My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years, until about six months ago he was in his addiction. He went into recovery as of 6/15. I really didn't have any liking for alcohol, until after my dad died in 2010. In August 2010, I went to Vegas. And that was only six months after he had passed. I drank, and drank, and dank. Everything turned for the worse after that. I was gaining weight in the process. My boyfriend was also in his only addiction so I believe we fed off each other and we loved and hated that about each other at the same time.. Now he is sober, due to medical issues, almost dying, and maybe needed a transplant.
It's been 6 months, almost 7. I lie to him if I have a drink because I don't want to trigger him. Even though I don't know if that is one of his. I've cut back tremendously. I do worry sometimes worry about my own drinking habits because I had stopped when he did, only to now drink only wine now, no hard stuff. I don't drink around him or anything. Should I seek help?
Any advice on relationships while getting sober? Because I want to be there to support them, but I'm new to this also.
I am sorry for your boyfriend but medicine is advancing everyday more and more and if he has damaged liver due to excessive drinking then maybe new treatments are available where he lives ? I know this women who have liver cirrhosis thanks to may years of hard drinking anyway she stopped drinking, changed diet and the way how she lived and her liver recovered i mean regenerated enough for her to lead normal life. Of course for him to stay sober and alive he cant have you drinking and this is problem .. you have to stop drinking but stopping only for him wont do the trick, you have to really want this change. Did you try AA or SMART recovery , it would be wise for you to have your own support and i would tell him how hard its all this for you , dont hide stuff fro him but talk to him , share your pain ,thoughts , doubts if he is well enough to take it..
Well, he made it to the hospital right on time. Luckily he doesn't have it and everything is a lot better. I was truly scared. Never left his side while in the hospital.
He goes to meetings every Saturday, but that's about it. Sees his doctors regularly and I'm so proud of him cause this is the first time while being together for 4 years that he has been sober.
But no, I haven't gone to any meetings. I went to family day for the time he was rehab. But after he left I stopped going. I went to a meeting once with him. Definitely an eye opener. But haven't gone with him again.
I just didn't know how hard it would be to be in a relationship with someone who is newly sober. But I won't give up.
He goes to meetings every Saturday, but that's about it. Sees his doctors regularly and I'm so proud of him cause this is the first time while being together for 4 years that he has been sober.
But no, I haven't gone to any meetings. I went to family day for the time he was rehab. But after he left I stopped going. I went to a meeting once with him. Definitely an eye opener. But haven't gone with him again.
I just didn't know how hard it would be to be in a relationship with someone who is newly sober. But I won't give up.
