5 weeks ago today, my boyfriend went to treatment after an intervention.
Today he comes home. Exciting yet so many unanswered questions still. Mostly what will our dynamic be in this next phase of recovery?!
i can't say enough how great Al-Anon has been for me; it's already given me so many tools in this short short time.
I guess I'm just curious on other's experiences in having a loved one home from treatment.
Stick with the Al-Anon folks for strength and direction.
Pray, meditate and confer with the Al-Anon oldtimers.
All the best.
Bob R
Pray, meditate and confer with the Al-Anon oldtimers.
All the best.
Bob R
Yes Al Anon will be my biggest tool!
Day 1 was an emotional roller coaster to say the least. Elation that he is home coupled with his feelings of worry and concern about his family and their perception of his recovery.
For those who have had loved ones go to treatment and come home, how have you handled the feelings that maybe the addict isn't where you thought they be in their recovery?
Personally I have see great changes in him, just how he handled a few stressful situations yesterday; a shift in how he thought. Glimmers of that old self that drank were there too, but he's only 40 days into his recovery process, changed can't happen overnight.
The worry that I have is that his family doesn't seem to think he's learned anything in his treatment thus far which is really discouraging to him. I understand that he may be also feeling that way however, is it healthy for his family to tell him "you haven't learned anything"
I know I can't control them and their perception of him, and because they don't live near us, I truly have know their adult son more closely than they have so perhaps I see the subtle changes and their expecting the big changes.
He went to his AA meeting last night, has an outpatient group that he's excited to attend tonight and begins day treatment later this week. He calls his buddy from treatment and will attend meetings with him and is in the beginning phases of getting a sponsor.
Because I am his biggest enabler, I'm talking the steps to change things about myself too; it is frustrating to feel that they are expecting that since the booze is gone, he will magically have fixed everything.
Day 1 was an emotional roller coaster to say the least. Elation that he is home coupled with his feelings of worry and concern about his family and their perception of his recovery.
For those who have had loved ones go to treatment and come home, how have you handled the feelings that maybe the addict isn't where you thought they be in their recovery?
Personally I have see great changes in him, just how he handled a few stressful situations yesterday; a shift in how he thought. Glimmers of that old self that drank were there too, but he's only 40 days into his recovery process, changed can't happen overnight.
The worry that I have is that his family doesn't seem to think he's learned anything in his treatment thus far which is really discouraging to him. I understand that he may be also feeling that way however, is it healthy for his family to tell him "you haven't learned anything"
I know I can't control them and their perception of him, and because they don't live near us, I truly have know their adult son more closely than they have so perhaps I see the subtle changes and their expecting the big changes.
He went to his AA meeting last night, has an outpatient group that he's excited to attend tonight and begins day treatment later this week. He calls his buddy from treatment and will attend meetings with him and is in the beginning phases of getting a sponsor.
Because I am his biggest enabler, I'm talking the steps to change things about myself too; it is frustrating to feel that they are expecting that since the booze is gone, he will magically have fixed everything.
