Hello,
I am in need of information on loving an addict new to recovery.
My bf of 8 years just went into detox, finally. He is a severe cocaine, alchohol, gambling and I believe everything addict. It is great news he finally has sought recovery. What put him there was a train wreck for me. Despite my best semi-codependent attempts at loving and helping him my return on investment was lies and betrayal on multiple levels with multiple people which was the breaking point when I found it out. There is also mental health issue on board.
I am reading up on addiction, codependency, mediating and maintaining my distance. He will get out of detox and I don't want to be unsupportive or abandon him but am at a loss of where to go from here.
Can anyone enlighten me on resources, books or past experiences that worked?
Work a program...as we must do....your living with an addict....it doesn't end when we get clean...it just begins.. if your staying with him...find alanon or Naranon meetings in your area ...you cant fix this...understand us...or control it...you will need to know how to help yourself....
Con
Con
Thank you Con
Ditto...what Con said!
