hey guys.. i'm back.. :/ finally got the ultimadum from the wife it's either sober life with her or she's gone... as most of you might remember I quit for a good few weeks then got back into my old ways of using and hiding it from the wife.. i'm so weak and selfish it just makes me sick sometimes.. I also started dabbling with other over the counter drugs again as well.. it just seems that once i smoke that first damn puff again after quitting that I feel right again.. and everything else is so much easier to cope with.. but I just want to be happy without needing drugs... it's damn scarry when all you want to do is stay in bed 24/7 when you are de-toxing off pot.. I just want a change for both me and my wife and I know now that support from here can help but I need way more.. I have been looking into various treatment possibilities in my area because sure I can quit for a few weeks.. but It always ends up gettin back to square 1 after a while.. so wonderwoman.. jamv.. all the rest of you guys.. how have you been doing? I assume for some of you it's got to be a pretty long time without using so friggin congrats.. you deserve it.
good luck Plow King, i'm in sort of the same boat, as I have hid my pot from my wife for many years, on and off, usually i am able to stay off so long that she forgets about it(>1yr), then I slip back. Then, when I get straight for whatever reason, I have come clean to her that i was using again, right now I'm clean since Nov 10th and it feels pretty good. Pot isn't that easy to kick in the long run for some of us. I'm 47, and I hope that my last go around is the last. Life is so much easier being straight and not having to look over my shoulder, although there certainly are times when i must deal with the pain, with nothing to soothe me. That's how it goes.
Hey PlowKing,
It's been awhile. Good to see you. I'm 4 days away from 5 months sobriety. I start a women's recovery group on Tuesdays and I've given my husband a year to grow up. :-)
Please let your wife know about the families and partners board here. Cynical Ones's posts are excellent. And Bob is another favorite poster of mine. :-)Of course your wife doesn't have to participate but the info is truly valuable to read.
Were you waiting for your wife's ultimatum to get you going again ? Sometimes a kick in the a** is what you need, but ultimately it's up to you. But you know that. So here's hoping you find a great treatment program (whatever that may be) that works for you. In the meantime, by suggesting marriage counselling shows committment to the partnership. There was a time my husband would not have been caught dead in a counselling session. Good thing he changed his mind because I was going out of my mind. I empathize with your wife. Stay honest with her but don't count on her for support. That's not her job ! You need to find yourself support besides this board and you know it. :-) What are some ways you can rebuild trust ?
Anyway, here's me spouting off with advice and "you" "you" "you" which is so against what I try to do here. I just want to wish you best of luck, nobody said it was easy but it gets better as long as you don't try to go it ALONE. that goes for spouses and addicts alike. Sounds like you are serious. Good on you !!!!!!
It's been awhile. Good to see you. I'm 4 days away from 5 months sobriety. I start a women's recovery group on Tuesdays and I've given my husband a year to grow up. :-)
Please let your wife know about the families and partners board here. Cynical Ones's posts are excellent. And Bob is another favorite poster of mine. :-)Of course your wife doesn't have to participate but the info is truly valuable to read.
Were you waiting for your wife's ultimatum to get you going again ? Sometimes a kick in the a** is what you need, but ultimately it's up to you. But you know that. So here's hoping you find a great treatment program (whatever that may be) that works for you. In the meantime, by suggesting marriage counselling shows committment to the partnership. There was a time my husband would not have been caught dead in a counselling session. Good thing he changed his mind because I was going out of my mind. I empathize with your wife. Stay honest with her but don't count on her for support. That's not her job ! You need to find yourself support besides this board and you know it. :-) What are some ways you can rebuild trust ?
Anyway, here's me spouting off with advice and "you" "you" "you" which is so against what I try to do here. I just want to wish you best of luck, nobody said it was easy but it gets better as long as you don't try to go it ALONE. that goes for spouses and addicts alike. Sounds like you are serious. Good on you !!!!!!
