My brother is an alcoholic and a drug addict, he uses meth and heroine and pain killers. He has been an addict for 12 years. He has put our family and his immediate family through so much pain and worry. I have decided to walk away, but my sister thinks I am wrong and my mom only talks to me when she has to. Am I wrong to do this?
I suggest that you give Alanon a try and maybe through you your family would go also. It's really hard to put up boundaries with someone you love but unfortunately that may be the very thing that could save him to have everyone around him get well and not enable him. Lovingly detach is a tool that I had to learn to use and sometimes still even in recovery with my loved one I need to do this. Prayer going up for you, your brother and family.
God bless
God bless
i need help, my grandson is 21 and is a heroin addict, My husband & I have been paying his bills and now we are attending NA-NON meetings and they say he has a disease and we should not enable him. today he asked me to take him to court because he will be arrested because he did not pay his fines and needs me to pay his bail so he does not go to jail. I want to but I am worried that he will ask me to pay the fines which is substantial. I don't think we should but where does the disease come in to play without enabling him? I don't want him to go to jail because he says then he won't be able to go to rehab, I am really confused and need guidance.
Grandmother.. i hear your pain...you will see alot of stories and help in here. Glad youre reaching out for help.
As long as we give in to the immediate relief we get from enabling the addict.. we are preventing them and ourselves to face life on life's own terms. He should be able to build his own muscle in making better choices for ylur grandson's life. He is an adult. If he wants out.. he will
As long as we give in to the immediate relief we get from enabling the addict.. we are preventing them and ourselves to face life on life's own terms. He should be able to build his own muscle in making better choices for ylur grandson's life. He is an adult. If he wants out.. he will
Need to experience both the highs and lows of life. He needs to develop that resilience himself. As long as youre there to catch him.. he wont learn the skills he need to develop. Thats why its called tough love. It is tough on the one giving real love. Besides if you give in to 'your mercy'
Is it your feeli g of discomfort you are acting on.. or not doing something about that situation (which only he has power over). Let him sink so he can swim. If he doesnt swim thats his choice. We did not CAUSE any of these. We cannot CONTROL them nor the disease. And we cannnoy CURE it. Let go. And enjoy your life grandmom. Life is about your happiness. Theirs is their business.
Sorry had to slice my messages. View on my mobile is not working well for this site.
Hope this article helps you
http://recoveringyou.com/10-ways-to...ling-an-addict/
Go back to steps 1-2-3 of the q2 steps of nar-anon.
Be free.
Hope this article helps you
http://recoveringyou.com/10-ways-to...ling-an-addict/
Go back to steps 1-2-3 of the q2 steps of nar-anon.
Be free.
