As I have said in a previous post I am sober two weeks it feels great and the cravings are lessening every day ...but is it normal to feel like now that you cant drink what will you do to have fun....I know this sounds crazy...but I am jealous of normal people who can have a few drinks and stop....wish I didnt have such an damn addictive personality. I have kind of been feeling blah since I stopped drinking and I am assuring myself that this is just a side effect. I am keeping my mind active and reminded myself that many many other people have wonderful fun lives without drinking all day...thoughts like these keep me going.
I know the best is yet to come...but you know its hard sometime...recovering..
I just felt like venting...Cant wait to meet new and fun sober friends...
Welcome to the boards and welcome to sobriety! I just got back from an AA Oldtimer's event at our local Alano club. Folks with 25 or more years of sobriety spoke about how they do it one day at a time, we had a huge luncheon and raffles, all kinds of stuff going on. I've found a great network of sober friends in the meeting rooms of AA; we have dances, dinners, parties...it's a lot fun! Are you attending AA meetings?
I think an AA meeting is just what I need...! Not only will I be able to meet people like myself but we can all support each other... possibly I will meet new sober friends...!
hey spider Yes it is normal to feel that way.I thought once I gave up drinking that fun would be over. It's finding different things to do and changing your lifestyle. At first when I gave up drinking I felt so empty. it was like I lost my best friend. life was dull, I hated everything around me. In short I was a pain in the butt. Now I am learning though that I don't need alcohol to enjoy myself. Sure its different and I used to wish I could drink like "normal" people. I felt envious of them the same as you do. But I have ACCEPTED the fact that I can't . So there is no point in dwelling on what ifs or wishes . We have to accept what we are and be WILLING to live a life without alcohol because that is the only way we will live a decent life.Really think about what your life was like drinking and what it's like now without the booze. Write a list of good things in your life these past two weeks since you gave up drinking compared to the bad things you felt when you were drinking. Who wants a life of shame,guilt,despair ,lies,and lost days and nights ? NOT ME and I know neither do YOU. Hang in there spider stay positive and I can assure you everything you feel ,think and breathe is normal ,well as normal as we alkies can get lol (just joking). You will do fine. Alcohol is cunning it will try and get in your head and tell you to let it back in your life. be stronger than that .You and only you have the power to stop drinking but there are lots here who will help you through ,all you have to do is ask.Take care and I'm rooting for you girl I really am.
