have been off Soma for 3 months now.I have no desire to go back, I hurt everyone I loved while using. This is my problem.
I have had this toothe ache.The pain is often unbearable.I had some Hydrocodone presrcibed,my wife gives it when I need it,that way theres no question.Well last night I didn't wan't to take any meds so I told my wife I'll just have a shot of Jack and that will be it.(I have never been a drinker)I' also took an ibuproferen.
Apparently I was stumbling,unable to stand etc...etc..
now she thinks that I took something else.She thinks I am lying, and now she says you can never drink anything again.Which I don't have a problem with at all, I don't even like drinking.My problem is that she thinks I'm lying.
I know I have not been truthfull in the past.I know that it is going to take a long time to repair the damage I've done.
What should I do?
Stay the course. Trust takes a long time to earn back. Have patience with her -- she has with you. M.
Brent, I'm in the same boat of you..can ANYONE tell us the effects of Hydro and booze..I've been using a little Vodka to help with w/d's, but it seems to really mess me up..now I am afraid of both...I'm tapering from Hydro again...I know my problem is both..but which is messing me and Brent up..stumbling, etc..
Brent, also, for what it's worth..my wife is really pissed too..and I am afraid to death she will leave me..
I'm pretty sure every prescription bottle for hydro says not to drink alcohol while using, Danny. Probably you are experiencing the reason for that prohibition. I didn't read neighbor's post to say that he was combining both, though.
Oh boy Brent does all that sound so familyer!!!!
My hubby is recovering from hydro and was 7weeks into recovery when he cut his finger off at work!!! so like your wife I was incharge of all meds. after they were gone I still thought he had taken some. It is in our nature to asume you are being dishonest, we dont mean to be that way but we have been hurt so bad. the only way my husband could prove to me he was clean before the accident was to do drug test strips and that really did put my mind at ease. and yes I have reordered those strips again to test him in a couple of weeks just to make sure. I love my hubby and Iam sure your wife loves you so order the strips and prove to her that you are being honest. .... ps I hope you tooth feels better
Meljo
My hubby is recovering from hydro and was 7weeks into recovery when he cut his finger off at work!!! so like your wife I was incharge of all meds. after they were gone I still thought he had taken some. It is in our nature to asume you are being dishonest, we dont mean to be that way but we have been hurt so bad. the only way my husband could prove to me he was clean before the accident was to do drug test strips and that really did put my mind at ease. and yes I have reordered those strips again to test him in a couple of weeks just to make sure. I love my hubby and Iam sure your wife loves you so order the strips and prove to her that you are being honest. .... ps I hope you tooth feels better
Meljo
danny, keep the faith dude.
I know I haved lied in the past, and I know trust takes forever to rebuild. Ihate everything that I have done to the people I love, but I am trying to be a better man,an honest man.I guess when it comes down to it I brought this all on myself.
I know I haved lied in the past, and I know trust takes forever to rebuild. Ihate everything that I have done to the people I love, but I am trying to be a better man,an honest man.I guess when it comes down to it I brought this all on myself.
I'm in the same boat, Brent. I lived by a policy of non-disclosure for a long time. My relationship with my wife has taken a lot of hits. The trust just takes time. I get frustrated too. M.
Morning All,
Trust is a big issue on both side. At my house now it seems to be the only issue. I don't trust him and he doesn't trust himself or me......It really is nasty. I check his eyes all the time, even by leading him from light to dark places in the house to see if they react.......does he know this nah he will tonight when he checks the board. He thought I would leave in the begining if he told me how bad he was.....I already knew. He slipped up thought he was going for sure he is still here! It is a vicious cycle. The only answer to this prolbem I can think of is time. We all have to give ourselves time through this process just wish I knew how much.
Take care everyone and enjoy the day!
Tina
Trust is a big issue on both side. At my house now it seems to be the only issue. I don't trust him and he doesn't trust himself or me......It really is nasty. I check his eyes all the time, even by leading him from light to dark places in the house to see if they react.......does he know this nah he will tonight when he checks the board. He thought I would leave in the begining if he told me how bad he was.....I already knew. He slipped up thought he was going for sure he is still here! It is a vicious cycle. The only answer to this prolbem I can think of is time. We all have to give ourselves time through this process just wish I knew how much.
Take care everyone and enjoy the day!
Tina
I wish my wife understood..unless you go through this, you can't..and I can't lose her..I love her too much
Hang in Danny and keep working at getting clean! The hubby knows the drill as long as he keeps working with the counselor, gets support and does the good things he needs to for himself I'll keep supporting him. If he gives up on himself and stops fighting I am packing his s*** and he will be living on the streets. I know sounds harsh but it is the truth. So keep fighting ever day and make yourself and your wife proud. Don't forget to tell her how much you love and appreciate her........
My husband doesn't trust me at all. So many lies I have been caught in. Once a liar...it's really hard to get the trust back....it's horrible.
