My son (16 years old) has smoked marijuana about 18 months ago, I confronted him about it and he promised to stop - which he did at that time, he now has met a girl (15) who has been in rehab for drugs, she promised me she is clean - now I hear stories of him smoking marijuana and sniffing glue with her, is there somebody out there who can please give me advice on how to handle this, I don't want to loose my son but I need to get him of drugs urgently?
You might want to check out the family and friends thread. Good luck to you and your son.
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My sister has been addicted to marijuana for about 4 years. The advice i'd give you is to get him help immediately. My mom let it go for too long, and my sister is now at a bad place in her life. She needs marijuana to start her day, to eat meals, and to sleep. It has changed her and she now has no clue who she is without it. I know her bottom will be when she is forced to go into a treatment program.
If your son is not as hard headed as my sister and thinks his use is an issue, you may have luck in putting him in an in-patient or out-patient rehab program. He's young enough to have the problem fixed before it stems into other drugs addictions. My sister still has a shot, it will just be extremely difficult for her to cope with the fact that she will not be able to use marijuana once she is sober...when she finally gets help.
good luck
If your son is not as hard headed as my sister and thinks his use is an issue, you may have luck in putting him in an in-patient or out-patient rehab program. He's young enough to have the problem fixed before it stems into other drugs addictions. My sister still has a shot, it will just be extremely difficult for her to cope with the fact that she will not be able to use marijuana once she is sober...when she finally gets help.
good luck
You cant get him off drugs, even with the youngest of those it is them who must want off.
You have some options him being so youngbut still my head screams he wont be done till he is done, so keep that present always as if he went away to like rehab the one only guarantee is that he will learn tools, from there well it is still all himthe path he wants to walk and if he wants to use them tools
What is he like, do you mind sharing as it makes it easier to respond. Is he doing what most 16 years old do, go to school, deceit grades, meaning to his levelMaybe a job, maybe sports, maybe certain friends that were always aroundaside from the girl ( who in no way can make him use, you need to know that, it is always him, nothing more ) does he seem to be in life just doing his thing and meeting his responsibilities
Also is there a history of addiction in your family
This is hard, always is with kids this young, as to know what it really is, party time, need, a fix( something that makes him feel normal).
There is a family board, you can post there as well. It teaches us as parents how to remove ourselves from being part of the problem, all that helping, which tends to just be helping them further into their addiction if we are enabling all codependent like
Believe in him always,
Love,
Tina
You have some options him being so youngbut still my head screams he wont be done till he is done, so keep that present always as if he went away to like rehab the one only guarantee is that he will learn tools, from there well it is still all himthe path he wants to walk and if he wants to use them tools
What is he like, do you mind sharing as it makes it easier to respond. Is he doing what most 16 years old do, go to school, deceit grades, meaning to his levelMaybe a job, maybe sports, maybe certain friends that were always aroundaside from the girl ( who in no way can make him use, you need to know that, it is always him, nothing more ) does he seem to be in life just doing his thing and meeting his responsibilities
Also is there a history of addiction in your family
This is hard, always is with kids this young, as to know what it really is, party time, need, a fix( something that makes him feel normal).
There is a family board, you can post there as well. It teaches us as parents how to remove ourselves from being part of the problem, all that helping, which tends to just be helping them further into their addiction if we are enabling all codependent like
Believe in him always,
Love,
Tina
Its a common misconception that the person cannot stop using until they truly want to. Espically being so young, YOU can get him the help he needs. You dont have to wait for the addict to hit a bottom and want help, you can set a bottom line with your son so that he has no other option. It takes a lot of strength from the parent(s), because not every parent is cut out to handle this type of situation. But if you are strong willed enough and ready for the "I hate you" and kicking and screaming, you can pull through this.
