Hey everybody I met this Italian/German girl from Chicago Illinois in 2013 in Charlotte nc.after that she been around so as time passed she always and the streets coming back with money. So I use to get mad and confront her Cuz ppl telling me my girl tricking off in the streets. So I finally found out she was on heroin.idk to do anymore its going on 2 years since she been on and off she still run the street's caught her on backpage and everything all her family in Illinois. I'm the only family she really have besides the streets. Done tried to get her help.I know she needs long term treatment. It's just a hard situation seeing how drugs can change someone. Help guys any tips advice and all she have is a copy of a birth certificate and social security card someone help before I lose her to dope and the streets.
Understand it's not you that can say it's time for her to get help. It's her that needs to want it. Not want it a little bit but fully want it . If she doesn't then it's no point. You have to sit down and talk to her about what her plans are for the future. Because she's just wasting your time if she doesn't want to get off. Good luck if you need help again let me know please.
Thanks for your advice
Its just really hard meeting someone and you watch how drugs change them so much she not the same person anymore no matter how hard she tries I see the drugs taking over her and her mind its sad
Hi Quinton,I'm just checking on you seeing how you are doing?. I. Hope all is well. Drop us down a line or two and let us know how you all are doing?
She still on drugs but she done ran off on me ain't seen her since Thursday
Hi Quinton, You sound so sad and it is sad trying to help someone you love turn their life around and stop taking drugs. But you've been doing this since 2013 is this how you want to live your life? How old are you and her? I guess in your twenties? Have you read the heartache that's in other posts on this website? If you have you will see that we're all fighting for the same thing. Its an on going battle. Things rarely change. Don't pick this kind of life for yourself because there's not much happiness in it. You need to let her go and find a new life for yourself. I'm talking to you as a mother would to her son. Its heartbreaking no matter what you choose to do. It's just that one of the choices over time will eventually heal your heart while the other will just go on and on in an endless life of misery. It's terrible to say this but it's how I feel and truth be told I'm sure others on here feel the same. Good luck Quinton I wish you well. God bless Mary.
I have to agree. I keep saying that my sons needs a girl friend to straightened him out. Unfortunately the truth is I wouldn't want my daughter dating a addict. It is very long road and the future is so unknown. Don't let her addiction turn your into something you are not. Find your happiness again and be the person you want to be. Tough but your future may just depend on it
Quinton,
My daughter is 20, beautiful, smart....but leading a very sad, totally miserable existence. I have told her boyfriend to leave her. He deserves better. (Although I wonder lately if he's giving her drugs. That's another story in & of itself.)
My point is she uses him. That sadly, is what addicts do. We are a means to an end for them. They see people they can 'play' when they look at us. Recently I heard her say to a friend on the phone, how she hated having to pretend she loves him. You see, she gets whatever she wants from him. She's living with him while he works full time. She's unemployed, has no car, no money , no school...nothing. He feeds her, buys her make-up, cigs, out to eat, etc....Is that really what you want for yourself?
You sound like a good soul. Find someone that can love you for who you are. Not for what you can give them.
Please remember, I'm a mom....of an adult daughter..... a heroin addict. Her future looks dismal. I hate to be so blunt, but you deserve better than someone like my kid.
love & God bless,
Dee
My daughter is 20, beautiful, smart....but leading a very sad, totally miserable existence. I have told her boyfriend to leave her. He deserves better. (Although I wonder lately if he's giving her drugs. That's another story in & of itself.)
My point is she uses him. That sadly, is what addicts do. We are a means to an end for them. They see people they can 'play' when they look at us. Recently I heard her say to a friend on the phone, how she hated having to pretend she loves him. You see, she gets whatever she wants from him. She's living with him while he works full time. She's unemployed, has no car, no money , no school...nothing. He feeds her, buys her make-up, cigs, out to eat, etc....Is that really what you want for yourself?
You sound like a good soul. Find someone that can love you for who you are. Not for what you can give them.
Please remember, I'm a mom....of an adult daughter..... a heroin addict. Her future looks dismal. I hate to be so blunt, but you deserve better than someone like my kid.
love & God bless,
Dee
