...Girl and anyone else I missed (like Zac, Sober2Day, Pregnant Mom) and really whoever else I've missed...so glad to have bonded with all of you...we are getting some good dialogue in recovery going here...minus the drama. Let's keep checkin' in and being accountable to each to stay sober. "We" can do it one day at time!
Second that VW Girl - so glad to have found this safe place to share also.
I love reading all your posts, you all inspire, provoke thought and introspection and refrain from judgement. A good group on this particular board.
It is my sincere hope that you will all be here to share in my recovery moving forward, and that I can share in all your recovery's moving forward.
Idgie.
I love reading all your posts, you all inspire, provoke thought and introspection and refrain from judgement. A good group on this particular board.
It is my sincere hope that you will all be here to share in my recovery moving forward, and that I can share in all your recovery's moving forward.
Idgie.
Hi all,
Thank you VW Girl!
I dont know what I would do without this site,
It has, and you have,,, you all have helped me stay sober,
It was 15 mths yesterday for me!!!!
I get on here everyday after work and check to see whats been written, and it does help me!!!!
Yes we have a good bonding here now, Good to see!
Well time for tea, my sister in law is cooking tonite and if Im not ready when the food is I will be in BIG trouble!
Zac you can relate to that ay??!!!
Take care Ginge
Thank you VW Girl!
I dont know what I would do without this site,
It has, and you have,,, you all have helped me stay sober,
It was 15 mths yesterday for me!!!!
I get on here everyday after work and check to see whats been written, and it does help me!!!!
Yes we have a good bonding here now, Good to see!
Well time for tea, my sister in law is cooking tonite and if Im not ready when the food is I will be in BIG trouble!
Zac you can relate to that ay??!!!
Take care Ginge
Good morning everyone! Hope you're all doing good today.
VWGirl, great idea! You can count me in for sure! Also thanks for the advice on the other thread.(About Mr. Jayde and i ) I know i am not innocent in the matter at all, but i'm trying to change, and it's really hard when you have someone trying to bring you down. I was just really mad and bummed out yesterday and had to get it out. I know i shouldn't make any major decisions right now, and i won't, but some days i just want to choke him! lol... (don't worry, i won't do that either) but thanks for letting me vent. I don't talk about my personal life with anyone else, so i really appreciate it. You guys have already been a big help to me in my recovery, and i always look forward to seeing what you all have posted. Let's keep a good thing going! Thanks again for being here for me;)
WOW GINGE!!!!!! CONGRATS ON 15 MONTHS!!!!! THAT"S HUGE :)
Keep posting, looking forward to getting to know you!
LOVEDOVE....YOOOO HOOOO! Are you ok? I'm thinking of you, and hoping to hear from you soon!
Have a good day everyone...i'll check in later ;)
VWGirl, great idea! You can count me in for sure! Also thanks for the advice on the other thread.(About Mr. Jayde and i ) I know i am not innocent in the matter at all, but i'm trying to change, and it's really hard when you have someone trying to bring you down. I was just really mad and bummed out yesterday and had to get it out. I know i shouldn't make any major decisions right now, and i won't, but some days i just want to choke him! lol... (don't worry, i won't do that either) but thanks for letting me vent. I don't talk about my personal life with anyone else, so i really appreciate it. You guys have already been a big help to me in my recovery, and i always look forward to seeing what you all have posted. Let's keep a good thing going! Thanks again for being here for me;)
WOW GINGE!!!!!! CONGRATS ON 15 MONTHS!!!!! THAT"S HUGE :)
Keep posting, looking forward to getting to know you!
LOVEDOVE....YOOOO HOOOO! Are you ok? I'm thinking of you, and hoping to hear from you soon!
Have a good day everyone...i'll check in later ;)
I'm checking in and pledging to all of you that I will remain sober today...let's "trudge the road of happy destiny" together (that's from the Big Book too!) See, I don't think all this stuff up by myself...LOL!
Ginge, way to go, 15 months already! Congratulations. I remember when you first started posting here...time goes so quickly, good thing we are living sober today!
Ginge, way to go, 15 months already! Congratulations. I remember when you first started posting here...time goes so quickly, good thing we are living sober today!
VWGirl....here i thought you were coming up with all this stuff yourself! lol....kidding, i have the AA Big Book and Twenty-Four Hours a day, and The Little Red Book. I still read them once in awhile.
I have been waiting for you to ask me if i am working any kind of program, but you haven't.... so i will fill you in ;) lol...
I did go to AA for about 2 months (2-3 meetings a week) at the beginning of last year. I got a temporary sponsor, (who i didn't feel comfortable with at all) she was bi-polar and she was like night and day....and to be totally honest with you, i was scared to death of her! Plus i live in the sticks and there is only 1 AA Group, and (don't get me wrong there were a few great people) but most of the people that were there were court ordered to be there, and i guess the group just didn't seem to be what i was looking for at the time. There are alot of things i like about AA, and i still use some of the things i learned, but there are also some things that i don't agree with, so i just take what helps me from it and leave what don't. Although...i have been thinking about going back, but i'm not sure yet. There might be a new meeting by now.
Another program that i have greatly benefited from is SMART Recovery. (Self-Management And Recovery Training) There are no meetings in my area, but i am a member of the site (don't go on there anymore because it was too clicky for me) but i use the SMART tools on a daily basis. STOP THOUGHT is my favorite. It has taught me (with some practice of course) how to stop a craving in it's tracks. It has worked for me hundreds of times, i swear!
I also read all kinds of recovery books. I love them and am open to suggestions if anyone has any. I have never read a recovery book that didn't help me in one way or another.
I want to make it very clear that i think AA is a wonderful thing, it has worked for millions of people, and has helped them to stay sober one day at a time, and i think that is great! For me...well i guess it takes a mixture of different things, i've always had to be the difficult one ;)
So i guess what i'm trying to say is i have sort of come up with my own little "Recover Program" that works for me...(It hasn't always worked, but getting better all the time ;) It consists of a few different tools from SMART, some AA, ( I do say the serenity prayer often) and have worked most of the steps, a daily journal or diary, and now this wonderful board and you wonderful people!!!!!
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!!
.............................and now you know a little more about me;)
I have been waiting for you to ask me if i am working any kind of program, but you haven't.... so i will fill you in ;) lol...
I did go to AA for about 2 months (2-3 meetings a week) at the beginning of last year. I got a temporary sponsor, (who i didn't feel comfortable with at all) she was bi-polar and she was like night and day....and to be totally honest with you, i was scared to death of her! Plus i live in the sticks and there is only 1 AA Group, and (don't get me wrong there were a few great people) but most of the people that were there were court ordered to be there, and i guess the group just didn't seem to be what i was looking for at the time. There are alot of things i like about AA, and i still use some of the things i learned, but there are also some things that i don't agree with, so i just take what helps me from it and leave what don't. Although...i have been thinking about going back, but i'm not sure yet. There might be a new meeting by now.
Another program that i have greatly benefited from is SMART Recovery. (Self-Management And Recovery Training) There are no meetings in my area, but i am a member of the site (don't go on there anymore because it was too clicky for me) but i use the SMART tools on a daily basis. STOP THOUGHT is my favorite. It has taught me (with some practice of course) how to stop a craving in it's tracks. It has worked for me hundreds of times, i swear!
I also read all kinds of recovery books. I love them and am open to suggestions if anyone has any. I have never read a recovery book that didn't help me in one way or another.
I want to make it very clear that i think AA is a wonderful thing, it has worked for millions of people, and has helped them to stay sober one day at a time, and i think that is great! For me...well i guess it takes a mixture of different things, i've always had to be the difficult one ;)
So i guess what i'm trying to say is i have sort of come up with my own little "Recover Program" that works for me...(It hasn't always worked, but getting better all the time ;) It consists of a few different tools from SMART, some AA, ( I do say the serenity prayer often) and have worked most of the steps, a daily journal or diary, and now this wonderful board and you wonderful people!!!!!
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!!
.............................and now you know a little more about me;)
Good Morning gals!! :) Sounds like everyone is doing great!! I have been sooo tired these past couple of days, I couldn't even make it to the computer!!! Thanks so much for your thoughts and concern Jayde :) I'm so pleased that we have all bonded so well, Jayde you mentioned the Smart Recovery program, I have heard about that and there is a meeting here in my town on Thursday nights, might be a great option. I'm doing good though, had one glass of wine with mom on Mother's Day, we had a great time together, and she is so proud of my decision to take better care of me, and for not allowing alcohol to control my life, The old way just wasn't working anymore, everytime whether it was something to celebrate or something to cry about I would drink, I did have that slip,but maybe I needed that just to reaffirm what I don't want.
Love you gals (and guys) thanks for being here! and God Bless You!!
Lovedove :)
Love you gals (and guys) thanks for being here! and God Bless You!!
Lovedove :)
Good morning everyone, and thanks for that post VWGirl! It really is nice, and helpful, to have a kind of safe haven where there is support and encouragement, since like a lot of us, I don't really have anyone in my life to talk about this with. Ginge, congrats on 15 months - that's fantastic! Love-dove, I know all about the whole "had a good/bad day so therefore I deserve a drink" - something to celebrate? Have a drink! Something to be upset about? Have a drink! That's still hard for me, I got so much accomplished this weekend this little voice kept saying "just have a drink - you've earned it!" But I didn't and feel good about that. I'm glad you've been able to not do it too. :) And Jayde, I think venting is one of the purposes of this board; if it helps, go ahead and do it! I'm sure I will do plenty of venting here myself over time... just a taste to follow...
I have some issues with my bf, but nothing to do with him being bad in any way... he's actually a wonderful guy. I guess I feel dishonest in a way since he doesn't know about my issues with alcohol, and he is a "professional" social drinker - whooping it up with the boys every weekend, straight as an arrow all week. It's a little irritating that he can do that but that's my issue, not his. But I'm definitely not ready to talk to him about it. My saving grace at this point is that I only see him a few times a week (and haven't seen him in a week as he's been away), so my sudden decision to not drink has thus far gone mostly unnoticed. I guess eventually he's going to have to find out, but I'll jump off that bridge when I come to it, haha.
Anyway I hope everyone is having a wonderful morning! I have a bit of a headache but it's not hangover-induced so I don't actually mind that much. Everyone stay in touch - my friend is coming over tonight to help me try to fix my computer so hopefully soon I can post from home again.
I have some issues with my bf, but nothing to do with him being bad in any way... he's actually a wonderful guy. I guess I feel dishonest in a way since he doesn't know about my issues with alcohol, and he is a "professional" social drinker - whooping it up with the boys every weekend, straight as an arrow all week. It's a little irritating that he can do that but that's my issue, not his. But I'm definitely not ready to talk to him about it. My saving grace at this point is that I only see him a few times a week (and haven't seen him in a week as he's been away), so my sudden decision to not drink has thus far gone mostly unnoticed. I guess eventually he's going to have to find out, but I'll jump off that bridge when I come to it, haha.
Anyway I hope everyone is having a wonderful morning! I have a bit of a headache but it's not hangover-induced so I don't actually mind that much. Everyone stay in touch - my friend is coming over tonight to help me try to fix my computer so hopefully soon I can post from home again.
Count me in!!!
I really like the emphasis on recovery and lack of drama here.
I spoke at a halfway house Sat morning and it really felt great...keeps things real for me.
Hope everyone is having a good sober day
love,
Carolyn
I really like the emphasis on recovery and lack of drama here.
I spoke at a halfway house Sat morning and it really felt great...keeps things real for me.
Hope everyone is having a good sober day
love,
Carolyn
Good Evening Everyone...got out of work, went straight to my AA Commuter meeting (I am priviledged to be of service there and have the clean up commitment). So I'm just getting home and what a nice treat to come home and read all of your posts. I know AA is not the only way to get sober (in fact my Sponsor told me that in my early recovery) ~ so I stand in judgment of no one. Whatever works, well then work it! I know for me though I need a Program to work, because if I don't I am "self will run riot", like it talks about in the Big Book. I am finally beginning to feel comfortable in my own skin. I also like the fellowship that AA provides. But anyway, glad to hear everyone is still sober another day! Take good care of yourselves tonight and check in tomorrow sober! Oh btw, I tried everything I thought to get sober except for SMART now that I've never heard of....but aside from that I think I tried everything else.
Hey Everyone Hows things
Ginge 15 months good on ya mate, dont worry about the sister in law shes a big softy at heart although she did knock me down in a pub once with one punch and i was sober my mistake was to pinch her bottom she didnt care who was behind her she came out swinging....mind you she might of been thinking back how 2 months after i married her sis i went to the pub one sunday in good old Hoki stayed till closing, went home, went to go to bed, got up, got dressed, drove 3 hours to City kept drinking, got a one way ticket to London, had another affair flew to Auckland. By this time the police missed me by 20 minutes at airport. Flew to London and preceeded to drink beer and snort coc for 1 month..... and then went home to my wife back in NZ. So maybe there was a glint in her eye when she decked me lol (first time lol took me a while to figure it out).
Anyway it took me 9 years to pay that one trip off so all i can say is thank god for recovery and yes ladys my wife is bloody understanding she always said she could see the person she loved in the sober me. Also i always stand that xtra bit away from my sis in law.
Hey light and love to Love dove, Ciaobella, Idgie, VWGirl, Avondale Girl, Jayde great to see all the posts this site is just tops for my gratitude and recovery to grow.
Light and love Zac
Ginge 15 months good on ya mate, dont worry about the sister in law shes a big softy at heart although she did knock me down in a pub once with one punch and i was sober my mistake was to pinch her bottom she didnt care who was behind her she came out swinging....mind you she might of been thinking back how 2 months after i married her sis i went to the pub one sunday in good old Hoki stayed till closing, went home, went to go to bed, got up, got dressed, drove 3 hours to City kept drinking, got a one way ticket to London, had another affair flew to Auckland. By this time the police missed me by 20 minutes at airport. Flew to London and preceeded to drink beer and snort coc for 1 month..... and then went home to my wife back in NZ. So maybe there was a glint in her eye when she decked me lol (first time lol took me a while to figure it out).
Anyway it took me 9 years to pay that one trip off so all i can say is thank god for recovery and yes ladys my wife is bloody understanding she always said she could see the person she loved in the sober me. Also i always stand that xtra bit away from my sis in law.
Hey light and love to Love dove, Ciaobella, Idgie, VWGirl, Avondale Girl, Jayde great to see all the posts this site is just tops for my gratitude and recovery to grow.
Light and love Zac
Cheers Zac,
Big softie she maybe, but she has put me in my place in the pub before as well!!
Came into the pub and I was having a few bourbons, which at the time where on the NO NO list for me, due to the ol liver problem, She walked up to me grabbed my bourbon woofed down her mouth, called me f@@@head in front of all my mates, and then said "Go on F@@#kn kill yourself, Dont worry about us whos left!!!"
But things are good now that Im off the drink, Zac she even says me an you are two of a kind!!!
Things are all good,
To you who dont know myself and Zac are friends, have the same inlaws sort of,
But now live in different countries,
And beleve me Zac had tried to help me a few times over the yrs to get sober, But he never gave up on me, thanks dude,
Take care all
Ginge,
ps Lovedove can you send me your email, I want to talk Canada :)
Big softie she maybe, but she has put me in my place in the pub before as well!!
Came into the pub and I was having a few bourbons, which at the time where on the NO NO list for me, due to the ol liver problem, She walked up to me grabbed my bourbon woofed down her mouth, called me f@@@head in front of all my mates, and then said "Go on F@@#kn kill yourself, Dont worry about us whos left!!!"
But things are good now that Im off the drink, Zac she even says me an you are two of a kind!!!
Things are all good,
To you who dont know myself and Zac are friends, have the same inlaws sort of,
But now live in different countries,
And beleve me Zac had tried to help me a few times over the yrs to get sober, But he never gave up on me, thanks dude,
Take care all
Ginge,
ps Lovedove can you send me your email, I want to talk Canada :)
Good morning everyone, hope you're all doing good today;)
VWGirl, glad you're doing good! I so admire your dedication to helping other people so freely. You are such a generous and loving soul! You rock!
Hello Carolyn, glad you are here, i love this place too. The great people here have helped me tremendously in the short time i've been here, and i'm so thankful for that. Hope to get to know you!
OMG Zac! and i thought i had some horror stories! Hehe...i wouldn't have wanted to be in your shoes when you went home after a month! Glad you are here, and please keep posting, i love your inspiring posts with a touch of humor ;) God Bless you and your "very understanding" wife!
Lovedove, you are doing great! So glad to hear you had such a good time with your mother. Isn't that a great feeling? It wasn't until a couple years ago that i actually started to become "friends" with my mother. I couldn't believe the person that i was getting to know, and was always that person, but i didn't know it until i "let her in". I wouldn't trade her friendship for the world!
Ok....enough from me for now....hope everyone has a wonderful, SOBER day!
VWGirl, glad you're doing good! I so admire your dedication to helping other people so freely. You are such a generous and loving soul! You rock!
Hello Carolyn, glad you are here, i love this place too. The great people here have helped me tremendously in the short time i've been here, and i'm so thankful for that. Hope to get to know you!
OMG Zac! and i thought i had some horror stories! Hehe...i wouldn't have wanted to be in your shoes when you went home after a month! Glad you are here, and please keep posting, i love your inspiring posts with a touch of humor ;) God Bless you and your "very understanding" wife!
Lovedove, you are doing great! So glad to hear you had such a good time with your mother. Isn't that a great feeling? It wasn't until a couple years ago that i actually started to become "friends" with my mother. I couldn't believe the person that i was getting to know, and was always that person, but i didn't know it until i "let her in". I wouldn't trade her friendship for the world!
Ok....enough from me for now....hope everyone has a wonderful, SOBER day!
Hey Ginge we posted at the same time....didn't mean to leave you out mate!
Glad you are here, and sober today! Wow....that's quite the story with the in-laws. lol....and you and Zac are friends? Too cool!
Have a great day! ;)
Glad you are here, and sober today! Wow....that's quite the story with the in-laws. lol....and you and Zac are friends? Too cool!
Have a great day! ;)
Hi Jayde,
Howdy, yes Me and Zac know each other well, same home town, school, friends etc, but i live in Aussie now,
Well i have had another sober day, done lots of gardening today, its my day off,
Back to work on niteshift for the next 4 nites,
Take care Ginge
Howdy, yes Me and Zac know each other well, same home town, school, friends etc, but i live in Aussie now,
Well i have had another sober day, done lots of gardening today, its my day off,
Back to work on niteshift for the next 4 nites,
Take care Ginge
Hey there!! Good Morning Eh!! that was for you Ginge!! the Eh thing is a typical Canadian thing!! although I don't say it... or do I??? My email address is emc1850@telus.net Would love to talk Canada with you!! I'm waving the flag!!
Big Hugs
lovedove
Big Hugs
lovedove
Hello all my cyber-buds! Hope everyone is doing good today!
VWGirl, you have got to stop working so hard so you have time to stop in and say "HI"! I'm missin' ya ;)
Have a wonderful SOBER day everyone!
VWGirl, you have got to stop working so hard so you have time to stop in and say "HI"! I'm missin' ya ;)
Have a wonderful SOBER day everyone!
Hey, where is VWGirl?? Haven't seen her around... hope she comes back soon! But good morning to everyone!!
Hows things everyone
A little footnote to my London trip was that my wife put my passport in a bank safety deposit box, dont blame her i hear you say. Well 2 years into my sobriety i came home to a little party in my honour and was presented with my passport yeehaa.
Light and love zac
A little footnote to my London trip was that my wife put my passport in a bank safety deposit box, dont blame her i hear you say. Well 2 years into my sobriety i came home to a little party in my honour and was presented with my passport yeehaa.
Light and love zac
Good Evening Everyone - woohoo I'm home from work and am so excited to check in with everyone! I've been working a lot; I plan to take Thursday and Friday off next week in addition to our Memorial Day holiday. Anyhoo, I'm back and so happy to see all the posts and all the progress. Life is good today!
