well, i"ve just been totally crushed....my present was just replaced, without him knowing, nor I, obviously, by a man who has tried for 2 months to BE my supervisor...he wanted to be the boss of our section; two of us do not work for him; he got his own way, and yesterday called me into his office and threw paperwork at me; told me HE was now my supervisor; I was totally bewildered and asked that my supervisor and my boss be present for this meeting; he then threatened me by saying if I walked out that door he was going to write me up...well, i went and got my (then) supervisor; who was as surprised as the rest of us...anyways, long story short; i now work for this guy...he so doesnt like me...and i dont know what to do...last time i stayed and tried to make thiings "work" out, I got blitzed...ended up with the most horrible rating i have ever gotten in my career..so, i think im going to resign...have 6 months to be able to be reinstated...im really so scared...ive never resigned from anything...never have quit a job...but i cant face having to go through the kind of hell again i went through just awhile back...im so distraught...the grown up thing i think would be to gracefully resign and look for other work...im just so afraid
You know my story by now-
be careful before you voluntarily leave your job
if its only your pride- maybe swallow it while trying to find something else
Paying the bills really should come first. Unless your in a situation that you can get by for a long while , I would hang in there- but that's me
I also have had questionable reviews, but I also was fortunate to have the same boss and a great relationship in and out of work with the guy- as a matter a fact he tried to give up a % of his salary to keep me there-
The economy's is horrible - think hard before you act.- - then do what you need to do.
becareful,
muchpeace&respect
jack
Gotta go to my clinic now (6am) with 55 bucks-
talk later
be careful before you voluntarily leave your job
if its only your pride- maybe swallow it while trying to find something else
Paying the bills really should come first. Unless your in a situation that you can get by for a long while , I would hang in there- but that's me
I also have had questionable reviews, but I also was fortunate to have the same boss and a great relationship in and out of work with the guy- as a matter a fact he tried to give up a % of his salary to keep me there-
The economy's is horrible - think hard before you act.- - then do what you need to do.
becareful,
muchpeace&respect
jack
Gotta go to my clinic now (6am) with 55 bucks-
talk later
Hey Con, gotta agree with Jack. Heard the conomy is just as bad in Germany, so before you walk, look at your options. I suspect you fear that the conflict and discomfort may trigger you, but still, be careful.
I am currently working for a principal who replies to me with only the tersest of emails, avoids eye contact, and has only been to my classroom 3 times since September. Some things I said got back to her through a source I trusted, my department head who was a friend of 10 years, and she clearly does not want me here. I try to remind myself that I am not here for her, but for myself. I do the best job I can and continue to respond cheerfully to all requests. Sometimes it is discouraging to know that she doesn't want me but is 'stuck' with me as my particular specialty is difficult to fill and because I am well thought of in our school district...yesterday was especially difficult...but I am here for me.
Don't let him drive you away too quickly. If it doesn't work out after a while, then you've given it a fair shot. Continue to be cordial and professional and don't stoop to his level. When it becomes clear he is determined to drive you out, then rethink this.
Sorry this happening to you...you deserve much better.
Peace ~ M&M
I am currently working for a principal who replies to me with only the tersest of emails, avoids eye contact, and has only been to my classroom 3 times since September. Some things I said got back to her through a source I trusted, my department head who was a friend of 10 years, and she clearly does not want me here. I try to remind myself that I am not here for her, but for myself. I do the best job I can and continue to respond cheerfully to all requests. Sometimes it is discouraging to know that she doesn't want me but is 'stuck' with me as my particular specialty is difficult to fill and because I am well thought of in our school district...yesterday was especially difficult...but I am here for me.
Don't let him drive you away too quickly. If it doesn't work out after a while, then you've given it a fair shot. Continue to be cordial and professional and don't stoop to his level. When it becomes clear he is determined to drive you out, then rethink this.
Sorry this happening to you...you deserve much better.
Peace ~ M&M
Hey Con - WTF? Where do these wacko's come from? Please don't act on impulse. Give it a little thought before you act on anything. Sometimes circumstances change overnight. I've had about 13 bosses in 10 years. Whenever I get someone intolerable, I think to myself. "they come and they go" and I'm still here. He'll be gone soon. Don't give the creeper what he wants. Smile and make your plans whatever they may be. Don't let him get to you. If you do then he's won the battle. Good luck. It's Friday!
Hey Con so sorry to hear this is happening to you. But hang on girl. You are one tough bunny and this little creep won't get the best of you. Be good to yourself and think : This too shall pass!
I am in the same situation with my supervisor. I in fact did not sleep at all last night because of my supervisor. I would love to quit my job, but obviously i can't for financial reasons. But i did contact someone who knows my qualifications and hopefully he will recommend me to someone else.
Perhaps you should try doing that instead of just quitting and letting this creepy supervisor get the best of you! Talk to other people who may help you find a new job.
Cuz of the way i am feeling today, i did think of pot and i did tell myself i never got this depressed when i was smoking every single day. This being said, i haven't touch it and i won't touch it. It will only make matters worst.
You are alot stronger than you think. Something good will happen to you. Come and tell us when it happens.
Cheers!
I am in the same situation with my supervisor. I in fact did not sleep at all last night because of my supervisor. I would love to quit my job, but obviously i can't for financial reasons. But i did contact someone who knows my qualifications and hopefully he will recommend me to someone else.
Perhaps you should try doing that instead of just quitting and letting this creepy supervisor get the best of you! Talk to other people who may help you find a new job.
Cuz of the way i am feeling today, i did think of pot and i did tell myself i never got this depressed when i was smoking every single day. This being said, i haven't touch it and i won't touch it. It will only make matters worst.
You are alot stronger than you think. Something good will happen to you. Come and tell us when it happens.
Cheers!
Yaaah Fleur! Congrats. That is no small feat. Keep up the good work. Better days are coming! How do your lungs feel?
Hey Con, I agree with M+M. Think of the economy... There are like 5 jobs to every applicant. Yeah it sucks working with/for an a**, but it really sucks to not even have a paycheck. Don't be impulsive, ride it out. I know people get real sick of hearing this..but be glad for what you have.
Best of luck in this new "situation" you'll do fine, I'm sure, have a good weekend, take it easy.
Best of luck in this new "situation" you'll do fine, I'm sure, have a good weekend, take it easy.
Hey AliceP, thanks for the congrats. How are you doing? I guess my lungs are doing ok, but they would definitely would be doing better if i'd also quit the cigarette smoking. I've quit cigarettes many times before for months and years and somehow always started right back up for one reason or another, mainly stressed. However, i do promise myself i will give it up again. I'm just so stressed out right now with work and being stucked in this apartment for several weeks cuz of the bus strike in addition to having cold and hot flashes all the time (re: menopause grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr) that smoking cig is the only thing that's keeping me from not going totally nuts right now. I do think however that the Omega 3 is helping me with the feelings of depression. Thanks again for that advice.
Lynn77 - in regards to reading...have you read Permanent Midnight by John Stahl. I just finished it today. It's really good. Different but good. I'll try to see the movie.
Got to go outside now. Puppy's waiting.
Ciao
Lynn77 - in regards to reading...have you read Permanent Midnight by John Stahl. I just finished it today. It's really good. Different but good. I'll try to see the movie.
Got to go outside now. Puppy's waiting.
Ciao
when will i ever ever learn to quit trying to control everything...when will it sink in that everytime i try to take over, get my way, control...it always ends up a freaking mess...im trying to let go of this situation at work...let go and trust my HP..and its the hardest thing...im so worried....scared and anxious...but i stopped in today and asked my new supervisor if we could talk...he was good about it and we did talk a bit...and i actually felt better...im suppose to go and have a "real" meeting with him tommorow at 9:30...and then another meeting with the big boss at 1030...i am really nervous...and im really scared..but maybe if i just stop trying to get my own way...stop trying to control everything...stop being so afraid...well...we'll see...send some prayers if you all can...im going to try and let go...and hope that maybe then things might turn about a little...
Con
Con
Con, * * * * * * *
See there ya go !!
Just lighten up- -I guess the saying goes "accept the things you can not change"
Just ride it out- like you said -no need to be in control all the time (Im pretty much a control freak myself)
I have a feeling you are going to get along better with this deal then you thought.
Which isnt hard> because you didnt think you were going to get with this change at all
Hang tough- you,ve dealt with harder problems than this
allthebest,
jack(notGYAC) -LOL !!!
See there ya go !!
Just lighten up- -I guess the saying goes "accept the things you can not change"
Just ride it out- like you said -no need to be in control all the time (Im pretty much a control freak myself)
I have a feeling you are going to get along better with this deal then you thought.
Which isnt hard> because you didnt think you were going to get with this change at all
Hang tough- you,ve dealt with harder problems than this
allthebest,
jack(notGYAC) -LOL !!!
Con, how you doing?
not too good...not to be sitting on the pity pot or anythng, but...came home last night and just sat on the couch and cried...this is really getting to me...i cant seem to do anythng right....last night I said i thought that God must hate me...i think sometimes that he maybe just hates my whole family, or that my family is cursed...i just cant seem to have anything good last for me....everything gets taken away...everything...thought about my mom trying to cope without my dad for the last 6 years and why in the name of anything good should she have to suffer like this...my brother, my neice with CF...and me, just cant seem to get a break...not too good...understatement
Con-
I feel bad- when you feel bad
SO let it out * * * ( besides , I hate feeling bad- - or in my case worse)
You can get over anything - it frigging amazing the sh$t I,ve gotten over w/o dope - and man, If I could do it- - anyone can
patience&hope,
jack
I feel bad- when you feel bad
SO let it out * * * ( besides , I hate feeling bad- - or in my case worse)
You can get over anything - it frigging amazing the sh$t I,ve gotten over w/o dope - and man, If I could do it- - anyone can
patience&hope,
jack
thanks jack...your probably right and i need to get it all out, but right now i need to get home, do the wash, get some groceries and pick my wife up at 10:30....sunday i might have a little time to write it out here...yes im feeling really bad, but just those words you wrote today helped so much when i saw them....and M&M just asking...god, just knowing your all here sometimes helps more than anything....
Con, deep breaths...
You've made an awful lot of adjustments and changes this year. I mean your spouse is long-distance commuting, new boss, in recovery...whew, sister, that's a lot to think about...you're feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment, but this too shall pass.
I'm sure you are missing the day-to-dayness of having her home with you, to talk to, to commiserate with, to bounce things off of...it's tough to be together all that time and then *poof* you're on your own. On your own and staying clean, no less.
You have a great weekend with her and try to find some down-time to rest up and think clearly. Monday will still come, but it'll be in perspective.
Thinking 'bout ya ~ M&M
You've made an awful lot of adjustments and changes this year. I mean your spouse is long-distance commuting, new boss, in recovery...whew, sister, that's a lot to think about...you're feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment, but this too shall pass.
I'm sure you are missing the day-to-dayness of having her home with you, to talk to, to commiserate with, to bounce things off of...it's tough to be together all that time and then *poof* you're on your own. On your own and staying clean, no less.
You have a great weekend with her and try to find some down-time to rest up and think clearly. Monday will still come, but it'll be in perspective.
Thinking 'bout ya ~ M&M
Con...Ms....stick to yer guns...and as Jack&MnM said take it easy....deep breathes....enjoy the weekend with yer Mrs.....focus on the good things.......jobwise over here is a bit of a disaster.....my boss has sold his business to a right f***er.....so cutbacks are in the offiing....not next week but by late Summer.....so i will see if im gonna be unemployed....the house me Sian and my Ma live in has been paid for so no mortgage thank God,but the possibility of life on social welfare does not sit well.....they reckon the jobless will reach 400,000 by late this year.....thats 19% of Irelands workforce.....once upon a time i.e late 80s if ya had no prospect of a job,you always had the traditional Irish answer to unemployment....emmigrate....to the U.K or the U.S but even those options are closed as its a global downward spin....so its bad news for a lot of us ,so Con dearest relax,see what happens but dont let the begrudgers see ya down ,tough times.........Take it eze all..............Davey
Thanks guys...im still trudging through it...another meeting tommorow...we'll see were it goes...lots of restructuring going on...im grateful i had the weekend with my partner like you all said...it really helped and I felt better going in yesterday...Ive not made any huge descions yet...but im real tired of it all...oh well, i will keep you updated....BTW; anyone hear from Eck ? was thinking about him the other day and wondering how he was doing....
Just thinking about you this morning Con. I hope things are well.
