I have been reading the post here, and I really wish I knew what is going on here, why is some people getting upset with others.... I thought this board was to help others, I have not been on here very long and everyone has been so nice and encouraging never judging me no matter what I post, I have revealed some that I have never told because of that, I know that I have not revealed all but I want to get to that point were I feel I can, so I can get it out get rid of it and move on with my life.. Please!!!!!! lets not let this board change.. I love the people here that I have met, and I don't even really know them.. I hope this post does not make anyone mad, but this is where I come when I need help and it calms me and makes me feel I can make it.. Thank you
Hey Trying,
I've been here for a few months. It's not a big deal. Sometimes we get on edge. Like I am now due to quitting the pills. Some just don't understand and just aren't seeing things the way they truley are. They take things the wrong way. It happens. Everyone will get over it though, then their will come a new batch of people joining in and the same thing starts all over again. I guess the best thing to do is when you read something that starts to upset you, just close that thread and go to a different one. There are some great people on the board. Even the ones that are bitching now will come to find out they just weren't seeing things so clearly now. Have a nice day.
Love,
Liz
I've been here for a few months. It's not a big deal. Sometimes we get on edge. Like I am now due to quitting the pills. Some just don't understand and just aren't seeing things the way they truley are. They take things the wrong way. It happens. Everyone will get over it though, then their will come a new batch of people joining in and the same thing starts all over again. I guess the best thing to do is when you read something that starts to upset you, just close that thread and go to a different one. There are some great people on the board. Even the ones that are bitching now will come to find out they just weren't seeing things so clearly now. Have a nice day.
Love,
Liz
Trying,
Liz is right..... Usually, if I read something that I do not agree with or if there is a lot of drama going on, I just close that post and go to another one. I am on this site to get clean and draw courage from others.... never wanted to do anything that might hinder that.
Please don't be afraid to open up about your life..... For some people, those who cannot afford therapy or who do not have family they can turn to, this Board is the only place they can be completely honest about their lives. We are ALL addicts (well, most of us...sorry, Misty! lol) and therefore none of us are better than anyone else. Say whatever you have to say, share whatever you want to share, and use all of this info and support to get you on your way to recovery.
Danielle
Liz is right..... Usually, if I read something that I do not agree with or if there is a lot of drama going on, I just close that post and go to another one. I am on this site to get clean and draw courage from others.... never wanted to do anything that might hinder that.
Please don't be afraid to open up about your life..... For some people, those who cannot afford therapy or who do not have family they can turn to, this Board is the only place they can be completely honest about their lives. We are ALL addicts (well, most of us...sorry, Misty! lol) and therefore none of us are better than anyone else. Say whatever you have to say, share whatever you want to share, and use all of this info and support to get you on your way to recovery.
Danielle
thanks Liz and Danielle I read alot on here sometimes for hours, I know that sounds alittle obessive, but it helps to know there are others out there and they are like me in many ways. The encouragment they give and the information I get helps me alot..
Trying.......i am sorry if you were upset by what you read yesterday. you are right, it should not happen. on my 2nd day here, i was shocked and appalled at what I saw going on. but after 2 months, i have come to expect it periodically. sad, but true.
i am very sorry that i have not been able to ignore it, and if i said anything that really bothered you, i am sorry. i care about you and your desire to get clean and apologize if my actions were upsetting to you. i know how you feel, and i am ashamed to have contributed to making you uneasy.i hope you will be able to ignore it, though. in the beginning stages of w/d it is the last thing you need.
please know this board will be here for you to provide the support and encouragement you are used to getting and are going to need in the days ahead. don't stop reading and posting. take care and hang on!
Carol...i have no idea what happened on here the other night....but for you to say that you are sorry , well, that sure shows alot about the real person that you are.
I know that there gets to be alot of drama on this board and sometimes it gets out of hand...but what can some people expect??? We all have probloms and if you stick a bunch of addicts in a room, even if its coffee that your addicted to , were bound not to see eye to eye all the time. I think that we wouldnt be normal if we all got along all the time.!!! As bad as it sounds , it makes for good reading sometimes(LOL) I was just joking...nobody get upset.!!!
Anyway...nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes and in the end we are all friends trying to help one another get through this thing.
Love always...your friend, *~~~Christina*~~~*
I know that there gets to be alot of drama on this board and sometimes it gets out of hand...but what can some people expect??? We all have probloms and if you stick a bunch of addicts in a room, even if its coffee that your addicted to , were bound not to see eye to eye all the time. I think that we wouldnt be normal if we all got along all the time.!!! As bad as it sounds , it makes for good reading sometimes(LOL) I was just joking...nobody get upset.!!!
Anyway...nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes and in the end we are all friends trying to help one another get through this thing.
Love always...your friend, *~~~Christina*~~~*
Christina,,,,,,,not Abby........you crack me up! You are right, throw a bunch of addicts into one room, and you have to expect some will not agree. However, that doesn't make it OK to scream, judge,belittle, and call names. It has been going on with this board since it began a couple of years ago.
I posted back to you on your thread, but I need to go and prepare din-din. Maybe I can come back on later.........stay strong!!!
Carol, you did not upset me you have been very supportive of me, I just dont understand some of the things that are posted.. and I just dont want people to start getting so upset that they stop comming here.. of course I just posted a reply to someone, because what he said so upset me, could not help myself I cant believe that this person could be so judgemental I think you may have read it to so you probably know who I mean.. LOL... oh well ... please stay around I think you are great...
Have a good dinner Carol!!
Maybe we can catch up later.
And your right, nobody should be judged on here, We all have drama or we wouldnt be here.
Your Friend, *~~~Christina*~~~*
Maybe we can catch up later.
And your right, nobody should be judged on here, We all have drama or we wouldnt be here.
Your Friend, *~~~Christina*~~~*
Trying...thanks, I think you are great, too. PLEASE try to ignore what is happening. I know it is upsetting, but sometimes things get out of hand....
Just let it go and send us another poem.....that was great and I can relate to those feelings you talked about,,,,,too much.
Christina.......as you can see, I haven't left yet. Waiting on the boys to come in.
Hi Carol... Glad you liked my poem I love to write and poetry helps me get my feelings out..... Most of my poems are written when I am down and yes some when I was high, but there are a few that I wrote clear headed LOL... any way here is another one .. It is not about me though, it is about a friend.
Reality
She knows somewhere it is not her fault, but reality she can't see,
she thinks that no matter what she does, this is the way it will be.
She is not sure what she has done to make her life this way,
Maybe it was something that she did or somthing she did not say.
She tries to make things perfect, everythnig in it's proper place,
the house is clean the dinners made, she thinks tonight she is safe.
But she knows somhow it is not enough, to satisfy this man,
and she will pay for what he thinks she did, and suffer by his hand.
She tries to tell him that she will do better, and she will not do it again,
but he will not listen or hear her pleas, as he starts to raise his hand.
And she cringes from him with each blow, and softly she does moan,
she pleads and begs for him to stop, but he continues until his anger is gone.
She sits and thinks, "I know not what I did, but I am sure I am to blame,"
"I Try" "I Try" she barely whispers, as she hangs her head in shame..
"I will do better, I will try harder, to be the kind of woman he wants me to be,"
and she knows somehow it is not her fault, but reality she can't see.
Paula
Reality
She knows somewhere it is not her fault, but reality she can't see,
she thinks that no matter what she does, this is the way it will be.
She is not sure what she has done to make her life this way,
Maybe it was something that she did or somthing she did not say.
She tries to make things perfect, everythnig in it's proper place,
the house is clean the dinners made, she thinks tonight she is safe.
But she knows somhow it is not enough, to satisfy this man,
and she will pay for what he thinks she did, and suffer by his hand.
She tries to tell him that she will do better, and she will not do it again,
but he will not listen or hear her pleas, as he starts to raise his hand.
And she cringes from him with each blow, and softly she does moan,
she pleads and begs for him to stop, but he continues until his anger is gone.
She sits and thinks, "I know not what I did, but I am sure I am to blame,"
"I Try" "I Try" she barely whispers, as she hangs her head in shame..
"I will do better, I will try harder, to be the kind of woman he wants me to be,"
and she knows somehow it is not her fault, but reality she can't see.
Paula
Paula, that reads like a Genesis song, which means it's great..
Thank you dannyob. I am glad you liked it..
Wow trying.......that was really good. I was totally p***** off by the time I was at the end. Which means I felt it! Did you get your friend away from him? I hope so.
Yes we were living in Indiana in a apartment building, she lived downstairs from us you know I did not even know I had a neighbor for 4 months he never let her out of the house I was not using at the time, when we finally met, we became good friends, she did not drive she never went anywhere he did all the shopping etc.. he was a alcoholic, he hated me because I took her places, she finally told me one day about the abuse, I listened and was there for her, I offered her a place to stay, one night she took me up on it, she never went back to him. She and her two kids stayed with me until he moved out, I was so proud of her, she had more strength than she thought she had, she learned to drive and got a job and raised he two kids on her own. She is now married to a wonderful man. We have lost touch since I moved back South, but I know she is ok... Sorry this kinda turned into a book.. LOL
