My spouse and I own a business. At one time it did very well the last wo years it has been very stressful. We have had alot in our personal lives going on. We have lost some big contracts wich has caused a huge financial burden. My spouse is an alcoholic. Doesnt think he is ( typical) last nite he slept at his friends house too drunk to drive home ( again). This afternoon he's gone golfing. All he does is complain, and blame other people for his down falls. eg. his failing business is his employees fault or mine.
He claims he cant do everything by himself. He doesnt, he just has no time management. If it were not for myself and his employees he would have gone in to bankruptcy a long time ago.
He does not leave our home on a daily basis until noon. He then tries to cram everything work related in to 4 hours. he has picked up no new customers in a year. He puts everything off. Constantly makes excuses, I honestly believe this man thinks hes done his best. Our son is in rehab, he blames that on his lack of motivation. Hes usually drunk twice a week. All his friends are bums. I feel like I just have had enough the mounting bills, the devestation of a drug addict child, an alcoholic husband who thinks hes fine, A mother who I just placed in a long term facility who has cirrosis,
When i do bring it to his attention his business is in financial trouble he blows up and blames everyone. If i dont tell him and it crashes in then I'll be at fault. This man is nuts. Yes he has worked hard in the past, but he has also drank , let things go, let people pick up the slack for him. Im finally getting it I have covered for him for a very long time and all its done it prolong the inevitable. I am so angry with him I cant stand to be in the same room with him. there are days I want to just walk out on this marriage, but then it would be the downfall of the business fiancially we would be in ruins. I really am trying to hold it together my son needs me, but I dont know how much more I can take.
May I suggest alanon meetings. I'm not really into the steps and such but I know family members of addicts that say they are really beneficial. I'm not much help to you but I just wanted you to know someone was out there for you just to listen. Sometimes just a friendly word helps me. Keep your chin up.
Valarie
Valarie
