Hi, my 26 year old son has been on norco for almost 2 years. He has a bad back. I have seen his mri reports and yes there are issues but nothing surgical. I feel like he is taking the pills for the high and is addicted. I struggle with him in pain vs taking the pills. At first he said he takes 3 a day but I found out he get 180 a month. I also believe he buys more off the street because he is always broke. He and his gf live together with their 2 year old son. I am pretty sure she uses the pills too. They both work and take good care of the baby. Well should say the baby is fed and clothed but I don't feel they do enough with him, seems like iPad or tv does most of the care. So now almost 2 years later and I can't take it anymore and I feel like a horrible person. I don't like my sons choices and now I am at the point where it just is hurting me to much to go around him. I feel like I don't want to even see him anymore, but how can a mom feel that? It would b easier for me to just not be around them, I am angry all the time. I have tried to help him but he thinks since the dr orders them it's ok. I don't respect my son I feel like a horrible mom it's killing me. I do not know how to set anymore boundaries that can help protect my heart. I do not give him money. His dad and I have been divorced for many years, his dad gives his money every year from growing pot. I have begged him for 15 years to please not just give the kids money but it hasn't stopped. There is nothing I can do and I accept that but I need to protect myself, I cry and am angry. I want to just not see him at all so I can live in my own little world and not be sad all the time. I know this sounds sooooo bad.... I need help
Sounds like exactly the way I feel! My son is 45 with a meth addiction( and who knows what else)!
I don't like being around him or talking to him. He is a sad story and all he ever wants is a bailout or money. We are no longer enabling him and so he no longer calls or comes around now. Haven't seen or heard from him in 4 wks. now and frankly it is easier for us and I can at least function again without dreading his presence or calls.
Do I feel badly and like a bad mom??? Well, I used to, but now I realize I have to let him go and let God! That is the only thing that has worked for me. I don't want to be dealing with him till my dying breathe!! He must make a choice to change his life and only he can do that. The only person I can fix is myself. I have a handicapped 15 y/o to raise and I must be strong enough to do so. That is my goal in life!
You must take care of yourself. If both your son and his gf are addicts, then only they can change that. If you feel the baby is in trouble or they are not caring for him properly then you must report them to DCF! The baby can't speak for himself!
Sadly--your son will continue to spiral down and things will get worse unless he chooses to go to rehab or get in a program! Opiate addictions are really tough!
Stay on this forum and listen to the ones that have walked the walk, like Papa Bear and Con! Get to a Al-anon or Nar-anon program for yourself.
Be strong and your feelings are totally normal when in this situation!
(((HUGS and prayers)))
I don't like being around him or talking to him. He is a sad story and all he ever wants is a bailout or money. We are no longer enabling him and so he no longer calls or comes around now. Haven't seen or heard from him in 4 wks. now and frankly it is easier for us and I can at least function again without dreading his presence or calls.
Do I feel badly and like a bad mom??? Well, I used to, but now I realize I have to let him go and let God! That is the only thing that has worked for me. I don't want to be dealing with him till my dying breathe!! He must make a choice to change his life and only he can do that. The only person I can fix is myself. I have a handicapped 15 y/o to raise and I must be strong enough to do so. That is my goal in life!
You must take care of yourself. If both your son and his gf are addicts, then only they can change that. If you feel the baby is in trouble or they are not caring for him properly then you must report them to DCF! The baby can't speak for himself!
Sadly--your son will continue to spiral down and things will get worse unless he chooses to go to rehab or get in a program! Opiate addictions are really tough!
Stay on this forum and listen to the ones that have walked the walk, like Papa Bear and Con! Get to a Al-anon or Nar-anon program for yourself.
Be strong and your feelings are totally normal when in this situation!
(((HUGS and prayers)))
Ditto on what dutchusschama has posted to you.
Peace and love
Peace and love
my heart goes out too you......
I'm so sorry for your pain,Needhelp. As moms of addicts we know exactly how you feel. And, no. . .you are not this year's winner of the "Bad Mommy's Award." You're not even in the contest.
I can't add much more to what Duchess already said. But I can send my own hug.
Lynn
I can't add much more to what Duchess already said. But I can send my own hug.
Lynn
