My boyfriend of 6 years has got himself hooked on heroin. He lost his job, maxed out all his credit cards overdrew his bank accounts stopped paying bills. He tells me he is quitting, hes trying to do it on his own (refuses treatment) he keeps telling me he just needs a little more, but to me it just seems like hes not trying to stop. I believe he hasnt been clean longer than 2 days...last night I came home and he was so high...I kicked him out. Did I do the right thing??!I love him I Want him to get better, but I cant keep living the way we have been. I cant talk to family or friends I fear that they will judge us, me him...
Of course you did right. If he questions you kicked him out just tell him to picture the reason why you kicked out the other way around. Let him know how hard it Is for you to see him that way.
part of me feels as though kicking him out is the right idea but part of me doesnt coming from my current journey with my boyfriend as an addict as well. at times i feel the tough love and anger methods will be most successful in pushing him to recovery, but then i realize, it is up to him to want to quit, sure we all have heard that multiple times unfortunately. With my relationship, I have been struggling with this journey of dating an addict for 5 years now, and it has certainly been quiet the journey, but it has been a journey that I would not take back nor regret. Yes, by all means the f***ing pain and heartache and lies and their addiction transforming into your own addiction filled with the constant fear of past scars absolutely takes an immense heart-wrenching effects on you. I have become incredibly strong throughout this entire journey I believe because although the hurt and pain sucks..it sucks alot, howeve,r if you intellectually and deeply know your boyfriend in ways ive grown to known mine you would realize that maybe there is a very very deep rooted event, issue, trauma, or imbalanced levels causing severe depression -- then you would know what to do, i know venting on here is incredilby fulfilling and helpful (as i literally just started doing this) --u love the man, so u know what to do--im not staying stay im not saying leave im telling you to follow your heart and just know deep down that u did fall in love with your boyfriend for reasons of him making you feel amazing, you are not alone in this journey and i hate seein sad posts of giving up on your significant other, yes if tough love works for them then use it but communication is of highest importance, we as females need to not subconsciously decide that their addictions when they have relapsed/used mean they dont love you ---it doesnt mean its not worth it--if you love that person you will understand their addiction, you will help them become the good genuine man you intially feel head over heels for... i once had every single person in my family and friends circle telling me it was not worth the fight that i deserved better that i needed to leave----and i disregarded it all and stayed on the journey with my hurting boyfriend and gained an entire sense of making this about no one else but the addict suffering their disease
