My AD just called my husband(her dad)as all other phones are blocked or numbers changed. She wants to come home and we haven't allowed her here in awhile now. He told her no and she said that if he or I didn't let her come home she was going to shoot herself in the head or take a 4ft drop and hang herself. He just hung up on her. I can't have her here as she causes chaos. it's been so peaceful since we blocked her calling and kept her away. I know she needs us as her alibi when she goes on a crack binge. She hasn't had us and has been caught out by her boyfriend and now their arguing. I don't believe she is going to kill herself and is saying that just to get her own way. Hope I'm doing the right thing? ...M.
Christmas/New year is a hard time for most addict/alcoholics.
It brings up a lot of feelings and emotions that we find hard/impossible to deal with.
Prayers to the suffering addict and their families.
All the best.
Bob R
It brings up a lot of feelings and emotions that we find hard/impossible to deal with.
Prayers to the suffering addict and their families.
All the best.
Bob R
I'm sorry that she's laying that on you Mary. I can't even count how many times our son has told us he's going to kill himself. He said it while we were on our trip. Our response is, "We do not want you to kill yourself but we can't control that any more than we can control your drug use". We do worry that at some point it might happen but what's the alternative? We're done letting him run the show. It sounds like your daughter is probably using it as manipulation but even if she's not, you are not a psychiatrist nor are you are not a substance abuse counselor. Tell her she should go to the ER and tell them she's suicidal and they will get her some help.
I completely understand about having your "peace". Our house has never been this peaceful. We will not go backwards.
I'll say a prayer for you and your daughter. God bless.
Michelle
I completely understand about having your "peace". Our house has never been this peaceful. We will not go backwards.
I'll say a prayer for you and your daughter. God bless.
Michelle
Thank you PapaBear and Michelle, I too can't turn back to they way things use to be. I'm keeping my boundaries as they are as it's the only way we get peace. Maybe in the new year she will get professional help. It's long overdue. Thank goodness for this website. It's such a help! I hope you had a nice time with your daughter Michelle and that both her and Teddy are doing good! Mary.
I'm so sorry Mary. I know how difficult that is to hear your child say. I can't count the number of times mine threatened that too. We were all pretty much held hostage to his threats, and moods until we told him to leave. I'll never go back to living like that again either. It's so peaceful living without that drama.
I used to tell mine 'You're an adult and whatever choices you make are your own and you've got to deal with the consequences'. . It got to the point where I said it so many times that he'd finish the sentence for me.
Like Shell said, if she threatens it again, tell her to call 911. That's what I told mine and I also said they'd probably give him drugs to calm him down, and his first response was 'what kind of drugs?'.. so I know where his mindset was at...
Hang in there. Laurie
Hey Shell, how's Teddy doing?
I used to tell mine 'You're an adult and whatever choices you make are your own and you've got to deal with the consequences'. . It got to the point where I said it so many times that he'd finish the sentence for me.
Like Shell said, if she threatens it again, tell her to call 911. That's what I told mine and I also said they'd probably give him drugs to calm him down, and his first response was 'what kind of drugs?'.. so I know where his mindset was at...
Hang in there. Laurie
Hey Shell, how's Teddy doing?
I am sorry for the pain you and your family are feeling. I am going through the same with my daughter. I just keep praying she will ask soon for help again. I just try to end every conversation with I love you just in case it is my last words to her. I hate the disease & the things it makes my daughter do, I hope I never feel hate for my daughter. I will be praying for all the addicts & families. May 2016 bring a little peace and joy to everyone.
Thank you! Well it's still going on today again. Telling her dad she's feeling hopeless and next step is limbo? I know what limbo is but I don't know how it would apply to my daughter. She also says she is seeing frightening things. I wonder if something else is going on here. I still won't let her come home here as I can't give up this peace we have found. Thank you for your advice and support its such a help. Laurie ...looked for you before Christmas to wish you Merry Christmas. I hope you had a peaceful one. Your all in my thoughts. God Bless. Mary.
Mary,
Do you know what drugs she's currently using? Is there a chance that she's having some sort of hallucinations? Our son still swears that some kind of underground network was following him and using fiber optic cameras that came out of the ground...etc...
Laurie,
Teddy is doing great! I hated to leave that precious angel! I'll be flying down in February by myself for a few days. I can't wait.
Michelle
Do you know what drugs she's currently using? Is there a chance that she's having some sort of hallucinations? Our son still swears that some kind of underground network was following him and using fiber optic cameras that came out of the ground...etc...
Laurie,
Teddy is doing great! I hated to leave that precious angel! I'll be flying down in February by myself for a few days. I can't wait.
Michelle
Hi Michelle, Glad Teddy and mom are doing great! I,m sure you can't wait to see them again. My AD's choice drug just now is crack/ cocaine. I've read up on it and it's a hard one to get off of. I thought when she was on heroin it would be hard to get off that. She takes methadone too at a clinic everyday. Can you imagine what these kids organs must be like inside with all the chemicals that go through them. Anyway, I'm still sticking to my boundaries and I have no contact, she still calls her dad now and again. He told me she wants to go to lunch with me but I can't do it anymore. I'm afraid to see what she looks like as she was like a skeleton last time I saw her. I really think I've had enough and although I hate to say it, but I think I'm all done. It's taken me 17 yrs of this torture and coming on here to realize I have had enough. When she gets clean and sober for awhile then I'll talk. But for now I just can't. Hows your AS doing? Any signs of him changing, I wish he would! It certainly is true that we can't control it, can't cure it, didn't cause it. I think when I came to terms with that it completely changed my way of thinking. God Bless Michelle, thank you! Mary.
Hi,
When my daughter called me and said the same thing- I hung up as well.
God Bless.
When my daughter called me and said the same thing- I hung up as well.
God Bless.
Mary, Limbo is just a concept in her drug clouded brain. My son said similar things to me too. I'd ask him about it and even his answers didn't make sense. But at the time I was asking him like I'd talk to a straight person and not someone who was stoned on drugs. I was trying to make sense of nonsense.
My Christmas was great actually. No drama at all from AS or any other family members and that is a first! I got to spend some quality time with almost all of the 11 grandkids. I hope your holidays were happy and drama free ones too.
Hi Axor, Welcome and sorry you have to be here.
My son has stopped over a few times. He looks better than he did when I threw him out but I don't believe he's stopped the pills completely like he claims he has. I can tell by the way he acts that he's not off them.
I think he's just doing enough to function or to keep himself from going through withdrawals. Whatever. He's his own man. I did my part, it's time for him to do his. If he wants to live that way that's his choice.
My Christmas was great actually. No drama at all from AS or any other family members and that is a first! I got to spend some quality time with almost all of the 11 grandkids. I hope your holidays were happy and drama free ones too.
Hi Axor, Welcome and sorry you have to be here.
My son has stopped over a few times. He looks better than he did when I threw him out but I don't believe he's stopped the pills completely like he claims he has. I can tell by the way he acts that he's not off them.
I think he's just doing enough to function or to keep himself from going through withdrawals. Whatever. He's his own man. I did my part, it's time for him to do his. If he wants to live that way that's his choice.
This is January 5 "Daily Reflection" of AA (substitute the drug of choice for alcohol).
It tells quite well the bottom that the addict/alcoholic has to hit before they are teachable.
http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/daily-reflection
Prayers to the suffering addict/alcoholic. It truly is a deadly disease.
Bob R
It tells quite well the bottom that the addict/alcoholic has to hit before they are teachable.
http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/daily-reflection
Prayers to the suffering addict/alcoholic. It truly is a deadly disease.
Bob R
