My 8 year old son got his feelings hurt at school today and I feel so bad. It reminded me of myself of the times I got my feelings hurt, or someone picked on me and of all those little things that add up that make you the person you are today. They had a gift exchange in his class today where you pick a persons name out of a hat and you get a gift for that person which is supposed to be no more than $5.00. So the girl opens the gift from my son, and screams out "I dont want this! This is stupid!" and chucks it. Of course she got in trouble but I can just imagine what my son felt. I tried my best to explain things and make him feel better but part of me wants to ream the girl a new one!! Anyway, just had to vent because Im still bitter.... Hope everyone is doing well!! take care, fire
I am sorry your sons feelings got hurt. I know exactly how you feel. I have a 7 year old and he has gotten his feelings hurt a lot in school. It just breaks your heart doesn't it? The worst thing he ever told me was "I don't have any friends at school." I felt so bad for him. He is such a nice boy too. I hate when someone is mean to my child and it makes me want to go tell that kid something. He has gotten scratched before and I told him to tell that person They had better leave him alone or they are going to have to answer to me.
Well I again I am sorry that this happened. Just hug your son and tell him that some people don't know how to be appreciative.
Well I again I am sorry that this happened. Just hug your son and tell him that some people don't know how to be appreciative.
That $5 limit sucks (not that I want to spend more)...how many gifts can you find for that price??? I wish they would do something else...like McD gift cards or something...then at least you could stay in that limit....how many $5 gifts have you thrown away over the years?
I hate when my son comes home with hurt feelings...
I hate when my son comes home with hurt feelings...
Yea, you'd have to expect someone in the crowd to cause a scene. My son ended up giving the present to another girl because all she got was a box of Lucky Charms! A box of cereal! In kindergarten the gift exchange was a book-- only buy a book. But then I guess someone might have a more colorful one, or one that pops up or makes noise or farts or something. You know how it is. But I did hug my son and I thought I was going to cry! I did give him some sort of speech-- he is ok now. Im glad I wasnt there.... How many kids do you have stephanie?? 3 or 4?? Mcdonalds gift certificate is a great idea actually........
Lucky Charms??? Now who would have thought of that? On the other hand I am thinking of someone who is possibly on public assistance and didn't have any money to get anything...so maybe used food stamps? I just hate the pressure they put on kids (and us) to do this stuff.
The book that farts stinks...
Sorry..god, I hate it when my kids feelings are hurt..
Sorry..god, I hate it when my kids feelings are hurt..
Fire,im so sorry your son got his feelings hurt.That really does suck.What can you say to make him feel better,you know? The fact of the matter is...the little girl sounds like a spouiled brat...unfortunately,there are more and more children being raised where material things are getting more and more important.I told my husband,after this christmas (becasue we ere way too extravagant)we will cut way back,we dont want our grandchildren to expect huge giftsevery chrsitmas,or to be like that young girl,ungrateful for the things that "are" given to them.Sometimes you dont even realize how much you are spoiling them,and thats just what it is SPOILING them,then you get a little girl who knows no better than to make a comment like the one did today at your sons expense.
I hope he's feeling better tomight.It brings back memories of my sons,and the traumas/hurt feelings we went through over the years.Sounds like youve got a nice young man.Unfortunately,there wil probably be a few more hurt feelings through the years,its inevitable,and it hurts us just s deeply sa our children.~KIM
I hope he's feeling better tomight.It brings back memories of my sons,and the traumas/hurt feelings we went through over the years.Sounds like youve got a nice young man.Unfortunately,there wil probably be a few more hurt feelings through the years,its inevitable,and it hurts us just s deeply sa our children.~KIM
LOL-Dan
Yea, janet that is a lot of pressure. Now I feel bad for the lucky charms person.
Another kid got a big bag of M&M's. And the whole material thing icks me out too. We do spoil our kids, somewhat-- I feel if you give them too much they really dont appreciate it. My dad said when he was a kid he got a ball and an orange. His parents had it rough then I guess with the depression or whatever and then another kid gets something better and my dad thought Santa didnt like him or something. But I guess thats where we develop are compassion for others and all that good stuff!
Yea, janet that is a lot of pressure. Now I feel bad for the lucky charms person.
Another kid got a big bag of M&M's. And the whole material thing icks me out too. We do spoil our kids, somewhat-- I feel if you give them too much they really dont appreciate it. My dad said when he was a kid he got a ball and an orange. His parents had it rough then I guess with the depression or whatever and then another kid gets something better and my dad thought Santa didnt like him or something. But I guess thats where we develop are compassion for others and all that good stuff!
Part of the problem too is that $5 doesn't buy a whole lot today...I'm sure that limit has been in effect for 30 years
My Grandmother gave me 4 cans of peas when I was 6..I hated pea's..she was a real comedian..hahaha..I laugh so hard when I bounced the can off her head..I got her back 20 years later..I bought her "The Clapper"..I laughed so hard..
DON'T ask the worst Christmas present I have ever seen anyone get..it's awful..
Ya, $5 is pretty low. Can you really buy anything for $5 anymore? I mean besides a box of cereal or a bag of M&M's? It should be $10-$12 and thats still cheap..it was like $3 when I was a kid and that was 40 years ago..they probably don't want some weird "contest" thing I suppose..
DON'T ask the worst Christmas present I have ever seen anyone get..it's awful..
Ya, $5 is pretty low. Can you really buy anything for $5 anymore? I mean besides a box of cereal or a bag of M&M's? It should be $10-$12 and thats still cheap..it was like $3 when I was a kid and that was 40 years ago..they probably don't want some weird "contest" thing I suppose..
Youre right Janet,back when my boys were small,they were content with match box cars and witht he $5 limit you could buy 5,and gilrs liked little cheap necklaces. Things are just so high tech these days,if it doesnt have a battery or a plug, a remote control,its "old stuff" and useless~KIM
Firesign,
I have 3 kids, one is in 2nd and one in preschool and my little girl is at home with me. I know how it feels to see your child hurt and you just want to cry. Atleast he did something good and gave some other girl the present.
My son got a paint set with stamps for his present. But they didn't chose out of a hat. They just had to buy a present for less than 5 dollars and then they did some sort of exchange and if they didn't like their presents then they were allowed to trade.
It is kind of hard to find a toy for 5 dollars though. I just bought a puzzle. A gift certificate for McDonalds does sound like a good idea. I remember when I went to school and we could only spend 5 dollars, back then you could atleast get a decent present.
I am glad that you hugged your son and gave him a talk, I am sure it meant a lot to him.
I have 3 kids, one is in 2nd and one in preschool and my little girl is at home with me. I know how it feels to see your child hurt and you just want to cry. Atleast he did something good and gave some other girl the present.
My son got a paint set with stamps for his present. But they didn't chose out of a hat. They just had to buy a present for less than 5 dollars and then they did some sort of exchange and if they didn't like their presents then they were allowed to trade.
It is kind of hard to find a toy for 5 dollars though. I just bought a puzzle. A gift certificate for McDonalds does sound like a good idea. I remember when I went to school and we could only spend 5 dollars, back then you could atleast get a decent present.
I am glad that you hugged your son and gave him a talk, I am sure it meant a lot to him.
