MomN and VW,
I'm sorry to appear judgemental--I wasn't meaning to be. Naiive and ignorant--that's me. I apologize if I came across with my cross of indignity. I am a father of two and I love my children unconditionally. I've had to let them make their mistakes and do stupid stuff, and they took responsibility for it. I can't even imagine having to go through what you and Geri have been dealing with--let alone staying sober through it all. I was wondering how it got to the point where you realized that you were getting sucked down, too. I appreciate the perspective--and your resolve to fix it.
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SKG, no, no need to apologize or anything like that....ya know I don't know when I started to get so sucked in....it's just like our own alcoholism....sneaks up on us. But thank goodness there is a program for me to go to get help for having a loved one in active addiction. Your posts about your story, your history were great to read. We are all here to help each other.
So, how're things going here, VWGirl? Any updates? I saw where you were taking on some more stuff--Sponsorship?--is the GRP (Genetic Research Project) in a good place right now?
SKG ~ I'm watching intervention right now, a repeat...but I really get engrossed in the show no matter how many times I've seen the episode. I've been working alot and K is back in school and I've totally detached with love and am taking my relationship with her one day at a time...my daughter can be a b**ch but she learned alot from me, and she also is an angry young girl who hasn't dealt with a lot of issues and doesn't want to take responsibilitiy for her behavior....however, I'm not in the guilt mode anymore either. I had to laugh when you asked about me sponsoring...I asked myself that question tonight before I read your post...my Sponsor (oh and my youngest daughter) thinks it would be a good idea to get out of myself...she, so far, is a great Sponsee; she checks in every morning about 7:30 am and I told her I would meet with her and take her thru the Big Book and the Steps one hour every Sunday either before or after my home group meeting. I sponsored a young girl before and it was like having two of my K's to deal with...this gal is older and she knows that it's up to her and her God if she wants it....I hope this post finds you and yours well...
Hi VWGirl,
More powewr to you! I've got all the problems I can handle, right now, methinks (although I DID put my name on the call list). While it might be a new experience to deal with others' issues, I'm wobbly enough without the weight of a person counting on me to stay sober! Hell, I got all the work I can handle keeping an eye on MY HP wathing ME!
:)
Glad you're doing well--you SEEM to be in a good place.
I watched Intervention last night, too. My youngest and my wife watched it, too. It prompts some discussions, usually, and I can feel for these people because I ARE ONE for the most part! :) I've always preached tolerance of others to my kids--I wish I'd listened to my own advice, but that program allows so many 'gratefuls' to surface.
:)
Good to see you still posting.
More powewr to you! I've got all the problems I can handle, right now, methinks (although I DID put my name on the call list). While it might be a new experience to deal with others' issues, I'm wobbly enough without the weight of a person counting on me to stay sober! Hell, I got all the work I can handle keeping an eye on MY HP wathing ME!
:)
Glad you're doing well--you SEEM to be in a good place.
I watched Intervention last night, too. My youngest and my wife watched it, too. It prompts some discussions, usually, and I can feel for these people because I ARE ONE for the most part! :) I've always preached tolerance of others to my kids--I wish I'd listened to my own advice, but that program allows so many 'gratefuls' to surface.
:)
Good to see you still posting.
Hi again, with this Sponsee she knows it's her and her HP keeping her sober, not me....thank God...that's how it was with the other young gal I sponsored though, she wanted me to keep her sober! Will see how it goes, haven't heard from my new Sponsee today....I know when your new it's hard to make it through those weekends! I'm just doing my laundry now...we had a big Rally for Recovery today ~ and all the sober Bikers came down and did a ride on their motorcycles in honor of recovery!
:it's hard to make it through those weekends!
I gripped on a couple weekends but found a couple different meetings to attend--both closed--and that seemed to help. In fact, I've found that I usually need to get to at least ONE per weekend--otherwise I get sideways quickly. I was REALLY wobbly this weekend for some reason, too. I've been re-thinking WHY I'd start drinking and it usually began out of a feeling of celebration. Smug self-importance. Now I can sense it on the way--cynicsm, judgementalism, indigantion--all that ME s***. This weekend I needed a meeting and, like every single one of them, I got some spiritual food that kept me out of the cabinets.
:)
Yay, MY HP.
So you're a biker chick?
There was a guy covered in tats that chaired this meeting I go to on some Sunday afternoons (2 PM). I've seen him at a couple others--huge swatstika on his left forearm--sort of hard to miss--and you want to talk about a test in judgementalism. He's apparently been in prison most of his life, but AA has kept him out since he finally took it seriously. We're definitely an odd collection of humanity! BUT I think we're more like true spiritual beings than ANY church gathering I've been to in my life. And I've been to plenty of EVERY denomination. Yup. I belong here.
peaceness.
I gripped on a couple weekends but found a couple different meetings to attend--both closed--and that seemed to help. In fact, I've found that I usually need to get to at least ONE per weekend--otherwise I get sideways quickly. I was REALLY wobbly this weekend for some reason, too. I've been re-thinking WHY I'd start drinking and it usually began out of a feeling of celebration. Smug self-importance. Now I can sense it on the way--cynicsm, judgementalism, indigantion--all that ME s***. This weekend I needed a meeting and, like every single one of them, I got some spiritual food that kept me out of the cabinets.
:)
Yay, MY HP.
So you're a biker chick?
There was a guy covered in tats that chaired this meeting I go to on some Sunday afternoons (2 PM). I've seen him at a couple others--huge swatstika on his left forearm--sort of hard to miss--and you want to talk about a test in judgementalism. He's apparently been in prison most of his life, but AA has kept him out since he finally took it seriously. We're definitely an odd collection of humanity! BUT I think we're more like true spiritual beings than ANY church gathering I've been to in my life. And I've been to plenty of EVERY denomination. Yup. I belong here.
peaceness.
Hi there, Just finally getting on the board this weekend...looks like everyone is doing pretty well, that is so good. No, I'm not a biker chick, my BF has a motorcyle and I love to go on it and ride fast though ~ that's just what the rally for recovery was about....the bikers in our area sponsored a portion of it...here in Los Angeles we've got quite few biker meetings, anyone can go though.......no tattoos either, lol, maybe some day....actually I am pretty conservative most of the time and that's what fooled a lot of people about my drinking and using ~ the way I looked on the outside. I'm a Sec'y in the Engineering industry! (for one of the biggest corporations in the world) been at this Company for 23 years. Seven years prior to that I was a Sec'y in a small medical office. Hard to believe I've been at it for 30 years. Oh, and my best girlfriend on the Program she looks like a Librarian but is a professional woman and her and I drank and used just like each other....leading that double life.
I get the whole double life thing. I was so intent on proving I was worthy of being "one of them," that I lost me--WAY back when I was young. I've found, thanks to the 12 Steps, that I've had a fear of acceptance around which my whole life has been spun. It's going to take the REST of my life to get it untangled!
So how's the sponsee doing?
So how's the sponsee doing?
