My Bf Is A Recovering Addict Help ....

Heroin
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hi all

I am dating my bf for a year now he is 23 and has been using drugs since the age of 14 he was a heroin addict for 7 years...he was known for relapsing and had a gf before for 6 years she however at the time was with him when he started using drugs and started to use with him occasionly because she had loved him and had started stealing for him as well trying to perhaps please him and help him get drugs...thereafter they had eventually broken up and i am now with him however i struggle to keep up with him i love him dearly and do not want to give up on him he always semms to take me for advantage and falls back with his friend sthat he used to use with ,i try to explain to him that he should try to step away from them because hes lifestyle now is different and you can onbly move past that life and put it behind him if he lets go of all the things that reminds him of it ,he has now resorted to fdrinking alot with these friends of his i do not approve of them and it causes many aissues between us i really care about him and just want him to see what i see as an outsider and that i care about him, sometime i get a bit angry and aggitated because it baffles me that he does not see that their company is not particulary good for him at the stage that he is now and that he still has a very long way too go.He says he feels like i lecture him and so forth and it leads to him lieng to me and his family he comes from a decent home his mother is ill and doesnt have long to live and i sort of think that it is all part of why he has these weak moments ,im struggling on what to do i do not want to leave him but at the same time i have been putting him first and pushing him up when his down and being there for him through evvrything i feel un appreciated i just need to know what is it that i do to get him away from these people and to make him understand....I know he must want to do it himself but he thinks like a kid lol ...i just want the best for him and its starting to break me down ,its gotten that bad that i went through a depressions and suffered panick attacks,breakdowns etc please give me advice on how to handle this situation

Thank You

Much appreciated
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RED FLAG-CODIE ALERT-RED FLAG!!!! Stacey, go to the family board and post your story there...lots and lots of good, smart people there who will help you. There are lots of good, smart people here too...but just sayin...take care of you, all the best! Jax
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In my opinon, your way to young to start this kind of drama in your life- - its not like you can cure him. --Since 14??- - He definetly has issues that he needs to talk out with professionals He needs to know how to love himself> before someone else-
-Love is a funny thing- - be careful out there

Just some thoughts from an old timer*
jack
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Agree with Jax...way great stuff over on the family board...were the ones your bf hangs out with...before we got it that we were the ones he hangs out with....:)

Con
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jACK... yOU'RE AN OLD TIMER????????????????????????????? NOW THATS FUNNY..................

GRANNY
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Stacey: You need Al-Anon (or AA/NA if you too are using) . Look in the phone book and get their number. You need real life, in the flesh, help. NOW

Bob
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I guess when it comes to this sh8t - I feel like an old timer- - but at 55 - your right I shouldnt think that way- -

Im really in my second youth

writesoon
jack

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stacey come on over to the family board, warning you may not like all we tell ya, lol but come on over!! MomG
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Stacey honey, your BF is relapsing in a big way and he's taking you along for the ride. Please do come to the Family Board where you can learn about why you feel the need to keep doing for him what he can and should do for himself. You cannot not make him appreciate you, stop using drugs and alcohol, or 'realize' what it is he wants and needs. The harder you push and the more you do, the further away from you he will drift and the more he will take advantage. It's all very confusing when we first believe we can help them and they refuse to see things the "right" way...but there's hope in understanding.

Come pay us a visit.

Peace ~ MomNMore
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I totally agree with jack ,As for me .. Been there done that ............RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN ...This is his problem NOT YOURS Get out of it now before its too late ....believe me one day you will remember this post and think "I'm glad i listened" or "i should of listened "
sorry dont mean to sound harsh but it's true , It's your life as well as it's his , You didn't choose this problem so don't make it YOUR problem
love Emma xxxxx