making a contract with yourself.
i've been thinking abouit this. an addiction spc doctor told me this.
staying clean is about making a contract with yourself not to use.
he was saying it has to be to the point in your life where come hell or high water i will not get high. make a contract with yourself that you would rather be sick and withdrawl a thousand times over than go back to the insanity of addiction and getting high. making a contract is about not allowing yourself any outs to pick up again. its about making yourself accountable to yourself.
i don't know sounds real and honest.
just some food for thought.
opinions welcomed
raerae
It sounds like you would have to make the same contract everyday,
I just dont think you could make one contract, and keep it-- it would have to be a daily thing- - Heroin addicts dont think long term .ya know?
just mythought
jack
I just dont think you could make one contract, and keep it-- it would have to be a daily thing- - Heroin addicts dont think long term .ya know?
just mythought
jack
It's a thought Rae. Whatever works.
I'll have to go with Jack on that one though. No way could I have made a long term contract with even some Saint came down from heaven when I first got clean. It was always "Maybe tomorrow I'll use a tiny bit". Just the opposite of how we always did the "I'm gonna quit tomorrow".
Yeah maybe a contract each morning after ya hit your knees or brush your teeth or something.
I'll have to go with Jack on that one though. No way could I have made a long term contract with even some Saint came down from heaven when I first got clean. It was always "Maybe tomorrow I'll use a tiny bit". Just the opposite of how we always did the "I'm gonna quit tomorrow".
Yeah maybe a contract each morning after ya hit your knees or brush your teeth or something.
i get what your saying, i never try to deal with tomorrow till i have too.
but
i see it as this. as long as i give myself outs i will use. maybe not today but someday. i find myself thinking "well if this happens i might do this, or i might use" as long as i think like this i will never stay sober for long. sooner or later i will use. its just that simple given an out i will take it. i think we all will. so making a contract, a life long contract with myself lessens the outs i give myself. its not just saying i won't get high today, its saying i won't, no matter what happens. i won't pick up.
but
i see it as this. as long as i give myself outs i will use. maybe not today but someday. i find myself thinking "well if this happens i might do this, or i might use" as long as i think like this i will never stay sober for long. sooner or later i will use. its just that simple given an out i will take it. i think we all will. so making a contract, a life long contract with myself lessens the outs i give myself. its not just saying i won't get high today, its saying i won't, no matter what happens. i won't pick up.
Raerae,
Instead of saying i will never use again....why not say i HOPE i will never use again...and just take it day by day..
simple program for complicated people
a sober but mental mess
love MARY
Instead of saying i will never use again....why not say i HOPE i will never use again...and just take it day by day..
simple program for complicated people
a sober but mental mess
love MARY
he explained it to me as this. saying i HOPE i never use again is giving yourself an out. making a contract with yourself in some cases works. saying come hell or high water i will not use. if the worst thing happens today i will not go back to my hellish life of using. eliminating all outs/ excuses, whatever you call it, makes it to i can't use, not i hope i don't use.
now i understand the never say never and all that good stuff. but this was just a thought, and wanted to see what everyone else thought.
raerae
now i understand the never say never and all that good stuff. but this was just a thought, and wanted to see what everyone else thought.
raerae
Hey Raerae,
whatever works for YOU is what counts
luv MARY
whatever works for YOU is what counts
luv MARY
I am kind of anti AA and NA however I do oblige myself of their," One Day At A Time" slogan. Yes, I see how that might look like it allows one a "out". One day at a time is fine for me. I am pretty awful at sticking to anything it's a major fault I have. I suck at keeping commitments to anything. If I were to make a contract it would have to allow for wiggle room. I don't think I can easily say I'll never slip up again as long as I live. The most permanent choices i've made in life was gettting tattoos everything else is not fixed. Yeah, Bryn I still do that 5 years later," Maybe tomorrow I'll use a tiny bit".
Also want to say i'm all for whatever WORKS for you personally!. I would like to say no way no how i'ld ever go back to using but, i said that many times I never stuck to it. In fact when i lost weight i said no way, no how, will I ever be fat again ....here i sit on my fat rear end AGAIN!.
Also want to say i'm all for whatever WORKS for you personally!. I would like to say no way no how i'ld ever go back to using but, i said that many times I never stuck to it. In fact when i lost weight i said no way, no how, will I ever be fat again ....here i sit on my fat rear end AGAIN!.
