Do most people posting on here go to meetings ?.......I went to so many meetings when first clean......did like 100 in 90 and almost every day for the first yr of recovery, but now working the night shift and make very few....o many people in the program have been giving me sh*t.....telling me how it is inevitable i will relapse losing touch.....State how I will see how the first big trauma in my life will et me back
My life is far from stress free, but i have no desire to use, know it will only make things worse and NO WAY am I going through detoxing again EVER.........Have any of oyu ever relapsed after some time, and what do u think brought it on?
MsTres, there are other ways. Make sure you have a strong program of recovery that works for yoiu, and apply it everyday. Good luck
Ms. Fairy Princess.....set back....trauma....you have that every single day.
What do you truly think....see that's one of the things I dislike about the NA program....I know they truly have your very best interest at heart...and it really did in my opinion really, really help you.....it's a great social thing too, but they're not working your hours or living your life....so if it was in a nice way they suggest...well yeah....make one....definately, but it's almost like they will you, and want you to pick up.....seriously.
I think I know you sort of....LOL....I don't see it happening....plus you work your tail off....AND have got new interests.....as long as that doesn't involve using then I'd say isn't that what you are supposed to do....lead a "normal" life?
Try and make one....I would....otherwise they need to shut the F up.....having somebody tell me.....when I have almost two years that I will pick up because I don't make meetings....when I never did go in the first place is just pure BS.
Especially when they have a few months....I mean good for them, and I advocate anything that helps, but they have to be open to what works for others.
PLUS there is NOTHING ANONYMOUS about those meetings.....NADA....the few I have been to.....I heard round about crap from people in a way like they found out I was an addict....babeeedahblah.....well those people don't have children and have to worry half a school will find out their dad's a junkie.
That's just me now....and like I said it helps people, but that preaching I can not take.....people love you though, and want the best for you....you're working your program right.....I'd try to make it, and share that....see what they think about that when you say that out loud.....policing, and preaching just don't work.
All good things for you today.....wishing you a fabulous Friday.
What do you truly think....see that's one of the things I dislike about the NA program....I know they truly have your very best interest at heart...and it really did in my opinion really, really help you.....it's a great social thing too, but they're not working your hours or living your life....so if it was in a nice way they suggest...well yeah....make one....definately, but it's almost like they will you, and want you to pick up.....seriously.
I think I know you sort of....LOL....I don't see it happening....plus you work your tail off....AND have got new interests.....as long as that doesn't involve using then I'd say isn't that what you are supposed to do....lead a "normal" life?
Try and make one....I would....otherwise they need to shut the F up.....having somebody tell me.....when I have almost two years that I will pick up because I don't make meetings....when I never did go in the first place is just pure BS.
Especially when they have a few months....I mean good for them, and I advocate anything that helps, but they have to be open to what works for others.
PLUS there is NOTHING ANONYMOUS about those meetings.....NADA....the few I have been to.....I heard round about crap from people in a way like they found out I was an addict....babeeedahblah.....well those people don't have children and have to worry half a school will find out their dad's a junkie.
That's just me now....and like I said it helps people, but that preaching I can not take.....people love you though, and want the best for you....you're working your program right.....I'd try to make it, and share that....see what they think about that when you say that out loud.....policing, and preaching just don't work.
All good things for you today.....wishing you a fabulous Friday.
I'm not over keen on the NA way of doing things, make no mistake it is probably the most successful recovery programme and I know plenty of people who have cleaned up as a result of doing things the way they suggest. However NA isn't for everyone and if you are managing to stay clean whilst not going to meetings then what is the problem. I'm not sure I understand the logic behind your friends saying that you will relapse unless you continue going to meetings?, as long as you stay in contact with clean people, and are able to talk to friends when you do feel a bit wobbly then surely you will be ok. It all sounds a bit harsh, I'm sure they have your best interests at heart but then again maybe they are jealous that you are moving on with your life and finding out that you know longer need meetings in order to stay clean. I personally don't believe it is particularly healthy if you are constanly reminding yourself what it was like when you were an addict, surely at some time you should move on and try to forget your past. Obviously it is dangerous to disregard your past all together as that way you might convince yourself that you can afford to have a little use up. Its all about finding out what works for you, if you feel like going to a meeting then go, but don't go because someone tells you that if you don't go then you will relapse because that way you are going not because you won't to, instead you are going because you are scared not to. That doesnb't sound conducive to a healthy recovery. Good luck. Peace
