Help! How do I help my son who is addidcated to Hydros. He had to take them for pain for several years. And now He is using up to 20 or 25 pills a day. He is on the verge of losing his wife and kids. He is a wonderful husband and father. But his need for cash is destroying their life and ours. We can no longer deal with this. He is killing us. I love him very much but I do not know how to help him.
granny does he know he has a problem and does he want to get off the pills?
If the answer is yes there are many options for getting clean, seeing his Dr, contacting a drug and alcohol service, rehab, calling Narcotics Anonymous hotline etc.
If the answer is no, then you can't do much except look after yourselves until he wants help.
He has to want it, you cant want it for him. Perhaps if you give us a little more information about where you live, what his views are etc.. we can help you
If the answer is yes there are many options for getting clean, seeing his Dr, contacting a drug and alcohol service, rehab, calling Narcotics Anonymous hotline etc.
If the answer is no, then you can't do much except look after yourselves until he wants help.
He has to want it, you cant want it for him. Perhaps if you give us a little more information about where you live, what his views are etc.. we can help you
In 2002 he went away in October to a drug rehab center and stayed gone for 6 months, with only visits from us once a month for 3 hours. He was away on his sons 3rd birthday, his anniversary, his birthday, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. We thought that he was straight for a year, now we find out he is back on them. We(his parents,sister, grandparents) know about this but we have not told his wife for we know that she will kick him out. His children are his life, and that is one of the reasons that she has let him stay. By the way her parents have always back him and loved him unconditionly, even thru the bad times.He is a cronic kidney stone former, and has had kidney stones since he was 16 , he is now 34. He has to take hydros for the pain and that is what started this mess. He would have kidney stone sometimes 6 or 7 times a year. Then he has gotten really good at faking a stone to get the pills. He was a wonderful son loved by all of his family. He works in the family business. So we are with him every day. But he has become a master liar. I just want to know what I need to help him. My husband said that he is going to have to fire him if he doesn't get better, if not for my pleas on his behalf , and his family, he would already be gone. And he knows this. His dad said we have to start tough love. But I feel like if he loses us , he will do something stupid.
Someone wrecked his truck, and then he came into quit abit of money , that is what started this mess. Really he began to buy more and more. By then he was really hooked. So he began to trade his wifes jewerly or anything that they had of any value. Then he started stealing from our busines. Now it is our house. WhicH we have began to lock, It is said when we have to lock our son out of our house. He use to come there to eat lunch every day, or come by at night while I was at work. Now we realize that he has started to steal so we had to lock up. He will stop at the door now when he picks up his kids after school, I pick them up, and say I can't come in the house anymore. I want to tell him this is his home and he is welcomed anytime. But can't.
Granny, at 34 your grandson needs to take responsibility for his life and his addiction. AT the same time his family needs to stop covering for him.
We believe that we can help our loved ones by covering for them at home, with their families, children and with their employers. We make excuses on their behalf when it comes to their addiction, blaming the trigger rather than calling them on their behaviour.
Your grandson knows where to get help, let him get that help. Encourage him to make the move but stop putting up with behavioir that is intolerable.
We believe that we can help our loved ones by covering for them at home, with their families, children and with their employers. We make excuses on their behalf when it comes to their addiction, blaming the trigger rather than calling them on their behaviour.
Your grandson knows where to get help, let him get that help. Encourage him to make the move but stop putting up with behavioir that is intolerable.
