hi ,
My Dad and mom are on crack cocane and i don't know how to deal with it. They depend on me so much to help run the house hold and i am only eighteen years old. i also have a younger sister who is on crack she weighted 145 and 6 months later she now weights 95 pounds. My younger brother is the star football player of his high school and my other younger sister is a really good and smart kid. I am in college and my parent's worries are starting to effect my school work. So i decided to move out and live with my grandmother, since i have moved out, the family that i have once held together is now falling apart. My dad called me today telling me that i need to come back home, but i don't want to because i am only 18 an can't handle supporting the whole family. I mean my dad makes enough money to support us financely but i can't take care of everyone and make dinner, clean the house, and still have a 30hr joba week and 16hrs of college. What can i do? I desperatly need some help
I am very sorry that someone your age is carrying such a heavy burden. You didn't cause it. You can't control it. You can't cure it. I am very devasted that my 29 year old daughter and my son-in-law are on crack. I have tried to get them to go to rehab. They have lost their house and about to lose their business. I am tired of my grandchildren (ages 11, 8, 7) carrying the burden for their parents. They are being abused psychologically. I have had enough. I turned the parents in to child protective services. At least my grandchildren will be taken out of the hell they have been in. Sometimes you have to make tough decisions that are painful. This was the hardest phone call I have ever made. I just hope this wakes up my daughter and son-in-law. If I have to, I'll have them arrested. I am tired of their excuses. I am tired of worrying every time the phone rings. If they don't get into rehab, I am suing them for full custody of my grandchildren. I am through sitting back waiting for them to hit rock bottom. I have an interventionist lined up and a rehab to take them to. I will not give up. Hang in there and think with your heart. Good Luck
KAM I AM SOOOO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR PARENTS...I COULD NOT IMAGINE THAT..THAT REALLY MAKES ME THINK THO...HOW BAD I WOULD FEEL THE DAY MY 5 YEAR OLD FOUND OUT HIS MOTHER WAS DOING DRUGS...THANKS FOR GIVING ME SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT.THAT HAS GOT TO BE DEVASTATING.
i agree... the thoufght of my two innocent beautiful kids thinking thta kells me deeply
Dear Kam
Drugs do awful things to good people. DO NOT GO HOME UNLESS THEY GO INTO TREATMENT or you will get sucked right back into the role of being the parent. I know from experience. My brother and sister are crackheads. After my brother lost everything (job, house, family, kids, money, and almost his life) he came to live with me and my children - needless to say he could not stay clean on his own and he refused the 28 day program I offered to pay for him. After a year of trying to save him by providing a home, food, clothes, unlimited supply of work and a good example - I kicked him out because of his drug use. (He still blames me for his problems) He then went to live with my baby sister who tryed to help him - but she got hooked on CRACK with him. She lost her job, her dignity, and almost her daughter because of her use and denial. Her daughter made her choose her or crack - and I offered my sister the same deal I offered my brother - she took it.
As hard as it was to get her on the plane and into a program away from her suppliers - it is also the best shot she has of getting back to a normal life;
Your parents and siblings have life sucking problem that will affect you if you try to save them by taking care their responsibilities. THEY NEED TREATMENT. Call a treatment hotline for advice. DO NOT GO HOME!
Good luck - Big sis
Drugs do awful things to good people. DO NOT GO HOME UNLESS THEY GO INTO TREATMENT or you will get sucked right back into the role of being the parent. I know from experience. My brother and sister are crackheads. After my brother lost everything (job, house, family, kids, money, and almost his life) he came to live with me and my children - needless to say he could not stay clean on his own and he refused the 28 day program I offered to pay for him. After a year of trying to save him by providing a home, food, clothes, unlimited supply of work and a good example - I kicked him out because of his drug use. (He still blames me for his problems) He then went to live with my baby sister who tryed to help him - but she got hooked on CRACK with him. She lost her job, her dignity, and almost her daughter because of her use and denial. Her daughter made her choose her or crack - and I offered my sister the same deal I offered my brother - she took it.
As hard as it was to get her on the plane and into a program away from her suppliers - it is also the best shot she has of getting back to a normal life;
Your parents and siblings have life sucking problem that will affect you if you try to save them by taking care their responsibilities. THEY NEED TREATMENT. Call a treatment hotline for advice. DO NOT GO HOME!
Good luck - Big sis
