Hi, Frightened Mom, I know your fear. I really do feel your pain and I know your desire to save your daughter can be overwhelming; almost as overwhelming as your daughter's drug of choice. But there is good news. The good news is that a relatively new drug being used in treatment programs for detox from the opiates (vicodin, oxy, heroin, depression) and then, later, for maintenanceto control craving, is working for my son who has been addicted for years...since he was 10 years old. He had tried every drug to feel better; none, worked like Vicodin. When he ran out of doctors, complaining about pain, he found the internet....yet, guess who was taking up the slack in the finances as he was paying the FedX truck. I didn't see him drinking or being drunk, so I had no point of reference other than "poor thing' he's so depressed, now, this time from his divorce. He did have long-life debilitating depression and no antidepressant worked. He had tried them all. Vicodin took him to the bottom. I was a great enabler with finances. I had lots of reasons. I couldn't stand the pain of watching him die or go to jail or not succeed in life. I stopped helping, FINALLY, but only after I had to declare bankruptcy. My bottom wasn't bankruptcy, it was the thought of losing my house..that I wasn't willing to do; however, my bankruptcy was HIS bottom. You see, he knew I had nothing of value left. He got off my back. I quit running to see if he was okay. I had been in Alanon for years and I knew my Higher Power, very well, so I had the strength I needed when he begged me to help him find a treatment program and get help. I was ready for that. My friends in alanon knew exactly what to do from there...how to find help. That was 8 months ago. He is not the same person, today because he wanted sobriety. He is on, a maitenance drug, Suboxone and in therapy. The Sub has taken care of the refractory depression and craving. (I posted all this on another site...sorry to take up the space) Mike is getting happier, (laughing right out loud, for a change) productive and on his way to understanding himself. He has a while to go and will, at some point, get off Sub, he thinks, but the doctor isn't pushing. We are a grateful family. Chloe
Frightened Mom.....I just hope she calls even for money.....just to call...if we don't get what we want.....LOOT.....we wind up flipping out mad...which her poor dad had to hear......she will call.
Miss Chloe.....that is so awesome about your son.....excellent....it's good too for people like frightened mom to see we can come around, and this can be done......it truly can.
Miss Chloe.....that is so awesome about your son.....excellent....it's good too for people like frightened mom to see we can come around, and this can be done......it truly can.
Brynn, you make me laugh! I love to hear the sound of laughter...Miss Chloe
Dear Frightened Mom,
I remember when my son was MIA I would stay around the house so I wouldn't miss his calls (remember he had MY cell phone). Then if I had to go out somewhere and missed it, I actually felt sick in my stomach I was so upset. Of course it was still a relief to know at the time he called he was still alive, but I thought to myself..."What if that was my last chance to hear him?" I was VERY codependent! I was just so naive and unprepared to deal with all that came with the addict's world! This board, NA/AA meetings, and the grace of God got us through one day at a time. They'll get you through too! :) God bless!
Love,
Susan
I remember when my son was MIA I would stay around the house so I wouldn't miss his calls (remember he had MY cell phone). Then if I had to go out somewhere and missed it, I actually felt sick in my stomach I was so upset. Of course it was still a relief to know at the time he called he was still alive, but I thought to myself..."What if that was my last chance to hear him?" I was VERY codependent! I was just so naive and unprepared to deal with all that came with the addict's world! This board, NA/AA meetings, and the grace of God got us through one day at a time. They'll get you through too! :) God bless!
Love,
Susan
Dear Frightened Mom,
Happy easter hope your situation has gotten better allthough i think it probably get worse before it gets better.just wanted you to know both of you are in my prayers.keep us posted on your situation.
Happy easter hope your situation has gotten better allthough i think it probably get worse before it gets better.just wanted you to know both of you are in my prayers.keep us posted on your situation.
hello to all & Happy Easter to you too, Bruceb......hope everyone has a wonderful holiday....these last 2 days have been interesting...she called from someone's phone & asked if I would give her money for her birthday, which is coming up on 4/22.....I told her that I would not...she went off on me & litterally used language I have never heard before....in the end, I told her that I would arrange for her to have a place to sleep for two weeks & after that I AM DONE....last night she slept in a stairwell & almost got arrested! I made very careful arrangements (thru phone, internet & giving them everything except blood from my arm!) making sure SHE would stay there, etc etc, couldn't sell it & really spent an entire evening and day making these arrangements. last time I called, she still had not checked in....so now I don't know what to do....hope she will go there....at least I know she is has a place to sleep for awhile....I will keep you posted.....thank you for your thoughts & prayers. F. MOM
