I have stuck W/ my husband for five yerrs 4 kids , abuse addiction, tweeked out burning down our house , forgetting to pick me and our baby up from the hospital after i gave birth , black eyes and he still craves !! He has been clean longest about 1 year then a two month slip now he has been clean agin for 10 months but Isee him thinking alot( i know what he thinks about i have seen it before)) We allready moved 2 houndred miles away from every one what elece can i do??? I love him and i have allways helped him i have never left him but i don't know if i can do it agin!!!!
I don't know what to say but I want to try to be here for you. You have been through some stuff and NEED someone to talk to! I am new still but have had so many suggestions about NA/AA. Is that something he has pursued? Or maybe he needs to be on here too! But I know most men are pretty prideful and prefer to be shut up inside so maybe that's not something he would do. But whatever the case, I will listen whenever you need someone to!
Flip flop I am sooo glad to hear from so me one and i will bring my hubby to this fourm he is wants help so bad he hates him self 4 w/ he has done.When he is clean he is the best loveing person any one could know and a good daddy a grate hubby. BUT when that stuff hits it hits hard i am shure every one hear knows that!! His has told me the only thing he wants in life is me and our kids a good job and to never brake week to it agin I have seen him slip a few times and it kills him he hates him self so bad the last time he almost tried to kill him self.
Relapsing to meth does happen , but stress is a huge trigger to all addicts , I'm not saying that using once in a while is ok, just that slips do happen . the fact that he gets so upset with himself iis good , but instead of beating himself up , learn from it!! what lead to his using again ? look for the "triggers" that cause the cravings . maybe if those can be avoided it will help.
Monnie, I know this is going to sound harsh, but you don't need to leave him -- he left you a long time ago -- to selfishly wallow in a substance.
Take care of yourself and your children first -- only after you take care of yourself can you begin to think about helping your addict. You are not in a safe place.
Take care of yourself and your children first -- only after you take care of yourself can you begin to think about helping your addict. You are not in a safe place.
Monnie,
I have been where you are at....my husband was addicted to crack. He beat me, broke us financially, my house went up for sheriff sale, and i have 3 kids one who is special needs...he left me at the hospital also when my special child was born...my son was life flighted out and had brain surgery at 11 hours old and I was all alone. All I can say is that I had to get tough. When he did anything (hit me, had drugs etc.) I had him arrested and a protection from abuse put on him. I can honestly say it was very hard. He had to hit rock bottom on his own. I got alot of support from my pastor and my church. family only made it worse. When he hit bottom he became clean and has been off of crack for 7 years. But now to only find out that he is stuck on roxicodone...He isn't abusive with this drug, but none the less its another addiction. and its hurting us financially again. I will pray for you and your children and husband, I understand the staying because you love him, I did the same thing. God, prayer, and faith brought me through.
I have been where you are at....my husband was addicted to crack. He beat me, broke us financially, my house went up for sheriff sale, and i have 3 kids one who is special needs...he left me at the hospital also when my special child was born...my son was life flighted out and had brain surgery at 11 hours old and I was all alone. All I can say is that I had to get tough. When he did anything (hit me, had drugs etc.) I had him arrested and a protection from abuse put on him. I can honestly say it was very hard. He had to hit rock bottom on his own. I got alot of support from my pastor and my church. family only made it worse. When he hit bottom he became clean and has been off of crack for 7 years. But now to only find out that he is stuck on roxicodone...He isn't abusive with this drug, but none the less its another addiction. and its hurting us financially again. I will pray for you and your children and husband, I understand the staying because you love him, I did the same thing. God, prayer, and faith brought me through.
