Hi everyone,
I have read most of the topics and I have learned so much from your experiences and sharing you story, which encouraged me to share mine.
I have met my boyfriend one year ago we liked each other but i couldn't go further because I knew at that time that he was herion addict. He has gone through many problems, he got divorced, lost his job, away from his son, lost his money and started from scratch again and he decided to go with the program he said i had a big role supporting him and face him with reality and tell him exactly what i think of him being an addict and that pushed him to the bottom which made him go to rehab.
He is sober now for 9 months and we are so in love He is so attached and this attachment is scaring me. Because if I stay long at work he freaks out. He wants me all the time around him with him or talking to him. Otherwise he feels unsecured or.depressed.
I am lost and my friends advise to take more time and not to rush for marriage and not to let him influence you with that makes him feel secured and those reactions of insecurity are an impact that he is not ready.
Even if you take the addiction factors out of the equation your relationship is not even close to marriage. Him having his insecurities and just the fact you have not been together long enough is enough reason to not rush into any marriage especially since he just came out of a failed one..now add the addiction factor you need to protect all your finances potential disaster..I love my girlfriend of nearly three years so much and we have a child together she needs to go do things on her own before we can get married..I'm not sure I want to be married since I was in a very very long relationship previously and never got married..whal I really would like is some sort of commitment and type of marriage that it is not legal but to express our vowes..due to financial matters..she has just started recovery but still has no financial responsibility whatsoever. She doesn't want to work and she could have been a stay at home mom but not anymore. She's ruined so many things for herself for what she has done to me..she lost her car that I bought her because she cheated on me. I shouldn't even consider being in this relationship and we are actually in the process if not already broken up. We(maybe I am) were trying to stay together because of our baby whom she lost custody of to her mother so now we're stuck in childrens court trying to get custody back. Probably will not be joint custody I will have full custody and she will have visitation and being a 50 year old.... guy it will not be that easy for me to take care of a child. Both you and I are nowhere near marriage with our s.o. I have a really good reason to stay in some sort of relationship because of our baby you only spent a short amount of your life with this guy maybe you should reconsider sounds like you have a lot of stress and drama and that's how good for you are the future maybe a good chance to reconsider your relationship. The addiction thing will never go away
