Oldie But Goodie

Alcohol
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Martin, perhaps the problem some of us have with your posts is that this is an alcohol recovery board not a psych board. We are learning to live in the solution, you are living in the problem. We are working the steps, (those of us in AA/NA) to let go of the past and you are dwelling on it. That's ok for you. That's what therapy is all about. For a lot of drunks that doesn't work. It causes us to drink. We have to move on. There's a saying...if I have one foot in the past and one foot in tomorrow I am pissing on today. We're all just trying to live in the here and now. Perhaps people take offense that you are in denial about your alcoholism or lack thereof. I don't know, Martin, I'm just throwing ideas out here. I'm not coming down on you, just trying to offer solutions. Those of us that have been around a while see you getting chummy with newcomers that are still very vulnerable and lacking self esteem. You shower them with compliments and thank them profusely for their words to you so they like you. Instead of listening to people with some sobriety time that can help them they listen to you telling them to take care of their inner child. Well, the only thing my inner child did for me is get me to feeling sorry for myself and get me drunk. I had to grow up as does every alcoholic because emotionally we are all in our early teens.
You wrote something about never hearing things in life that you hear here. You haven't been around AA very long. We can be a very out-spoken bunch. Old timers had no problem telling me where my thinking was off and I am grateful for them. We are pretty big on tough love. If one of my girls is acting in old behavior I have no problem telling them about it. It can save their lives. If it keeps someone from relapsing I have no problem telling them what I think. That's what I was taught and people telling me is what helped me stay sober.
I believe as long as you continue to dwell in the past and write about it here people are going to tell you what they think and you probably aren't going to like what they have to say. Like I said, it's time to get in the solution and get out of the problem.
Now the mods may lock the thread. I am sick and going back to bed.