When we get a mix of addicts together things can get pretty crazy. I wanted to share some of my thoughts in regards to communication and interaction amongst addicts.
Maybe some of these words will evoke enlightenment within some of us and things will improve in all areas of our lives.
Patterns that we react to most strongly in others and misperceive as their identity tend to be the same patterns that are also inside you but you are unwilling or unable to detect within ourselves.
What is it about that person that bothers you? Why do they upset you or disturb you in the least? Is it their greed? Their dishonesty, insincerity, propensity to violence or outlashing?
Anything you resent and strongly react to in another is also in you.
But, it is no more than a form of ego, and as such, it is completely impersonal. It has nothing to do with who the person is, nor does it have anything to do with whom you are.
Only if you mistake it for who you are can observing it within you be threatening to your sense of self.
There isnt a single soul here that doesnt want peace in our lives. Yet, some of us have to have drama and conflict. You may not think so at the moment. You may need to wait for a situation or simply a thought that triggers a reaction in you: someones accusing you of something, not acknowledging you, questioning the way you do things.
Now, do you feel that surge of force moving through you? The fear, perhaps being masked by anger and hostility? Can you hear your own voice becoming more harsh and loud?
Good. Be aware of this conscious state and control your actions from YOU not the ego. Feel your mind racing to defend its judgement or position? Feeling the need to justify, blame, make others accountable?
You can feel the war inside of you, something that feels threatened and wants to survive at all costs, that needs that drama in order to assert its identity as victorious!
Can you feel that there is something inside of you that would rather be right than at peace?
If so, feel that. That something inside you is the war and drama. Not the situation or person. Take control then. If we do that, we can react with our conscious minds, lacking of all addictions, baggage, programmed thoughts or judgements.
To me, thats peace. May it too be with you!
That is one heck of a Post.
Jeff
Jeff
I dont say much but when I do, I dont talk just to hear my head rattle. Verbose is never good.
Thank you :)
Thank you :)
wow.....................
your amazing.
thank you for this post...........i like it, makes sense to me............
i hope you stick around.
thumper
your amazing.
thank you for this post...........i like it, makes sense to me............
i hope you stick around.
thumper
Very well said,
Thank-you
Krazi/Traci
Thank-you
Krazi/Traci
Its sad to me old schooler that someone posts exactly the problems here yet all the
"BULLIES"--Children whatever you want to call them? No response to this?
Hey I have in the past got mixed up in some B.S as I just have a problem with a certain person. Finally figured if I stay away from this person? No more B.S
Its hard sometimes but it can be done And this person is not BAD just SICK and for me not a positive energy. . So i am staying away.To the best of my ability
Old schooler this board is very divided and that's sad. Hopefully it will fix itself.
It can be done.
There is always going to be some drama but I am proud i stayed out of the latest. And after reading all the crap that went on over the weekend? Yet no opinion on your note.
This is why all these people have been fighting for years. Long before i was around. Same people --Its kinda sad--These people are sponsoring others? profess AA yet they act out like very diseased people IMO
Man there are a few people who should read this and take it to heart
And again AWESOME POST
Have a good night--Jeff
P.S This is JUST MY OPINION but the lets get along for christmas /HOLIDAY SPIRIT is a crock.
CALL ME SCROOGE--
Its all talk until the people who have been fighting with the world take ACTION
"BULLIES"--Children whatever you want to call them? No response to this?
Hey I have in the past got mixed up in some B.S as I just have a problem with a certain person. Finally figured if I stay away from this person? No more B.S
Its hard sometimes but it can be done And this person is not BAD just SICK and for me not a positive energy. . So i am staying away.To the best of my ability
Old schooler this board is very divided and that's sad. Hopefully it will fix itself.
It can be done.
There is always going to be some drama but I am proud i stayed out of the latest. And after reading all the crap that went on over the weekend? Yet no opinion on your note.
This is why all these people have been fighting for years. Long before i was around. Same people --Its kinda sad--These people are sponsoring others? profess AA yet they act out like very diseased people IMO
Man there are a few people who should read this and take it to heart
And again AWESOME POST
Have a good night--Jeff
P.S This is JUST MY OPINION but the lets get along for christmas /HOLIDAY SPIRIT is a crock.
CALL ME SCROOGE--
Its all talk until the people who have been fighting with the world take ACTION
Scrouge....j/k...
I didn't reply because I don't feel those feelings of anger or needing to be right anymore..not only has God relieved my of the obsession to take drugs/alcohol, he's also filled the void with peace and serenity and with that comes calm.....
I pray to my HP, whom I call God and I let things go today...being right doesn't matter to me anymore, doing God's will matters and when/if I have any of the previous posted feelings start to surface, I immediately look at myself not project on others and I also have learned the true meaning of forgiveness.....
Merry Christmas....How about those Bears.....
Stacey
I didn't reply because I don't feel those feelings of anger or needing to be right anymore..not only has God relieved my of the obsession to take drugs/alcohol, he's also filled the void with peace and serenity and with that comes calm.....
I pray to my HP, whom I call God and I let things go today...being right doesn't matter to me anymore, doing God's will matters and when/if I have any of the previous posted feelings start to surface, I immediately look at myself not project on others and I also have learned the true meaning of forgiveness.....
Merry Christmas....How about those Bears.....
Stacey
I enjoyed this post very much, as I enjoyed the one from yesterday!
I would like to also add: We are ALL human, thus, we all have shortcomings. I think during this holiday season, I would like to see us all give one another the benefit of the doubt. Also, I would like to see us focus on one another's great qualities...and dismiss our shortcomings for just this season.
We all have them...great qualities and shortcomings.
And in my opinion...we are all sick. Not just one or two! But that is not how we define ourselves and it certainly should not be the way we define one another.
No one on this forum deserves to be defined that way. It isn't kind and it isn't the kind of language that will help us grow towards peace.
Thank you Old Schooler...I am glad you are posting your wisdom!
Sarah
I would like to also add: We are ALL human, thus, we all have shortcomings. I think during this holiday season, I would like to see us all give one another the benefit of the doubt. Also, I would like to see us focus on one another's great qualities...and dismiss our shortcomings for just this season.
We all have them...great qualities and shortcomings.
And in my opinion...we are all sick. Not just one or two! But that is not how we define ourselves and it certainly should not be the way we define one another.
No one on this forum deserves to be defined that way. It isn't kind and it isn't the kind of language that will help us grow towards peace.
Thank you Old Schooler...I am glad you are posting your wisdom!
Sarah
Sarah you are 100% we are all sick. And none of us are bad. I guess after all the negativity I personally looked at my part and have made changes.
Some people may take my comment about the holiday and all the lovey dovey crap but that's JMO.
If everybody looks at there part in the drama and takes ACTION to work on there character defects the board will fix itself. But it will take some time. It just does not go away because its the holiday season.
I have so much crap going on--health -financial family THE BIG THREE--going to my doctor tomorrow. I have some medical issues.
Last thing I need is ANY negativity. I need all my energy to be focused on positives.
But I just live for today. It was a decent day.
I live for today and tomorrow will come.
Have a good night --Jeff
Some people may take my comment about the holiday and all the lovey dovey crap but that's JMO.
If everybody looks at there part in the drama and takes ACTION to work on there character defects the board will fix itself. But it will take some time. It just does not go away because its the holiday season.
I have so much crap going on--health -financial family THE BIG THREE--going to my doctor tomorrow. I have some medical issues.
Last thing I need is ANY negativity. I need all my energy to be focused on positives.
But I just live for today. It was a decent day.
I live for today and tomorrow will come.
Have a good night --Jeff
Jeff...
Good for you reaching for the positive! I am with you on the day to day. Today was a better day for me, because I got some lights up...a little fresh garland around, so it is smelling nice, and feeling a little more like the people who live here are happy and celebrating the holidays!
I hope your medical stuff improves...and your family enjoys the holiday. The money stuff is not life or death, so let it go!
I think the forum could use all the lovey dovey it can get right now. I see this place as somewhat "bleeding". There is enough anger and hostility in the world...we should all be able to feel safe here. It is the only refuge for some. I personally think we can all do just a little more to keep peace here, and as you say, it will fix itself! I look forward to that!
You have a good evening too Jeff...I loved that Saints' game last night! What a wonderful thing! Saints in the Superbowl???? Unbelievable!!!!
Sarah
Good for you reaching for the positive! I am with you on the day to day. Today was a better day for me, because I got some lights up...a little fresh garland around, so it is smelling nice, and feeling a little more like the people who live here are happy and celebrating the holidays!
I hope your medical stuff improves...and your family enjoys the holiday. The money stuff is not life or death, so let it go!
I think the forum could use all the lovey dovey it can get right now. I see this place as somewhat "bleeding". There is enough anger and hostility in the world...we should all be able to feel safe here. It is the only refuge for some. I personally think we can all do just a little more to keep peace here, and as you say, it will fix itself! I look forward to that!
You have a good evening too Jeff...I loved that Saints' game last night! What a wonderful thing! Saints in the Superbowl???? Unbelievable!!!!
Sarah
Sarah I know lots of people have problems during the holidays. But that's why they have marathon AA /NA so nobody on this board has to be alone on the holidays.
Sarah I am amazed what transpired over the weekend. it was like watching people drink at a bar and get stupid.
If people really made up? Great. I am done with the Drama crap. Will always have a few cents to throw in now and then LOL never say never.
POSITIVE ENERGY-I just cant stop projecting. That's my problem. Cause whatever happens to me will happen. So why worry. I am much better at fighting the projecting but so many things are on my plate. Its hard. But I can handle
-God I am not looking forward to tomorrow.
How the PUCK did the yget Reggie Bush. Deuce? Reggie--I think they can beat the bears.
We will see.
My giants are so done.
Jeff
Sarah I am amazed what transpired over the weekend. it was like watching people drink at a bar and get stupid.
If people really made up? Great. I am done with the Drama crap. Will always have a few cents to throw in now and then LOL never say never.
POSITIVE ENERGY-I just cant stop projecting. That's my problem. Cause whatever happens to me will happen. So why worry. I am much better at fighting the projecting but so many things are on my plate. Its hard. But I can handle
-God I am not looking forward to tomorrow.
How the PUCK did the yget Reggie Bush. Deuce? Reggie--I think they can beat the bears.
We will see.
My giants are so done.
Jeff
Projecting is a tough one.
I struggle with that one too...but control is really just an illusion...I know this with my big mind...it is my little pea brain that gets me into trouble there!
I have a lot of life changing things happening in my world...and more to come in the near future...so, I am at a crossroads. I am really trying to let go, and let it unfold for me...when I try to make this or that happen, I always get twisted up like a candy cane...tight, tense, bitchy and sad. For my sake, and the sake of anyone who has to deal with me...I have had to MAKE myself let go.
I know I am a hard working, smart woman...I will figure it out. I have the support of a smart, hard working man...so, we will be fine.
The weekend was bad. Let's try to forget. There is nothing from this weekend that can serve anything good...I am moving away from that...and loving the friendly banter that is here now! Count our blessings, right???
I hope tomorrow goes okay for you as well. And sorry about your Giants....wanna become a late season Saints' fan??? You know, we are real friendly down here in Louisiana!!!! We never meet a stranger, and feed people real well! lol.
I struggle with that one too...but control is really just an illusion...I know this with my big mind...it is my little pea brain that gets me into trouble there!
I have a lot of life changing things happening in my world...and more to come in the near future...so, I am at a crossroads. I am really trying to let go, and let it unfold for me...when I try to make this or that happen, I always get twisted up like a candy cane...tight, tense, bitchy and sad. For my sake, and the sake of anyone who has to deal with me...I have had to MAKE myself let go.
I know I am a hard working, smart woman...I will figure it out. I have the support of a smart, hard working man...so, we will be fine.
The weekend was bad. Let's try to forget. There is nothing from this weekend that can serve anything good...I am moving away from that...and loving the friendly banter that is here now! Count our blessings, right???
I hope tomorrow goes okay for you as well. And sorry about your Giants....wanna become a late season Saints' fan??? You know, we are real friendly down here in Louisiana!!!! We never meet a stranger, and feed people real well! lol.
I'm really glad you're posting again Skyler. You make an awful lot of sense. What I get out of this is that when we think the worst of someone, it's usually a part of us that we are objecting too. So in other words, don't throw stones. You may not always be right or justified.
Always good to see you post Sarah...
Always good to see you post Sarah...
I'm not a foosball fan, but hell...I just gotta say in disbelief
"The Ain'ts in the superbowl???"
"The Ain'ts in the superbowl???"
LISA!!!
Hey Ma'am! I am totally procrastinating on reading for my class tomorrow! I am telling you, I have become something of a slacker...which as you know is not me!
How are you this evening?
I have been thinking about you all day! I did a little decorating this afternoon and it made husband sooooooooo happy! I feel good about that!
I like those posts by Skylar too! There was one yesterday that was really great!
I love ya!
Sarah
Hey Ma'am! I am totally procrastinating on reading for my class tomorrow! I am telling you, I have become something of a slacker...which as you know is not me!
How are you this evening?
I have been thinking about you all day! I did a little decorating this afternoon and it made husband sooooooooo happy! I feel good about that!
I like those posts by Skylar too! There was one yesterday that was really great!
I love ya!
Sarah
Thanks for the post, Skylar. I loved reading it and also enjoyed the one you posted yesterday. Unfortunately, I didn't copy it. I wish I would have saved it.
Peace,
~Rachel
Peace,
~Rachel
okay...i gotta turn in...long day tomorrow.
i missed you lisa! miss you lisa! i will try to mail you in the morning. check your oil! sleep tight and sweet dreams!
hey rachel! love ya sister. thanks for your sweet email today! made me feel good!
talk to you later.
peace. peace.
sarah
i missed you lisa! miss you lisa! i will try to mail you in the morning. check your oil! sleep tight and sweet dreams!
hey rachel! love ya sister. thanks for your sweet email today! made me feel good!
talk to you later.
peace. peace.
sarah
I love you too Sarah and I'm sorry I missed you earlier.
I'm off to bed...one day to go.
Hugs
Lisa
I'm off to bed...one day to go.
Hugs
Lisa
Thank you all for commenting on my thoughts.
Im possessed with them which is a lot of what lead to my addiction.
I was always so different, like I knew something others didnt. And I didnt even know what that something was. Frustrating and lacking of my path, drugs made my thoughts stop. Peace be with me.
It was all a sick, vicious cycle of wondering around in the woods, turning in circles looking into the sky for direction, lost. Lost in the sense I almost feel like I live in a different dimension than most.
Probably sounds lou-lou but enlightment/awareness/Presence is just that, utter bliss. It makes me feel good to have an outlet. It makes me feel honored to be heard.
It makes me feel thrilled to vent and others benefit. What am I if i cant merely spread a bit of well-being upon anyone that can receive the thoughts and words my God blessed me with.
Thank you for allowing me that forum.
Im possessed with them which is a lot of what lead to my addiction.
I was always so different, like I knew something others didnt. And I didnt even know what that something was. Frustrating and lacking of my path, drugs made my thoughts stop. Peace be with me.
It was all a sick, vicious cycle of wondering around in the woods, turning in circles looking into the sky for direction, lost. Lost in the sense I almost feel like I live in a different dimension than most.
Probably sounds lou-lou but enlightment/awareness/Presence is just that, utter bliss. It makes me feel good to have an outlet. It makes me feel honored to be heard.
It makes me feel thrilled to vent and others benefit. What am I if i cant merely spread a bit of well-being upon anyone that can receive the thoughts and words my God blessed me with.
Thank you for allowing me that forum.
skyler..............your nice.
God Bless you skyler.
thumper
God Bless you skyler.
thumper
