesn't go that's her choice don't put your own kids or relationship at risk. If she's a decent friend she won't ask you to.
k
