My 20 year old has been to 2 1/2 rehabs and 3 months in a 1/2 way house this year. He came home about 2 months ago to resume life and school. He seemed ok for a while--got a job, seemed reconciled. Now he has gone back to using, pot, lortabs and what else. He is having many physical symtoms, no sleep, irratable etc. We have catch him trying to bring drugs into our house 3 nights in a row--even taped near his genitals (pot). We are about to kick him out for good. He says we should accept him as he is. He disrrupts everyday of our lives. He says he does not want to stop. Is there any point is putting him in rehab again--if he does not want it? Think kicking him out is the right thing? Any help is appreciated. Some Christmas. Thanks.
Daveo:
So sorry to hear of your sons troubles. Addiction is just heartbreaking...for the addict and for those who love the addict as well. In a perfect world, well, I am sure you can imagine your own perfect world.
I have no sage advice...but I would like to encourage you to post your thoughts on the Friends and Family site here. I am sure you will get more helpful feedback from those who have walked a mile in your shoes.
I wish your son peace and healing...for your entire family. The holidays can be brutal on all of us.
Sarah
So sorry to hear of your sons troubles. Addiction is just heartbreaking...for the addict and for those who love the addict as well. In a perfect world, well, I am sure you can imagine your own perfect world.
I have no sage advice...but I would like to encourage you to post your thoughts on the Friends and Family site here. I am sure you will get more helpful feedback from those who have walked a mile in your shoes.
I wish your son peace and healing...for your entire family. The holidays can be brutal on all of us.
Sarah
A Christmas Welcome.
He's 20 years old.He is a man.I wouldn't foot one more dime for a Rehab he is not comitted for.I'm sure you could use that money for yourself.
Maybe on his own he will reach is own bottom.
I know we won't to do everything in our power to help people who are suffering in this addiction,but after the 2nd or 3rd time it's probably time to let go.
I know times have changed but I was on my own at 18.I had to find a job and support my own lifestyle.
Tell him you love him and you will give him as much moral support as you can when he decides he's had enough.
Financial help?...That's your call.But when my parents said "Adios",it was an understood condition that meant the cash too.
Good Luck
He's 20 years old.He is a man.I wouldn't foot one more dime for a Rehab he is not comitted for.I'm sure you could use that money for yourself.
Maybe on his own he will reach is own bottom.
I know we won't to do everything in our power to help people who are suffering in this addiction,but after the 2nd or 3rd time it's probably time to let go.
I know times have changed but I was on my own at 18.I had to find a job and support my own lifestyle.
Tell him you love him and you will give him as much moral support as you can when he decides he's had enough.
Financial help?...That's your call.But when my parents said "Adios",it was an understood condition that meant the cash too.
Good Luck
Thanks for the posts. Everything helps at this point.
He's 20 years old.He is a man.I wouldn't foot one more dime for a Rehab he is not comitted for.I'm sure you could use that money for yourself.
Maybe on his own he will reach is own bottom.
Unless he wants it, (sobriety) you are just wasting your time. Addiction is an ugly thing to battle, even for people who want it. I wouldn't pay for his rehab again; I would show him the door. I know it is hard, but sometimes you are helping him more by letting him hit bottom faster. Then, he will want to change.
Merry Christmas...
Maybe on his own he will reach is own bottom.
Unless he wants it, (sobriety) you are just wasting your time. Addiction is an ugly thing to battle, even for people who want it. I wouldn't pay for his rehab again; I would show him the door. I know it is hard, but sometimes you are helping him more by letting him hit bottom faster. Then, he will want to change.
Merry Christmas...
Excellent advice Tim...I agree wholeheartedly!! I am so sorry that you are the parents of an addict..that is not an easy pill to swallow (sorry for that pun!)
Things will only improve in your sons life when he takes responsibility for himself. I understand how we can easily fall into enabling..lord knows that I have done enough of it myself!
Kick his butt out and then he will be forced to get better or to hit his bottom. Feel good that you are no longer enabling his sick addictive behaviour!
Good luck and keep coming back!
Things will only improve in your sons life when he takes responsibility for himself. I understand how we can easily fall into enabling..lord knows that I have done enough of it myself!
Kick his butt out and then he will be forced to get better or to hit his bottom. Feel good that you are no longer enabling his sick addictive behaviour!
Good luck and keep coming back!
