Please someone help. My daughter ran away from her 3rd sober living home. She is denying using again, but she is with people she used to use with. She is being mean & rude. I don't know what to do to help her. My family members are trying to help, but the are hurting me more in the process. I have contacted my daughters councelors & I am waiting to hear back from them. I told my daughter she cannot come home & I won't see her until she gets help. Am I doing & saying the right things? I am so afraid that she is going to die this time because she is so embarrassed. My sister told me to call the police, but I don't think they can do anything just cause she ran away from her sober living home.
Have you heard from her again? Please don't start imagining the worst. You heard from her when she left, right? She's just probably with her druggie friends and doesn't want to call you.
She's just not ready to get clean yet.
You asked if your were doing the right thing by now allowing her back home until she's clean. I think so.
Remember how it was when she lived there and all the stress it caused. That's not going to change. Do you really want to live like that again? I know it's hard not hearing from them, but at some point they have to find their own way and we have to let them go to do that.
Be kind to yourself today.
She's just not ready to get clean yet.
You asked if your were doing the right thing by now allowing her back home until she's clean. I think so.
Remember how it was when she lived there and all the stress it caused. That's not going to change. Do you really want to live like that again? I know it's hard not hearing from them, but at some point they have to find their own way and we have to let them go to do that.
Be kind to yourself today.
Thank you for replying. She left her sober living home last Tuesday & didn't tell me on until Saturday because I was going to visit her. It has been a little over 24 hrs since I have spoken to her. I know she is embarrassed & she is very hard on herself so she uses & has self destructive behavior. I have contacted her councilor & I let my family & her real friends know. All I can do now is pray she wants to go back into rehab. She can't seem to make 90 days clean, so if or when she goes back to inpatient I am requesting "long term".
At least she makes the attempt to go to rehab. That's great. She understands that she needs help so I really think there's hope that she will get clean someday. Long term might be better for her. Any chance you could get her out of your area and in a place where she doesn't have easy access to her old friends?
I've been trying to do that. If she goes back to the last inpatient place they can send her farther away. She just needs to get back to inpatient and off the streets.
I'll keep her and you in my prayers.
so sad that i may not be seeing my daughter for the Holidays. Her addiction embarrasses & isolates her. I want her to be with her family so she doesn't forget what love is. The people she uses with don't really care for her. This drug is taking her soul away. I am praying for her and everyone with addictions that they find their way home.