Hi ihave a friend Ive known for 3 years. I always noticed she had to have a beer everytime i was there day or night. But she would always just have one or two so i thought it was no big deal. I also have noticed that on certain days she is much happier and sweeter than usual. Then one night she picked me up to watch a movie at my friends house that she was meeting for the first time. She had a huge mug with homemade alcohol that she was drinking as she drove me over there. As we were going over she said i just want you to know that every single night I get sh*t faced drunk i have to or iscream and yell at everybody. Of course i kind of freaked out because my small child had been being taken over there for play dateslately. After that night she has not said a word about it .She still has her daily beers for lunch but just never talks to me about it. I don't feel close enough to her to question her unless she brings it up again but I am worried that maybe she is driving her own children around impaired. I have never been a drinker so i don't really know what is going too far and what could be considered normal. Does this sound as if she has a serious problem or just maybe a hevier drinker than normal? thank you for any advice or help.
Sounds like an alcoholic to me Princess Mommy - but only the alcoholic themselves can truly say that for sure.
How close a friend is she?
If she's close friend, perhaps you could say to her something like: I've been really concerned for you after what you said about needing to drink so much, if you ever feel like you need help or support for your drinking I'm here for you. Maybe you could obtain and give her a pamphlet on AA.
But, once you do that leave it be. She won't quit drinking cause you nag her to or want her to or anyone else.
She has got to want to fix her life. But sometimes something like leaving a pamphlet or just saying a supportive word can be the trigger to get someone to face up to their problems.
If your friend is drinking like that during the day I would seriously re-consider leaving your child with her.
I'm an alcoholic and when I drank heavily during the day I would often pass out and nothing or no-one could wake me - the house could've burned down and I would have been crispy toast.
If she's only drinking a little during the day MAYBE its OK. But remember alcoholism is a progressive disease. If she doesn't get help she will get worse.
Also, many alcoholics do other types of drugs as well.
I think you need to sit her down and ask her kindly but firmly about her level of drinking and if she's taking anything else and then make a decision about leaving your child in her care.
How close a friend is she?
If she's close friend, perhaps you could say to her something like: I've been really concerned for you after what you said about needing to drink so much, if you ever feel like you need help or support for your drinking I'm here for you. Maybe you could obtain and give her a pamphlet on AA.
But, once you do that leave it be. She won't quit drinking cause you nag her to or want her to or anyone else.
She has got to want to fix her life. But sometimes something like leaving a pamphlet or just saying a supportive word can be the trigger to get someone to face up to their problems.
If your friend is drinking like that during the day I would seriously re-consider leaving your child with her.
I'm an alcoholic and when I drank heavily during the day I would often pass out and nothing or no-one could wake me - the house could've burned down and I would have been crispy toast.
If she's only drinking a little during the day MAYBE its OK. But remember alcoholism is a progressive disease. If she doesn't get help she will get worse.
Also, many alcoholics do other types of drugs as well.
I think you need to sit her down and ask her kindly but firmly about her level of drinking and if she's taking anything else and then make a decision about leaving your child in her care.
