hi, my first post. My daughers home the first time in 18 months, shes been home for 6 weeks and had ticked all the boxes she had set. Lapse last week, were all struggling at home with thoughts and feelings. Lots of support and encouragement has been from me and her brother, but i really feel like strangling her at times. The reason for this, is the sudden outbursts of aggresion. its not my fault she blew all her christmas money!. x ? not sure where to go from here.
Welcome. It doesn't seem to matter how much time they are gone, right away things get right back to 'normal' don't they? You don't have to put up with her aggression...it's your home and I suspect it's been a lot more peaceful since she's been gone. I don't say this to be mean, but as the mother of a heroin addict who has been in and out of recovery for months and months. She's been asked to leave three times since May and the only reason she's here now is that her dad can't bear to put her out for good.
We give her lots of support and understanding, just as you all do for your daughter, and our girl has money issues, too...it's a natural consequence of their bad choices. You do not have to be a victim of those bad choices and all you need are some boundaries about what will and will not be tolerated in hyour home.
Good luck and keep coming back. Also, try posting on the Family board where there are loads of parents in the same boat.
Peace~MomNMore
We give her lots of support and understanding, just as you all do for your daughter, and our girl has money issues, too...it's a natural consequence of their bad choices. You do not have to be a victim of those bad choices and all you need are some boundaries about what will and will not be tolerated in hyour home.
Good luck and keep coming back. Also, try posting on the Family board where there are loads of parents in the same boat.
Peace~MomNMore