How did everyone that's sober manage to slip back into 'society' so to speak once they got sober? I am thinking about trying to get a job for the first time and I'm just really scared about having to face people again. Last time I did I was having a breakdown. It'll be good for me I think.. keep me away from the drink too... well we'll see what happens.
Also getting bloods done on Tuesday... am dreading there being something wrong as my dad will have a field day telling me how stupid I am. My mum thinks I'll be ok as I have quite a hardy constitution. Not a lot of things upset me.
Anyway. Hope everyone's feeling good today. I am feeling better.
Izzy X
Hey Izzy make sure you suss out any training or options for a job direction that you really wanna do and in an area that interests you. This will help ease you back to everyday life and as you feel more confidant day by day before you realise it you are living. Yes there will be good and bad days but that is the real world it is how we handle these times that changes. Don't do anything because you think you have to for others do it because you want to, and Izzy you can do it.
Aw well 6.30am and off to work take care Izzy
Light and love Zac
Aw well 6.30am and off to work take care Izzy
Light and love Zac
Good question, Izzy. When I got sober I hadn't worked in something like 17 years. I was a stay at home homemaker/drunk/pillpopper. When I quit drinking my sponsor pushed me into going back to school, actually finishing, and getting a job. I started out working part time for a lawyer that is in recovery then I got a job in a half way house. I've been here 2 and a half years.
I was scared to death to go back to work. I didn't even know how to talk to people any more. Talk about social anxiety! But knowing that I had my sponsor behind me helped me a lot. She is a wonderful woman that saved my life. I found out that if I walked through my fears they weren't as bad as I had them built up to be in my head. Yeah, it was hard but I am very grateful I did it. And, honey, I am an old lady. If I can do it, so can you!! It's called growing up. Just don't wait to be as old as I was before you do it. LOL
I was scared to death to go back to work. I didn't even know how to talk to people any more. Talk about social anxiety! But knowing that I had my sponsor behind me helped me a lot. She is a wonderful woman that saved my life. I found out that if I walked through my fears they weren't as bad as I had them built up to be in my head. Yeah, it was hard but I am very grateful I did it. And, honey, I am an old lady. If I can do it, so can you!! It's called growing up. Just don't wait to be as old as I was before you do it. LOL
Hi Zac I'm going to do a little course to help me assess whether I am in fact ready for work. I want to prove the Psych wrong though she's done my head in...
Izzy
Izzy
Hi Izzy.
I believe some of us can get straight back into work but some need to Waite till theyre stronger mentally and emotionally. And like Zac said try and find something you would like to do.
We have a old timer or osm at one of the meetings I go to and he says sometimes what you need to do is to find a job, while youre working it gets the Squirrels out of your head. Now I wouldnt argue with that.
I remember when I first went back to work after being in a rehab for four weeks. Before the rehab I drank at work and the next day I would wonder what people were thinking about me I was pretty paranoid. I was unable to look people in the eye and I wouldnt acknowledge them, some thought I was an arrogant sob.
But I was sick and fearful with a lot of ungrounded and unfounded fears.
But it didnt take long before I could look these people in the eye I could remember I didnt do anything to offend them because I wasnt drinking and having blackouts. And it was fun some days at work. Where I used to worry about what people were thinking about me I would just smile at some people and wonder what there were thinking I was thinking about them.
There is a whole lot of thinking going on here I hope you understand what I am trying to say. Well thanks for yours and everyones post Izzy
I hope you all have a sober 24 God Bless.
Lionel
I believe some of us can get straight back into work but some need to Waite till theyre stronger mentally and emotionally. And like Zac said try and find something you would like to do.
We have a old timer or osm at one of the meetings I go to and he says sometimes what you need to do is to find a job, while youre working it gets the Squirrels out of your head. Now I wouldnt argue with that.
I remember when I first went back to work after being in a rehab for four weeks. Before the rehab I drank at work and the next day I would wonder what people were thinking about me I was pretty paranoid. I was unable to look people in the eye and I wouldnt acknowledge them, some thought I was an arrogant sob.
But I was sick and fearful with a lot of ungrounded and unfounded fears.
But it didnt take long before I could look these people in the eye I could remember I didnt do anything to offend them because I wasnt drinking and having blackouts. And it was fun some days at work. Where I used to worry about what people were thinking about me I would just smile at some people and wonder what there were thinking I was thinking about them.
There is a whole lot of thinking going on here I hope you understand what I am trying to say. Well thanks for yours and everyones post Izzy
I hope you all have a sober 24 God Bless.
Lionel
