Jayde, Just wanted to let you know I've been thinking about you and your little boy lately. It warms my heart to know that you are embracing recovery while he is so young...it gave me reason for pause, you see, I didn't get sober until my youngest daughter was 12 almost 13 and my oldest was 16 almost 17. Although our relationship is so much better than it was...they still have a lot to work through and so do I...however, it is what it is...and it took what it took...but if I have one suggestion to anyone out there with children is give yourself the gift of sobriety and in turn you will be giving the greatest gift of all to your children too!
Hi,
Seriously DITTO, to what VW said above. My girls were 10 and 14 when we got sober. As a matter of fact, when I went to my fist meeting this time, my oldest daughter asked me before I left where I was off to. I told her I'm going to a meeting. She said, "Thats good"! She's old enough and realizes dad was a better guy when he used to go to those meetings, and was happy I was going again. Poor kid, when I think of what I put them through. But it can only get better from here, time to create a new and improved past.
Take care.......
Bob
Seriously DITTO, to what VW said above. My girls were 10 and 14 when we got sober. As a matter of fact, when I went to my fist meeting this time, my oldest daughter asked me before I left where I was off to. I told her I'm going to a meeting. She said, "Thats good"! She's old enough and realizes dad was a better guy when he used to go to those meetings, and was happy I was going again. Poor kid, when I think of what I put them through. But it can only get better from here, time to create a new and improved past.
Take care.......
Bob
Thanks VWGirl, i really needed that today;) It took me a long time to get my stuff together, but i know i have to be sober for my son. I am the only one he has (as far as being a good role model, his dad drinks alot) and i sure don't want him to grow up to be like me! It's just amazing how much happier he is since i've been sober, he's only 2 but he knows. I remember at the end of my drinking, i went to the gas station down the road (one morning;(and got a case of beer. On the way there he was all happy and when i walked out with the beer, he got a real sad look on his face, and wouldn't talk to me on the way home. I knew the damage i was doing but i was so selfish i got drunk anyway, but it wasn't long after that that i quit. I will never forget that look he gave me. Somedays, that's what keeps me sober. Also another thing i've noticed since i quit drinking is he loves to hug and kiss me more now;) Probably because i don't smell like a bag of dope, and a beer can.
Thanks again, you have brightened my day, (even though your post made me cry;) I'm so glad you have a good relationship with your Daughters now!
Have a nice vacation;)
Thanks again, you have brightened my day, (even though your post made me cry;) I'm so glad you have a good relationship with your Daughters now!
Have a nice vacation;)
Hey Bob! Hope you're doing good today;) Thank you too! You have no idea how much of an inspiration you all are to me! I bet you are an AWESOME dad!
Hi,
Thankyou, and the posts from you and everyone else here helps me even more.
Thats what I love so much about this. And as far as "Awesome Dad" lol, thankyou but I'll just say I do the best I can and I know there's a BUNCH of room for improvement. But thankyou for the kind words, and now that my hat doesn't fit, lol I'm off to get breaks on my truck! *wink*
Take care........
Bob
Thankyou, and the posts from you and everyone else here helps me even more.
Thats what I love so much about this. And as far as "Awesome Dad" lol, thankyou but I'll just say I do the best I can and I know there's a BUNCH of room for improvement. But thankyou for the kind words, and now that my hat doesn't fit, lol I'm off to get breaks on my truck! *wink*
Take care........
Bob
Good move Bob! Brakes are a good thing, they come in handy every now and then;) and while you're waiting you can pick up a new, bigger hat! LOL........
Thanks Jayde and Bob....I just heard from oldest daughter, she is at college today...she said she is going to call her Dad (he is a dry drunk; may be drinking or using again, but it's really none of my business). She lived with him until recently and now she lives with my sister. He asked her to move out when the child support payments stopped from me. Me and my family, and her job are her means of support...she rarely gets anything from her Dad...however, what hurts her the most is that he does not make an effort to participate in her life...I am so grateful that I am sober and working a Program...she calls me when she is sad and confused today...that is a major change and she tells me she loves me. I guess I'm kinda feeling sad and guilty, I wish I could do more for my children; I wish I could fix it and make it all better, but I know I can't...I feeling weepy right now. Thanks for listening.
(((((((VWGIRL)))))) i'm sure your Daughters think the world of you! I know it's real hard sometimes when you let your mind get going, but don't work yourself into a funk over it. The past is the past, and your future is way too bright to dwell on things. I know it's easier said than done, but you are a very strong woman and i know your Daughters have to be soooooo proud of you! I know i am;) Hope you feel better, if i was there i'd take you out for dinner today;)
It's really sad that their dad has to be that way, but what a blessing it is to have your wonderful family to help with things;)
It's really sad that their dad has to be that way, but what a blessing it is to have your wonderful family to help with things;)
Jayde, thanks for that ~ it's my vacation day and I'm feeling so emotional about my daughters, I'm going to go grocery shopping and get to doing my errands...as with all of feelings...I have to remember feeling aren't facts...and this too shall pass. I think I will feel better tomorrow when I actually get togethr with my Mom, my Sister and both of my Daughters. Thanks so much for posting back...just feeling a bit melancholy.
