My son has been addicted to marajuana for 5 years and using for 9. He says he has kicked the habit but has no motivation. How long does this last or is he still on it or has he a underlining problem? He does not want to work and just sits home all day,dllewellyn@westnet.com.au
Just how much honesty are you willing to hear?
He doesn't WANT to work? Is it optional? In my world, work is not optional, it's mandatory. How old is your son? Are you okay with supporting him in this lifestyle of doing nothing. Activity begets motivation in my experience - the longer you do nothing, the less motivated you will be. What are your expectations and fears for him? As many here say, "Nothing changes if nothing changes."
PS skg - where in VT? We have a ski place in the NE Kingdom, Jay to be precise.
PS skg - where in VT? We have a ski place in the NE Kingdom, Jay to be precise.
I know Jay Peak, although I'm from central--my father's family is in Woodstock and I used to ski Ascutney, Okemo, Magic, and several others. Killington was for "FlatLanders." :)
I think I was kinda headed in the same place as you, MomN. Sounds like an enabling relationship and, if I had someone who'd support my habits and I could sit around and smoke dope and watch Tom and Jerry with the stereo on I'd probably STILL be doing it. Ever watch, "Intervention," on A&E on Friday nights? Most, if not all, stories of addiction have an, "Enabler in the Midst..."
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I think I was kinda headed in the same place as you, MomN. Sounds like an enabling relationship and, if I had someone who'd support my habits and I could sit around and smoke dope and watch Tom and Jerry with the stereo on I'd probably STILL be doing it. Ever watch, "Intervention," on A&E on Friday nights? Most, if not all, stories of addiction have an, "Enabler in the Midst..."
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Gidday Neese
If you can go to an Alanon meeting i know it is for partners and family of Alcoholics but it will give you a key in what not to do and what to do in regards to your son, he will have no forward thinking due to the dope and it can stay in the system in the fat cells for years depending on how heavy he was into it.
So if he can start walking a bit and talking to someone honestly about what he is up to and feeling, he may get his s*** together.
Can you get him to a drug and alcohol counsellor? I used to cross the street and the music to the omen played in my head everytime i seen my counsellor walking towards me because i knew they could see past the lies i was so good at getting everyone else to believe.
Firstly Neese get yourself sorted with strength and information and yes he is your son but also he is not a leech so do not let him take your energy or money.
Am i right in saying Cmon Wales? but the Allblacks will win the Rugby world cup
light and love zac
If you can go to an Alanon meeting i know it is for partners and family of Alcoholics but it will give you a key in what not to do and what to do in regards to your son, he will have no forward thinking due to the dope and it can stay in the system in the fat cells for years depending on how heavy he was into it.
So if he can start walking a bit and talking to someone honestly about what he is up to and feeling, he may get his s*** together.
Can you get him to a drug and alcohol counsellor? I used to cross the street and the music to the omen played in my head everytime i seen my counsellor walking towards me because i knew they could see past the lies i was so good at getting everyone else to believe.
Firstly Neese get yourself sorted with strength and information and yes he is your son but also he is not a leech so do not let him take your energy or money.
Am i right in saying Cmon Wales? but the Allblacks will win the Rugby world cup
light and love zac
Zac, your response was far more caring and helpful than mine, glad you stepped in.
skg, yes, I have watched Intervention several times, once with my daughter. Some of it hit a little too close to home, but you're right about the enabler in the midst...I saw one where the mother and father agreed to certain specific boundaries, and she didn't last through the first testing. Of course, no happy ending there, but it sure felt familiar. I'm real glad that your own story is unfolding so nicely, though, you sound so positive and uplifted most of the time - really digging your sobriety, eh? Good for you, and good for your family. Happy weekend to you.
~MomNMore
skg, yes, I have watched Intervention several times, once with my daughter. Some of it hit a little too close to home, but you're right about the enabler in the midst...I saw one where the mother and father agreed to certain specific boundaries, and she didn't last through the first testing. Of course, no happy ending there, but it sure felt familiar. I'm real glad that your own story is unfolding so nicely, though, you sound so positive and uplifted most of the time - really digging your sobriety, eh? Good for you, and good for your family. Happy weekend to you.
~MomNMore
