My daughter has been on oxycontin for 2 years now. She claims that she is off of them, however, lately she has been really, really negative and mean. She is a single mother and we have always been close. Last week she told me she really hates me and always will. She isn't rational lately to talk to and has a lot of anger towards me. She wants me to give her money because she is broke...I said I wouldn't . Has anyone experienced intense anger from anyone addicted to OC's? Please help!! I don't know what to do....I really don't want to engage in hostile conversation with her. Is it common for people to have a lot of hostility on these?
Thanks for any answers or advice.
Dear Perplexed,
YES... it sounds to me like shes detoxing OFF of them...if she was on them she wouldnt be so bitchy....lol well thats what my instincts tell me, and I am on a taper for similar drug, and hate the world, right now...totally out of charachter for me....when i had the drug, the world was great. I love my Mother, but had to hang up today, couldnt force myself to listen to hear rattle on about her frozen pond and missing fish...lol told her my dinner was burning and had to go...thats not like me.........she doesnt usually irritate me THIS much lol...
If your daughter says shes off of them and is uptight, maybe she is...Offer support and love, she'll come around. God bless all Mothers.
Hugs,
Ali
YES... it sounds to me like shes detoxing OFF of them...if she was on them she wouldnt be so bitchy....lol well thats what my instincts tell me, and I am on a taper for similar drug, and hate the world, right now...totally out of charachter for me....when i had the drug, the world was great. I love my Mother, but had to hang up today, couldnt force myself to listen to hear rattle on about her frozen pond and missing fish...lol told her my dinner was burning and had to go...thats not like me.........she doesnt usually irritate me THIS much lol...
If your daughter says shes off of them and is uptight, maybe she is...Offer support and love, she'll come around. God bless all Mothers.
Hugs,
Ali
Who knows she could of have just been w/ding ....And wanted money to go buy some......I wouldnt just give her money unless i knew where it was going for sure.If it was food,bills ect...Id tell her id pick it up for her.if you are willing to help her with these kinds of things.
I did the same thing to my husband and treated him so badly.I regret it everyday.Its so hard if she doesnt want to get off them for her to tell you she is still useing.Need to really try and talk with her ..make it clear if she is and wants help you will do whatever ....Wish i could offer more advice to you.I know it so hard for you.makebe someone with a plan and better help will be along soon.crystal
I did the same thing to my husband and treated him so badly.I regret it everyday.Its so hard if she doesnt want to get off them for her to tell you she is still useing.Need to really try and talk with her ..make it clear if she is and wants help you will do whatever ....Wish i could offer more advice to you.I know it so hard for you.makebe someone with a plan and better help will be along soon.crystal
Thank you both so much for responding to my post. I am taking your advice and will be supportive as much as possible without enabling her.
God bless with your recovery, and although I can't imagine what it must be like to be addicted, my heart felt love with with you.
God bless with your recovery, and although I can't imagine what it must be like to be addicted, my heart felt love with with you.
You're daughter is in emotional pain. Something we all know a little about. Addicts don't handle it the way normal people do.
You're a good mom for wanting to help her and support her but until she wants it for herself, there's not much else you can do.
Cowgirl
You're a good mom for wanting to help her and support her but until she wants it for herself, there's not much else you can do.
Cowgirl
Good luck Perplexed!
Also, check out the Families / Friends of Addicts forum. You'll find lots of support and good advice there too.
Jim
Also, check out the Families / Friends of Addicts forum. You'll find lots of support and good advice there too.
Jim
I know you are hurting also,but if she hasnt hit rock bottom yet.She will sooner or later.Just to let her know you will be there for her when she does...it will be easier for her to come to you when she does
.Atleast she will know she has you to help her through ///.I wish i had a mom here for me like you.Even though you dont know about addication.I know you still suffer from this too.....I will pray for you and her.....crystal
.Atleast she will know she has you to help her through ///.I wish i had a mom here for me like you.Even though you dont know about addication.I know you still suffer from this too.....I will pray for you and her.....crystal
That's really nice Crystal.
that WAS nice chrystal..i concur
Hugs,
Ali
Hugs,
Ali
Thank you all. It helps to have others who have actually gone through the addiction. From the outside looking in....I really want to understand, but since I haven't been there, it helps that wonderful people like you care enough to respond to my post.
Hugs to all of you, from a mom that really really cares!!
Hugs to all of you, from a mom that really really cares!!
Dear perplexed, The cause of your daughter's anger could be caused from using OR withdrawing. I know some people who are mean snakes when they take the stuff. It can make you overly irritable. But, going through WD is nasty, kinda like the worst flu you can imagine times 10. That can also cause anger. Just be there for her. You may want to go to an ala-non meeting. They are free and you can learn about addiction and how to cope with all of this. Best wishes!
